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Would you be offended if your husband or S/O did this?

Posted by on Jan. 8, 2013 at 9:08 AM
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ok. i just want to vent. lately, i have been feeling really really gross and ugly. and things have really been getting to me lately. last night, me and hubby were having a conversation (i don't care to talk about what lol), but he tells me that sometimes when he is around his male coworkers, he points out the "beauty" of other women. you know i guess what is considered as guy talk. how big and nice their boobs look and their ass and all that crap. well, i felt like because his coworkers and other men he associates with are mostly single, he is not being appropiate around them as a married man. i mean, i don't think pointing out that a woman nice looking or attractive is a bad thing, because there are great looking people everywhere and of course better looking than me. what i don't like is him acting as if he thinks it's okay to gawk at other chicks and have a thing for them and have these fantasies about them. i don't do it and i don't get around my friends pointing out packages and how sexy men are...sure i notice that other men are attractive, but i mean really? i don't fantasize about screwing them and stuff. am i right about this, like would you be offended too or would you not care? could be the hormones ( i am 9 months pregnant), but don't sit well with me right now.

by on Jan. 8, 2013 at 9:08 AM
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by Gold Member on Jan. 8, 2013 at 9:32 PM


by Anonymous 1 on Jan. 8, 2013 at 9:35 PM
I was upset when my husband started working with a bunch of single guys and told me they do that too. I told him he should be setting an example of how a married man should act. He hasn't said anything about it since...
by on Jan. 8, 2013 at 9:37 PM
I would be upset about it.
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by BEXi on Jan. 8, 2013 at 9:39 PM
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by Platinum Member on Jan. 8, 2013 at 9:41 PM
Are you basing that he fantasizes and hawks just because he points that stuff out? Or he said he fantasizes about them?

I'd be hurt if my hubby told me he fantasize about other women, and I'd be pissed if he was gawking while I'm around... Otherwise I wouldn't be bothered.
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by Anonymous 2 on Jan. 8, 2013 at 9:41 PM

Could not get past the first couple of sentences, I wanted to throw up my husband would never say that (he is not a normal guy lol, he is a loner especially since he is in the military and those men really like to talk nasty according to dh so he usually goes off by himself since that isn't his style) Just thinking about that is making me upset for you and I'm NOT pregnant.

by on Jan. 8, 2013 at 9:41 PM
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um ... he said that he comments to his friends on the "beauty" of other women. He didn't say that he lusts over them and fantasizes about them. I think you are being extremely overly emotional. My DH who used to work with a group of "shop" guys who were all single used to comment "yeah, she is very pretty" when his co workers would make comments about women, but he never went above and beyond that (and I know this, because him and I even banter about which chick has a nicer ass, etc.). You should trust your husband to make good judgement ... just because he is around single men does not mean HE is being lude, and just because he comments on other women to his male friends, does NOT mean that he is thinking unholy thoughts about other women.

Take a chill pill :)

by on Jan. 8, 2013 at 9:41 PM
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Personally, it wouldn't bother me. But dh isn't like that anyhow. And if it DID bother me, he would be very, very careful not to do it out of respect for my feelings. But, like i said, its not an issue for us. I think the problem is, your dh knows you don't like it and still does it. That's disrespectful.
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by on Jan. 8, 2013 at 9:42 PM

I think it's just how men are. I was out with my fiance last night to go to the sports bar to watch football. His brother in law cam whom has a gf and the brother in laws married friend came. I was the only woman at the table. The married guy was looking at women all night and talking about porn and how his wife wouldn't watch it with him and talking about strip clubs etc...I don't care if my guy looks at porn but he doesn't. Anyway, that's what I heard all night. I think that just how guys are when they get together.

by Anonymous 3 on Jan. 8, 2013 at 9:42 PM
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Because he got married and stopped being a guy? I don't get it. As long as he isn't being disrespectful towards women why do you care? People think about the opposite sex. He thinks he can be open with you....that says a lot.

Feel icky about yourself? Do something about it.
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