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is this way out of line to ask? Update in BLUE

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*****Yes the dogs are mine, but they are just as much mine as they are my dads.  When i moved out, my dad didnt want to part with them or split them up.  Also two of them are older dogs, my yorkie is ten and my shep/ab mix is 9. 

 

I have three dogs that live with my parents.  (a shep/lab, cocker spaniel and a yorkie) they are great dogs, they get along with people and eachother.  They adore all of us too.  And my dad is a mush, he treats thm like they are his other children. 

anyways, my brother and sil want to ttc she just had a miscarriage but she def wants to try again sooner rather than later.  they live with my parents in the basement apartment.  the dogs do NOT go down there to the basement apartment. 

my sil isnt an animal lover.  she asked my brother to ask our parents if they would reconsider rehoming th dogs so that when they do have a baby she wouldnt have to worry about the three of them not accepting the baby.  my brother mentioned it to my dad and i agree with my dad. he told him hell no, if you are that concerned move out.  now my mom is split down the middle. she goes back and forth on how to feel.

is it just me or was that really messed up of her to ask to get rid of the dogs, all of them we had since puppies. 

***ETA***  my dad is still sticking to his guns.  my mom said shes staying out of it.  its between them.  i told my dad that my boyfriend and i can take on the dogs and my dad said no, that they are staying where they are.  and if it ever did come down to that i better make room for my dad because he doesnt want to let the dogs go.  my sil hasnt spoken to my parents now in a few days and because she hasnt my brother hasnt made an attempt to speak to them either.  i think thats why my mom is going back and forth, she doesnt want to see her kids mad at her. 

 

*****UPDATE***** My sil went crying to my mom saying how she wants my parents to be a part of the babies life when its here.  but with three dogs she wont be able to bring the baby around.  she doesnt trust dogs around young kids and infants.  so she cried, to my mother who caved in and said she will do what she can. so my mom brought it up to my dad today and my dad laughed and said that my mom can move in with them when they get a new place away from the dogs.  my dad also made it clear that letting them move into the basement apartment was to help them save up $ and get on their feet.  not to stay there forever and make it their own.   my dads done with kids in the house, he raised his.  both my brother and sil arent speaking to my dad.  they didnt even wish him a happy birthday over this. 

Update:  My brother told my mom that if they move out under these circumcstances that he talked to his wife and they agreed my family and i will have no contact with their future children.  how fucked up is that? so my mom doesnt want that to happen and she and my dad are at eachothers throats over the dogs.

 

my brother and my dad had a sit down talk today. my brother is defending his wifes wishes.  so my dad told him maybe its time for them to look for their own place.  then my brother drops the bomb on them, my sil quit her job a week after her miscarriage.  she hasnt returned to work.  they can afford to pay my parents rent because its so cheap, but not rent elsewhere.  shes looking for a job, and under my brothers insurance and all.  so my dad said well you have a few choices, tell her to take any job and get out of the house, stay here, and accept that if you have a baby, the dogs stay, or keep it wrapped up til you get out on your own becaise im not changing my mind over this.  crazy crazy!

by on Jan. 9, 2013 at 2:01 AM
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MammaKoi
by on Feb. 5, 2013 at 5:42 PM
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Holy crap that's a lot going on. I'd put them out on there ass just for asking to get rid of the dogs and using both your parents against eachother and then threatening to not let anyone have contact with the baby or future child. Boy they need to grow up and big time, time to put on your big boy and big girl pants and deal with things. 

TAG_ur_it
by Platinum Member on Feb. 5, 2013 at 7:56 PM
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good for him for putting his foot down and keeping it down.  your brother and SIL are freeloading idiots. 

poietes
by Platinum Member on Feb. 5, 2013 at 8:17 PM
Sil is nuts, go dad.
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BerryBoo
by on Feb. 24, 2013 at 7:36 AM
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I <3 your Dad... Lol, WOW what a crazy situation, I can understand to an extent being concerned w/dogs around babies, but HELLO she took this way to far in  my opinion, esp. considering the situation. Is she going to inform ALL friends and family that if they want a part in her future kids' lives they must either give up their pets or never have her and her kids visit????

Dewinter
by Silver Member on Feb. 24, 2013 at 7:53 AM

 Good for your dad!!! and your brother is a jerk, he and his wife are 2 of a kind!

MicheleJM
by Phoenix on Feb. 24, 2013 at 7:57 AM

It's a stupid argument on both sides...but I'm on your dad's side.  I used to own dogs, they didn't have a problem with the children.  And...it's his house, his rules.  With proper training the dogs would be fine around the babies or they can go in the yard when the babies are not in the apartment.  It's is crazy crazy.

tntmomof2
by Platinum Member on Feb. 24, 2013 at 7:59 AM

Your brother and SIL have no business trying to have a baby in their situation. They are nowhere near ready for a baby. 

Your dad ROCKS!!! 

bethgoedeken
by Silver Member on Feb. 24, 2013 at 9:25 AM

whatever happened with this?

missymackie
by Mrs. Dixon on Feb. 24, 2013 at 11:19 AM
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