I haven't been getting along with my husband's parents, so I haven't seen them eight months. My husband used to talk to his mom every day, and his dad every week. He does answer the call if they give him a ring, but he doesn't call them anymore.
I'm pretty early along, so I doubt we'll tell anyone soon. But when we do tell others, we won't be telling his parents.
One of the things that bothers me is that a grown ass woman shouldn't hide her pregnancy. But am I hiding it? Is it a lie by omission?
EDIT: Okay! Thanks. I think what I've decided is going to depend on whether or not my husband tells his brother and sisters we're expecting. If he does, then I will leave it up to him to tell his parents or not. Because if he doesn't, they will, and they will call him to find out why he didn't tell them. If he doesn't tell them, I will call them, and I will call his parents afterwards. I doubt they will answer, but I will leave voicemail on each other their cell phones. Gosh, I want to type, "Is that good?" I don't know why I feel so uncertain. My husband thinks we should just ignore it unless they directly ask him "Is she pregnant?"
And my state has ruled grandparents' rights to be unconstitutional, so don't worry about that.
And we have no plans to allow them to have an access to their grandchildren until they are aduts, or at least old enough for their own facebook accounts. Whether or not I told them about this pregnancy was never going to change that.
SECOND EDIT: You guys are very right that this is his family. If he decided he would only tell them if he was asked directly, then I should take his lead. Our marriage counselor said we needed to set boundaries if we wanted to keep them in our family life, and he decided he'd rather keep them away from us. So, I need to back off and let him handle his own family his own way. I was being entirely too controlling. Thank you for helping me see that.