I am 22 years old and my husband is 23, our first baby is due July 1, 2013. I am so excited, but I am also in knots about family wanting to "help" me... I understand that I'll probably be tired and want some help but all of our family lives out of town and they are all talking about flying in for when it's born and staying with us...We have a 1 1/2 bedroom apartment and my husband isn't always very vocal about things. So if other people were constantly holding our baby he might just stay in the background.
My goal is also to breastfeed, which I understand is totally natural but it still makes me a little uncomfortable to think of people watching me breastfeed. Is it reasonable to want people to wait a week or two after our baby is born before they come visit? It's mainly my mom, his mom, his sisters, and their families. But I just want to make sure we have the time to get to know our child, give our two dogs time to adjust....I just don't know how to put this across without hurting people's feelings. Especially, since in his family lots of times the grandparents will be in the room for the birth and I don't want anyone in there but my husband. I love our families very much.....but how do I avoid the over "helping" without hurting feelings?