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is this way out of line to ask? Update in BLUE

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*****Yes the dogs are mine, but they are just as much mine as they are my dads.  When i moved out, my dad didnt want to part with them or split them up.  Also two of them are older dogs, my yorkie is ten and my shep/ab mix is 9. 

 

I have three dogs that live with my parents.  (a shep/lab, cocker spaniel and a yorkie) they are great dogs, they get along with people and eachother.  They adore all of us too.  And my dad is a mush, he treats thm like they are his other children. 

anyways, my brother and sil want to ttc she just had a miscarriage but she def wants to try again sooner rather than later.  they live with my parents in the basement apartment.  the dogs do NOT go down there to the basement apartment. 

my sil isnt an animal lover.  she asked my brother to ask our parents if they would reconsider rehoming th dogs so that when they do have a baby she wouldnt have to worry about the three of them not accepting the baby.  my brother mentioned it to my dad and i agree with my dad. he told him hell no, if you are that concerned move out.  now my mom is split down the middle. she goes back and forth on how to feel.

is it just me or was that really messed up of her to ask to get rid of the dogs, all of them we had since puppies. 

***ETA***  my dad is still sticking to his guns.  my mom said shes staying out of it.  its between them.  i told my dad that my boyfriend and i can take on the dogs and my dad said no, that they are staying where they are.  and if it ever did come down to that i better make room for my dad because he doesnt want to let the dogs go.  my sil hasnt spoken to my parents now in a few days and because she hasnt my brother hasnt made an attempt to speak to them either.  i think thats why my mom is going back and forth, she doesnt want to see her kids mad at her. 

 

*****UPDATE***** My sil went crying to my mom saying how she wants my parents to be a part of the babies life when its here.  but with three dogs she wont be able to bring the baby around.  she doesnt trust dogs around young kids and infants.  so she cried, to my mother who caved in and said she will do what she can. so my mom brought it up to my dad today and my dad laughed and said that my mom can move in with them when they get a new place away from the dogs.  my dad also made it clear that letting them move into the basement apartment was to help them save up $ and get on their feet.  not to stay there forever and make it their own.   my dads done with kids in the house, he raised his.  both my brother and sil arent speaking to my dad.  they didnt even wish him a happy birthday over this. 

Update:  My brother told my mom that if they move out under these circumcstances that he talked to his wife and they agreed my family and i will have no contact with their future children.  how fucked up is that? so my mom doesnt want that to happen and she and my dad are at eachothers throats over the dogs.

 

my brother and my dad had a sit down talk today. my brother is defending his wifes wishes.  so my dad told him maybe its time for them to look for their own place.  then my brother drops the bomb on them, my sil quit her job a week after her miscarriage.  she hasnt returned to work.  they can afford to pay my parents rent because its so cheap, but not rent elsewhere.  shes looking for a job, and under my brothers insurance and all.  so my dad said well you have a few choices, tell her to take any job and get out of the house, stay here, and accept that if you have a baby, the dogs stay, or keep it wrapped up til you get out on your own becaise im not changing my mind over this.  crazy crazy!

by on Jan. 9, 2013 at 2:01 AM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Jan. 9, 2013 at 2:10 AM
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no more out of line than you having you Parents care for & home your dogs

LADYxGHOST
by on Jan. 9, 2013 at 2:10 AM
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It doesn't hurt to ask her who the hell she thinks she is.  You mom probably is worried they will move out and she won't see her future grandchild.  If YOUR parents agreed to take care of the dogs and have added them to their family, then she has no right to suggest they remove them.  Not her home.  My in-laws took care of my dogs for awhile when we had to move to a place that didn't allow pets due to DH work.  When there daughter got mad and told them to get rid of the dogs because she didn't like them, my fil told her she didn't have to visit.  He grew attached to the little guys.  When I moved and got them back, he always asked about them and waned me to bring them with his "other" grandchildren to visit. 

gemikris82
by on Jan. 9, 2013 at 2:10 AM


Quoting Anonymous:

no more out of line than you having you Parents care for & home your dogs


there all of our dogs.  my dad would never let me take them.

lovelove211
by Platinum Member on Jan. 9, 2013 at 2:11 AM
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If they're your dogs, why don't they live with you?
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by Anonymous 3 on Jan. 9, 2013 at 2:11 AM
I would say no to your SIL unless she owned the house.
My MIL refused to put her dog out or in another room when we came over. We are dog people, but her dog kept trying to visciously bite my baby, and I would have to hold my son above shoulder level the entire time we were at their house while the dog jumped on me snarling and snapping at my newborn. My MIL would just say that her dog was sweet and didnt mean it. So I know my Mil would agree with your dad too. On a positive note, the dog now seems to be over this psycho period.
AF2011
by Ruby Member on Jan. 9, 2013 at 2:12 AM
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I agree with your dad! 

Anonymous
by Anonymous 4 on Jan. 9, 2013 at 2:12 AM
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That's crap. I had three dogs when I lived with my mom, I grew up and moved out, she kept them because they're old and that was their home. They're still my dogs though.

Quoting Anonymous:

no more out of line than you having you Parents care for & home your dogs

BamaMomto4
by Silver Member on Jan. 9, 2013 at 2:12 AM
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She is out of line. If the dogs were allowed in the basement a reasonable request would be to keep them out. It would also be reasonable request that the dogs are not allowed around any future baby unsupervised until the child and the dogs can all be trusted to not hurt each other.
gemikris82
by on Jan. 9, 2013 at 2:13 AM


Quoting elzingah36:

IMO it is way out of line to ask. I hope your father sticks to his guns and keeps his foot down. Are they your dogs or your parents?.I'm a little confused who the dogs belong to.


all of us.  i had them since they were puppies, the oldest two are 9 and 10 and one is 4.  when i moved out my dad wouldnt let me tak them all and he wont let me split them up, since they are all buddies

KeiraRose
by on Jan. 9, 2013 at 2:13 AM

Yeah that;s out of line and I totally agree with you and your dad.

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