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What do you think? Is it wrong to pierce a baby's ears?

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Parents Who Pierce Their Baby's Ears Are Just Plain Cruel

Posted by The Stir Bloggers on January 8, 2013 

little earEarlier this morning, I came across a discussion over the argument of whether or not to pierce a baby's ears. A disgruntled reader wrote to the Dear Mary Ann column at the Pittsburgh Post Gazette voicing her opinion on the issue -- she thinks it's borderline child abuse.

And you know what? I think I have to agree with her on this one. Because piercing a baby girl's ears not only seems mean and cruel to me -- it also just seems so vain and unnecessary.

Here you have this perfect little angel who is sugar and spice and everything nice -- and you want to go pierce two tiny holes through her earlobes and cause her pain simply because you think she'll look cute in a pair of heart-shaped studs?

Yes, I know putting it that way sounds a little bit extreme, but it's a pretty accurate description. 

My mother took me to get my ears pierced when I was in the fourth grade, I believe -- and I still remember how bad it hurt when that piercing gun went through my skin. And I also remember what a pain it was to keep my earlobes clean and to turn the earrings every day so the holes wouldn't close up.

If it was that bad for a fourth grader (who willingly got her ears pierced), I can't even imagine what a drag having pierced ears must be for a baby.

And that brings us to the whole problem of ear pulling. Aren't parents afraid that their poor baby girls are going to reach up to itch the fresh wounds on their earlobes -- only to accidentally pull out the earring and hurt themselves further in the process? (It could happen.) Or what if they get infected?

I know it's fun to have a little girl and dress her up and all that, but piercing her ears before she even knows how to stand up just seems so ridiculous to me, in addition to being pretty inhumane.

Heck, it's bad enough when we have to take our babies to the doctor to get a shot, and that's necessary for their health. Why on earth would ANY parent subject their little one to having needles stuck in her for the sake of vanity?

What do you think? Is it wrong to pierce a baby's ears?

by on Jan. 8, 2013 at 2:39 PM
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by Ruby Member on Jan. 8, 2013 at 2:45 PM
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Yes I think it's wrong. My dd will get her ears pierced when she's old enough to ask for them herself.
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by on Jan. 8, 2013 at 2:45 PM

 No.  Both of my dd's had their ears pierced at 4 months.  One (20 y/o)  wears earrings now and the other one (18 y/o) doesn't. 

by on Jan. 8, 2013 at 2:45 PM
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Yes it is. Just like circumcision is wrong. I do not have the right to permenantly alter my child's body for cosmetic purposes. 

by on Jan. 8, 2013 at 2:46 PM

nope, my parents didnt do mine and I wish they had.

by Sapphire Member on Jan. 8, 2013 at 2:47 PM
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It's not done in my social circle. It looks trashy.
by on Jan. 8, 2013 at 2:48 PM
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No, I don't think it's wrong. My mom had mine done when I was a baby, and I (apparently slept through the whole thing). I had a second hole done when I was a teen, and I know it hurt, but it wasn't bad. And the pain didn't last. I took my DD not too long ago (she's 5yrs) and told her it would hurt, but only for a few seconds (like getting a shot). She did it, teared up, and then was fine.

Not all babies pull their ears. Not all pierced ears will get infected. Sure, making sure I clean my DD's earrings 3x a day can be a pain sometimes, but it's not such a huge inconvenience. Literally takes 1 minute (so 3 minutes a day). I waited until she was old enough to decide for herself (and she actually said, "I wish you had done this when I was a baby."). 

I think it should be left up to the parent to decide. Just like vaccinations and breastfeeding/formula feeding and CIO and co-sleeping.....what works for one family may not work for another family.

by Angela on Jan. 8, 2013 at 2:48 PM
Agreed my daughter is 7 and doesn't have hers pierced. And she wont until she is old enough to understand that it will hurt. And be responsible enough to care for them herself.
by Platinum Member on Jan. 8, 2013 at 2:48 PM

 I let DD pick when she wanted it done. She got her frist hole at 5 years old and her second hole at 7 years old.

by on Jan. 8, 2013 at 2:49 PM
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 who wrote this? they can go eff themselves. i got my daughters ears pierced when she was 3 months old, the kid slept thru the whole thing, didnt even budge. I was sweating bullets the whole time. and she had never messed with them. if anything, it gets expensive! she is always wanting new earrings. the child has over 100 pairs! its not cruel and there are a lot of cultures that do far worse. this person that wrote this sounds like a complete idiot. maybe she's bitter because she couldnt afford to get her DDs ears done. un-freaking-believable. and she looks cute as hell here is a pic:

with her super cute pumpkin earrings!

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by Gold Member on Jan. 8, 2013 at 2:49 PM
I did it to both my girls one at 7mths the other at 3mths. Neither of them cried in pain, I think the sound scared them more but as soon as I cuddled them they were fine, I cleaned them daily and neither had issues my 2yr old still hss her original earrings in and I clean them once a month, my 6yr old can take hers out but knows to keep them cleaned. I don't see it as child abuse I did it young to prevent them from messing with them and getting infected. Or change their mind and habe the holes close up then it being more difficult because of scar tissue.
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