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People who own cars just don't get it!

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4 days a week I get up early and take my son to preschool in the town below us. We get on the bus at 6:35 am and get to town at 7 and wait in a nearby grocery store until just before school starts at 8. My son goes to Head Start and every day when he gets dropped off he has to wash his hands and have a "health check" from one of the teachers before I can leave him. I am lucky enough there is a bus headed back up the hill right in front of his school at 8:05 am. Usually I am fast enough that I can get on that bus and head home, getting here at about 8:30 depending on who's driving. If I miss that bus I might as well not go home at all because the next one isn't until 10:30 and I would be getting home just in time to turn around and go back to pick him up. (Now to my vent, lol.) This morning my son was being a complete brat and didn't want to wash his hands ect. and I was trying to get him to get moving so I wouldn't miss the bus. His teacher told me to let it go that he would decide to listen when he's ready. I reminded her I take the bus and that I didn't want to miss it. She just gave me kind of a blank look and said I could just take the next one. I'm NOT going to kiss his ass just because he is having one of "those" kind of days and doesn't want to do what he knows he is supposed to be doing! She doesn't want me force him to listen, she wants me to just block him from getting to the toys and wait. She believes children should be "guided into making the right choice." If I were to put him on time out/spank him for not listening I bet she would have a freakin heart attack! Why do people not understand that I don't make my own schedule! I can't just jump up and leave whenever the hell I decide I'm ready! If I miss that bus I sit in town for 4 and half hours! Ugh!
Posted by Anonymous on Jan. 9, 2013 at 12:20 PM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Jan. 9, 2013 at 12:37 PM

The bus runs every 2 to 2 and 1/2 hours. If I miss the 8:05 bus the next bus at 10:30 won't do me any good because it makes a loop and goes by my house at 11 and then gets back down by his school at 11:15, just 15 minutes before he gets out. I could get on it and go for a ride around town but what difference does it make timewise?

Quoting MamaDee83:

Where do you live that a bus only comes around every 4 hours? I'm not asking to be cheeky, I seriously am curious!


Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Jan. 9, 2013 at 12:38 PM

Our Head Start doesn't have a bus. There isn't enough funding.

Quoting Master_Debater:

Same. Ours run every hour. And if it's that much of a deal, pull him out. Seriously. Plus, why doesn't he ride a bus if it's head start?

Quoting MamaDee83:

Where do you live that a bus only comes around every 4 hours? I'm not asking to be cheeky, I seriously am curious!


Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Jan. 9, 2013 at 12:39 PM

I can't afford a car right now.

Quoting DolphinFan85:

 get over it and do your motherly duties....deal with the bus or learn to drive and get a car


LeahJ
by Gold Member on Jan. 9, 2013 at 12:40 PM
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For her, that $20 might be the difference between buying food and milk or the kids not eating. some people live that close to the line.

Quoting JDmommyJD:

Well i wouldn't do it regularly, but if you miss the bus it is better than staying in town all day.



Quoting Anonymous:

Its costs $20 for me to take a cab home.



Quoting JDmommyJD:

Can't you call a cab?


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meliscool72
by on Jan. 9, 2013 at 12:40 PM

I hear you, I have not had a car in over 6 months now and had to ride the bust to school and everything, they even wanted me to drive my car (which I didn't have) to our educational field trips (which I thought those were long over in grammar school LOL). I had told them that I had to car pool because I ride the bus and what not. Also there have been times I couldn't get to school because the weather was so bad, so because of those absences and other reasons (lagitimate reasons) I had to withdraw from school and got a hefty fine for school that I never completed.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Jan. 9, 2013 at 12:41 PM

Maybe. But I don't have the money to do it so it isn't really an issue.

Quoting JDmommyJD:

Well i wouldn't do it regularly, but if you miss the bus it is better than staying in town all day.

Quoting Anonymous:

Its costs $20 for me to take a cab home.


Quoting JDmommyJD:

Can't you call a cab?



stargazerwolf
by Silver Member on Jan. 9, 2013 at 12:41 PM

When I was a single mom (well im still not remarried but living with my boyfriend) there were 2 times I was without a car, one time was for a month the other was for 2 weeks. I had to get rides, the bus schedules here don't work for the hours I was working and the month I was without a car I stayed with a friend (who actually is my boyfriend now) and he took me to an from work and the bus didn't even go as far as my work place at the time. I agree bus schedules suck, even if I had gotten up super early, walked to the bus stop, and got my daughter to day care that way I wouldn't have had a bus to get to work as I'd then be late since the next didn't come around for a couple hours. It is hard to not have a car in the city. During the 2 weeks I was without a car I had to use cabs a few times and basically half my pay for the day went into cab fare, it cost me $26 to get to work and the luckily my boyfriend at the time could pick me up and take me home. At the time I was only able to get part time at my job and not getting the hours I wanted.

Anyway, the point I was trying to make is that I understand how much buses suck! lol In your situation I'd have just quit trying to get him to wash his hands and let the teacher get him to do it because although I understand not "giving in" if you are concerned about missing the bus then you need to just go. I'd tell her that bus schedules don't allow for extra time there and just go.

MistyMoo
by Ruby Member on Jan. 9, 2013 at 12:41 PM
Same here an I live in a pretty small town..

Quoting itsallabtthem84:

I would like to know too. There is a bus that risk in front of my house every single hour.



Quoting MamaDee83:

Where do you live that a bus only comes around every 4 hours? I'm not asking to be cheeky, I seriously am curious!

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MistyMoo
by Ruby Member on Jan. 9, 2013 at 12:42 PM
What is head start?

Quoting Anonymous:

Our Head Start doesn't have a bus. There isn't enough funding.


Quoting Master_Debater:

Same. Ours run every hour. And if it's that much of a deal, pull him out. Seriously. Plus, why doesn't he ride a bus if it's head start?



Quoting MamaDee83:

Where do you live that a bus only comes around every 4 hours? I'm not asking to be cheeky, I seriously am curious!


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candyrow
by on Jan. 9, 2013 at 12:43 PM
What does this have to do with people who own cars.?
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