I can not for the life of me get my kids (10 and 11 year old boys) to do anything around the house. Their room is a disaster area, they throw their clothes, back pack and shoes down when they come in from school. I have taken everything I can think of away from them, they don't seem to care. If they sat looking at a wall all evening, as long as they didn't have to actually get up and do anything, they would be perfectly happy. The 11 year old is the most whiney kid I have ever met. I mean everything is a disaster!! From not being able to find his shoes to getting dressed in the morning. The 10 year old is just different. I am thinking maybe he is either bipolar or something along those lines. One minute he's the most loving and helpful child to raging because I have asked him to pick his socks up or feed the cat. I have an appointment set up with his pedi to see what's wrong or have him referred somewhere that can help explain why his moods swing like they do. Like I said, taking every fun thing they have away does no good. We don't have TV, so they don't sit in front of it at all. I give them supervised time on the computer if they help out, but they don't even seem to care about that like they used to. I have even threatened to take away their after school activities if they didn't straighten up. I am disabled. I can only do so much. I do what I can when I can. I cook and keep the kitchen cleaned up daily, the bathroom at least once a week and keep the laundry done. I will pick up the living room when I can, but doing the other things is pushing it for me. I literally feel like I'm going to have a heart attack sometimes while washing dishes and sweeping and mopping the kitchen floor.
I have made chore charts to help keep them on track, I have begged and pleaded, I have taken everything away, I have rewarded when they actually do accomplish something. I don't know what to do anymore. Dh is about useless around the house because "he's the man, he works for a living" Ugh. Yet he knows I'm sick but complains sometimes when the house is messy. I feel like a failure as a wife and mother. :( I'm mostly venting, but if anyone has any ideas that might get them to help out more, it would be appreciated. I'm seriously about to give up and commit myself.