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is this way out of line to ask? Update in BLUE

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*****Yes the dogs are mine, but they are just as much mine as they are my dads.  When i moved out, my dad didnt want to part with them or split them up.  Also two of them are older dogs, my yorkie is ten and my shep/ab mix is 9. 

 

I have three dogs that live with my parents.  (a shep/lab, cocker spaniel and a yorkie) they are great dogs, they get along with people and eachother.  They adore all of us too.  And my dad is a mush, he treats thm like they are his other children. 

anyways, my brother and sil want to ttc she just had a miscarriage but she def wants to try again sooner rather than later.  they live with my parents in the basement apartment.  the dogs do NOT go down there to the basement apartment. 

my sil isnt an animal lover.  she asked my brother to ask our parents if they would reconsider rehoming th dogs so that when they do have a baby she wouldnt have to worry about the three of them not accepting the baby.  my brother mentioned it to my dad and i agree with my dad. he told him hell no, if you are that concerned move out.  now my mom is split down the middle. she goes back and forth on how to feel.

is it just me or was that really messed up of her to ask to get rid of the dogs, all of them we had since puppies. 

***ETA***  my dad is still sticking to his guns.  my mom said shes staying out of it.  its between them.  i told my dad that my boyfriend and i can take on the dogs and my dad said no, that they are staying where they are.  and if it ever did come down to that i better make room for my dad because he doesnt want to let the dogs go.  my sil hasnt spoken to my parents now in a few days and because she hasnt my brother hasnt made an attempt to speak to them either.  i think thats why my mom is going back and forth, she doesnt want to see her kids mad at her. 

 

*****UPDATE***** My sil went crying to my mom saying how she wants my parents to be a part of the babies life when its here.  but with three dogs she wont be able to bring the baby around.  she doesnt trust dogs around young kids and infants.  so she cried, to my mother who caved in and said she will do what she can. so my mom brought it up to my dad today and my dad laughed and said that my mom can move in with them when they get a new place away from the dogs.  my dad also made it clear that letting them move into the basement apartment was to help them save up $ and get on their feet.  not to stay there forever and make it their own.   my dads done with kids in the house, he raised his.  both my brother and sil arent speaking to my dad.  they didnt even wish him a happy birthday over this. 

Update:  My brother told my mom that if they move out under these circumcstances that he talked to his wife and they agreed my family and i will have no contact with their future children.  how fucked up is that? so my mom doesnt want that to happen and she and my dad are at eachothers throats over the dogs.

 

my brother and my dad had a sit down talk today. my brother is defending his wifes wishes.  so my dad told him maybe its time for them to look for their own place.  then my brother drops the bomb on them, my sil quit her job a week after her miscarriage.  she hasnt returned to work.  they can afford to pay my parents rent because its so cheap, but not rent elsewhere.  shes looking for a job, and under my brothers insurance and all.  so my dad said well you have a few choices, tell her to take any job and get out of the house, stay here, and accept that if you have a baby, the dogs stay, or keep it wrapped up til you get out on your own becaise im not changing my mind over this.  crazy crazy!

by on Jan. 9, 2013 at 2:01 AM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous on Jan. 9, 2013 at 3:11 AM
i agree with your dad if she is that concerned they need to find their own place. Since it is your parents home its inconsiderate to think they are more important then the dogs
USMCwife0530
by on Jan. 9, 2013 at 3:11 AM

This. And yes, she was outta line.

Quoting Sassy762:

Why don"t the dogs live with you??


gemikris82
by on Jan. 9, 2013 at 3:12 AM


Quoting USMCwife0530:

This. And yes, she was outta line.

Quoting Sassy762:

Why don"t the dogs live with you??

 

there my dads dogs too.  he would never let me take them from him.

2010mommyDl
by on Jan. 9, 2013 at 3:17 AM
My cousin try the same crap with my aunts cat when his daughter was born she put his ass out if it helps any now he's happily married with his own home two more children n no pets lol
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lovelove211
by Platinum Member on Jan. 9, 2013 at 3:19 AM
Oh ok. Well then I understand their point of view on it


Quoting gemikris82:



Quoting lovelove211:

If they're your dogs, why don't they live with you?


my dad wouldnt let me take them.  they are his too, they are our family pets. 


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bcauseimthemom
by Ruby Member on Jan. 9, 2013 at 3:25 AM

It is really messed up of her to think you father should get rid of his pets because she is trying to have a baby.  He is right, if she is that worried, maybe they should grow up and move out of the basement and into their own place.  I hope your dad stands his ground and your mom sees the light of the insanity of your brother and his wife.

gemikris82
by on Jan. 9, 2013 at 3:27 AM


Quoting tossed:

If they are your dogs, why are they living with your parents? I can understand her concern. We read article after article about dogs not accepting the new baby, attacking the baby (there was one on CM last night), etc. The "hell no" response makes it sound like he is putting the dogs over a grandchild. If the dogs are not your parents' dogs, your bil and sil have not had them since they were puppies. I can see both sides, but I tend to agree with her. 

they are my dads dogs too.  i watned to take 2 of them with me when i moved out and my dad wouldnt let me, he thought it would be cruel to remove them from a home they knew and split them up. and my dad loves them as if they were children so he would never give any of them up. 

gemikris82
by on Jan. 9, 2013 at 3:28 AM


Quoting bcauseimthemom:

It is really messed up of her to think you father should get rid of his pets because she is trying to have a baby.  He is right, if she is that worried, maybe they should grow up and move out of the basement and into their own place.  I hope your dad stands his ground and your mom sees the light of the insanity of your brother and his wife.


my dads definitly standing in his ground.  hes at the point in life where hed rather have dogs around than my mom and brother. 

opinionatedmom
by Platinum Member on Jan. 9, 2013 at 3:28 AM
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 if you are generous to open your house to them, you shouldn't tell them to get rid of thier dogs. she needs to quit being a spoiled brat or move out and suck it up. hell she isn't even preggo yet. they may be on their own by the time she is preggo. if not they need to arrange it before the baby is born. she would be told to kiss my ass and get out. it is his house his rules not hers.

sheramom4
by Ruby Member on Jan. 9, 2013 at 3:28 AM
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She is out of line and projecting her fear or dislike of animals onto the situation. If she does not want pets around her future children then they should make sure they have moved before they have a baby and then have no pets, but you dn't attempt to get rid of someone else's pets because you might have a baby. SMH.

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