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HELP my Step Son is out of control!. *New update in orange. DSS is going to juvy*

Posted by Anonymous   + Show Post

 My DSS is 17 years old, I married his father when DSS was 13 and hes always been a pain in the rear end but this past year his own mother told my husband she can not handle him anymore and asked if we would let him move in with us. Around my DH DSS is an angel,
But at school, Around just me, Around my kids i cant trust him at all!!!!

okay where to start, DSS is an expecting father but he refuses to be involved in his ex's life, She is 16 years old and is currently 29 weeks pregnant she decided to give the baby up for adoption which was my advice. DSS is failing all his classes because he doesnt go to school. He is smoking weed, drinking and taking perscription pills. Next, Around me he gives me NO respect. Hes threatend my life and I am much younger then my DH so i am only 29 and DSS has made it clear to me that he finds me sexually attractive. The other night when DH was out of town on bussiness DSS came home and i was bfing my 10 month old son and DSS made some rude joke about how he wished that my breast was in his mouth instead then he laughed and went upstairs to his room. I laid my son down in his room and when i came out DSS was standing there in my doorway blocking it. He made a grab for my breasts and said c'mon my little brother can have them and i cant. I told him if he didnt leave me alone i would be calling his father. My dh laughed at me when i told him this because he thinks i am making it up since its obvious I do not want him there. Than i was grocery shopping and DH texted me saying he was leaving our baby at home with DSS since he had to run to work and i raced home to find the baby locked in his room. DSS was playing video games downstairs with his buddies drinking beer and said that the baby kept trying to grab the controllers. My baby was SCREAMING so hard that when i got to him he was shaking and red. I couldnt believe DH left him there alone with his son. Anyways like i said DH wont believe me and its almost to the point where I am saying its me, our baby or his son.. I hate giving him that choice but I dont know what else to do i am scared that this boy is going to literally try and rape me sometime in my sleep. I fear being in my own house. He has also threatend my life quite a few times and the girl who he got pregnant she said he used to hit/slap her all the time. STILL DH wont listen. What do i dooooo :(

okay, So I ordered some spy cams they will be here thursday, but my husband is going out of town for a week which i was nervous about staying here alone with DSS for that long. But as a few of you pointed out he was testing the water which really freaks me out. So as advice from another mom I am staying in a hotel until the spy cam things get there and I will get my evidence leave, and let Dh watch them. Hopefully DH will open his eyes then. I will update whenever i can.

Apperantly my DSS thinks i am a dumb blonde, he called me in the middle of the night saying he needed me to come home right away, when i asked why he said something was broken and he couldnt figure out what. So i was like okay well what do you THINK it is. and he said something with the plumbing, This made me laugh almost like I know anything about plumbing!!!! So i said nice try if something is really wrong i will call a plumber in the morning... then he cussed a bunch called me a cold hearted bitch because he needed hot water or something. and i hung up. Sorry kid i am not coming home for something like that as far as i know it could be a trick and again... What would i know about plumbing :/  

Okay, so I got the cameras. Called the school to make sure he was in class went to my poor house which is a MESS! :( and now i am setting them up and ill probably do some cleaning before he comes home..... my poor house theres alcohol/beer bottles everywhere I even found a girls bra in MY bed :/ So i am washing my sheets right now YUCK why do kids find it fun to sleep with people in there parents rooms? ill update after i get all the evidence i need.

So, DSS came home for lunch he had his friends with him so of course all he did was be rude to me. But his face LIT up when he realized that i would be there without my baby today. So, he came back about twenty minutes later :/
I was scrubbing the kitchen counters and he made a comment about how he loves watching me bending over the counter like that. To which i glared at him and ignored. Than, he walked closer and just STOOD there. So i told him to back off and get back to school he laughed at me and said he would rather be here with me. I tried pushing past him and of course it didnt take long before he was all over me *this is the first time we had EVER been alone.* but little did he know I had my phone open on the counter with my friend on the line who was right down the street. So i kept saying NO and pushing him off he got really rough even slapped me than before I knew it my friend was in the house yelling and screaming at him to get off.. SOOOOO i am totally freaked, but I am safe and even better I have the evidence. I left the house and I am back at the hotel i am totally shaking If it werent for my friend there was NO way i would have been able to get away from him he was SO much stronger than me. it really freaks me out that the FIRST chance he got to do that he took it. So i am feeling sick to my stomach DH isnt answering and I dont even care to know SS is doing back at the house :/

Ok, so after DH got to the hotel he watched about 4 seconds of the video before he broke down. He cried for hours apologizing and saying how much he wished it wasnt true so much that he chose not to see it. After talking we decided to call the cops so we showed up at the house to SS drinking with his friends. SS had the most freaked expression he KNEW he had been caught so DSS pulled the whole feel bad for me its your fault cause you were never around to DH and said that i had started it. to which DH replied with showing him the video SS tried to run but the cops were waiting for him. So two weeks in juvy than he comes home but court will probably mandate therapy sooo i think HOPE this thing is over

Posted by Anonymous on Jan. 8, 2013 at 5:46 PM
Replies (41-50):
Momma182
by Bronze Member on Jan. 8, 2013 at 6:20 PM
I'm sorry. Try recording it
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Fatal_Frost
by on Jan. 8, 2013 at 6:21 PM
You and your baby are not safe around someone so unstable... it would not be worth it to me to stay, to risk your own safety along with your child's, maybe you leaving would snap your dh into getting him the professional help he needs... leaving doesn't have to be permanent, but long enough to know your stepson is getting help for his issues...
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Anonymous
by Anonymous on Jan. 8, 2013 at 6:22 PM

Hidden cameras/voice recorders.  Call the cops.

Anonymous
by Anonymous on Jan. 8, 2013 at 6:22 PM

Nanny cam!!!

Anonymous
by Anonymous on Jan. 8, 2013 at 6:22 PM
Make police reports before you leave him.If not he could go for custody of the child.If you can prove what is going on in the home then he won't get crap
Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Jan. 8, 2013 at 6:22 PM

it really is. I hate it before DSS moved in our life was perfect, I had no marriage issues, I had to deal with DSS crap every other weekend but that was different i could send him home and he NEVER pulled anything he might of made a comment or something but never did he attempt anything back then. I just thought he was obnoxious then now.... 

Quoting Anonymous:

That is so sad you can.not trust your own DH alone with the baby.


Quoting Anonymous:

 Oh i learned my lesson on leaving the baby there with DH alone. Even if its just for a shower I have DS in the johnny jump up in the doorway. I dont leave that baby alone with anyone but me.


Quoting MommyAddie:

I would leave, at least for the time being. Also, it it was me, I wouldn't let dh have the baby without me there for fear he would trust DSS a little too much with the baby.

 


 

NewMamaBoo
by Platinum Member on Jan. 8, 2013 at 6:24 PM

Report his ass

Sassy762
by CAFE SASSY HBIC on Jan. 8, 2013 at 6:25 PM

2 Words..............NANNY CAM

in every freaking room. SHOW DH what an ASS DSS 

wildlilacs
by on Jan. 8, 2013 at 6:25 PM
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Tell your dh you WILL NOT live like this. If he resuses to see/admit there are major problems, you wont be nice anymore, next time he touches you or threatens you you will call the cops then he must do something. Dh KNOWS there are problems, thats why x sent ss away. It is bad enough to issue dh an ultimatum
If ss touches you in any way, it is assalt by contact. Next time you walk into your home and there is pot and underage drinking, walk out, dont say anything, call cops.
Yes, you dont want ss to go to jail but sometimes its the only way. Someone must stand up to him.
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Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Jan. 8, 2013 at 6:25 PM

thats what i have been thinking. I am just so nervous since DH is out of town for a whole week... I ordered some spy cam things and they will be here in two days but i dont know if I can stay here alone with him that long without DH. Hes never done anything to my baby in fact hes rather good with him when im there and can watch everything he just wont watch him which i dont want him to anyways. So i really dont think he would hurt the baby, Me i dont know.. 

Quoting Fatal_Frost:

You and your baby are not safe around someone so unstable... it would not be worth it to me to stay, to risk your own safety along with your child's, maybe you leaving would snap your dh into getting him the professional help he needs... leaving doesn't have to be permanent, but long enough to know your stepson is getting help for his issues...

 

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