*UPDATE* Getting my tubes tied on Friday-having 2nd thoughts :(
Then the dr walked in and immediately said "were not gonna do it." I was like "really? Why?" He said "I'll be honest with you, I've been worrying about this since the day we scheduled it. I can't tell you how many women even 34 come in and get it done and not even two weeks later are completely heartbroken. I just don't think it's the right time for you. You're so young. If in six months you still want to do it, we will. But you need more time. I want you to be 100% sure with no doubts."
I almost feel like my husband is mad at me or something :( he says he's not but idk...
I'm going to be 24 in February. I have two kids-a girl and a boy-4 and 14 months. We've been talking about it since my youngest was born, but more seriously in the last couple of months. I'm just wondering if all te reasons we should be done outweigh the "maybe I want more kids" feeling.
My doctor kept asking me if I'm sure and said a lot of people get divorced and come back wanting their tubes back together and blah blah blah. Well, I already know that if we were to ever get a divorce, I don't want another baby with another man. My oldest has a diff bio father and y youngest is from my husband. That would be three kids from three dads. Not cool.
The reasons we want it: we already have a boy and a girl. When the youngest is 18 we will only be in our 40s and then we can have "our" time that we never really had before. Bigger house, bigger car, more money. Third child. I was one and I was left out a lot. We wouldn't be able to have one ANY time soon so starting all over would suck. When the kids are in elementary school I could go back to school or get a small job or do what I want. Going thru a c section again would suck. Going through another pregnancy. Getting fatter. If I don't have any more I could get healthier and lose some pounds and get fit. These sound selfish I know. But also, I want our kids to have a fulfilling life and if I add another kid to the mix I know I will love him/her just as much but I'm afraid I won't be a good mom to all because of te craziness.
I know our financial state will change (it better!) but I'm worried that years down the road I will have that super urge to have a baby :(
Can anyone share their experiences? Regret it or best decision ever? How many kids do you have and how old were you when you got it done?
P.s. I'm on ParaGuard and I hate it. I don't have any other birth control options that would guarantee I won't get pregnant right now. And abstinence is not the answer lol I love my husband!