sorry but i dont feel bad her baby died!!! edit, more to this story!!!
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my mother just told me about a woman she works with that just had a stillborn baby, she told me that everyone at work are putting together donations for the family and doing meals for them while they get stuff i order. its always sad when you hear that a baby has died but then my mother told me that the reason why the baby died was because the woman had refused an induction and c section because she wanted to let things happen on there own, even though the doctors told her that she would need to be induced. she was 12 days past her due date and her body was showing no sighs of going into labor. they had also told her that her baby was starting to show signs of distress but the woman still refused, she didn't want the scars from a c section and thought that if something was really wrong that she would go into labor!?
well that didn't happen, her baby died two days later and was delivered stillborn. naturally everyone is pretty upset about what happened and the loss of a sweet little boy, but my mom says she cant feel sorry for her because it was her own fault for not doing what the doctors said. normally i wouldn't agree with things but in this case i kinda almost feel the same way.
would you feel sorry for a woman if this happened to her or would you think it was her own fault?
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the lady had a midwife, not a normal doctor and was told that her baby could be in destress but going to the hospital was her choice because it didn't look that bad at the time. she could go and probably be induced or have a c section, or wait it out and see if she would go into labor on her own. i guess this was maybe Friday that she was told this and she choose to stay home, she finely went into labor Sunday but the baby was still born when she delivered Monday morning. this is being told by my moms boss who i personally know, i have made his kids birthday cakes and he called to ask if i would make one for the lady and her family.
its so sad that she could have maybe gone to the hospital on Friday and had her baby be born alive!?... maybe it was sudden and the baby just died right before it was born, i don't know. but I'm going to do a cake for them.
I'd still feel sorry for her for making the wrong decision for selfish reasons: Like not wanting a scar from the c-section and out of ignorance.
I would feel sorry for her.While you dont agree with her choices. I dont understand how you can not feel bad for her. her child died. That is the plain simple truth. Its heartbreaking for anyone that happens to. She is probably a CM mommy that read all the BS posts about C sections here.
Of course I feel bad for her. I'm sure if she could change her decision now, she would. She's probably going to spend the rest of her life feeling guilty, even without others judging her.
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