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does your dh/boyfriend get mad because....

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You have male friends? Did u have to drop your male friends? What do you thunk about a man who gets mad because his woman talks to other guys?? Red flag?
Posted by Anonymous on Jan. 10, 2013 at 4:30 PM
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RobinBright
by Platinum Member on Jan. 10, 2013 at 4:39 PM

No, my partner is an adult and he does not judge my friends based on their genitalia.  Controlling another adult's social life is a huge red flag for me.   I can't imagine being insecure and controlling enough to tell SO who he could or could not socialize with.  

CrystalPystol
by Silver Member on Jan. 10, 2013 at 4:42 PM

No, he does not. I told him at the beginning of our relationship my friends were there before him male and female. He was not going to tell me who I could and could not talk to. Those same friends, if they were true would be there after him. I've always stood by that.

TAG_ur_it
by Gold Member on Jan. 10, 2013 at 4:45 PM

we have mostly the same friends.  and no, me having male friends is not an issue. his ex wife cheated on him.  but i've made it perfectly clear that i am not her and that his jealous and insecurity is HIS issue, not mine and unless he has a reason not to trust ME, he has no say in who i'm friends with and vice versa.  

HyrulianHeroine
by on Jan. 10, 2013 at 4:49 PM

Same here. Out of respect i left my male friends alone once me and my DH got serious, just as he left any female friends alone.

Quoting macysmom:

I dont have male friends out of respect.


lovinglife0682
by on Jan. 10, 2013 at 4:53 PM
This


Quoting jillbailey26:

The only male friends I have are the ones he's friends with.  I'm friends with all of their wives.  So there's nothing to even get mad about.


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CuriousArentYa
by Platinum Member on Jan. 10, 2013 at 4:56 PM

No. He was not happy about a male friend that I had when we met but he got to be friends with the guy and they were fine after that. Looking back I can understand why he was a little uncomfortable, I would drive his truck sometimes, let him drive my car and he would go out to dinner with my parents and me. I had never been in a serious relationship before so I never really thought that it would make my husband uncomfortable. 

EmilysMom2010
by Ruby Member on Jan. 10, 2013 at 4:57 PM
I only have one male friend. He was a 30year old virgin till he met his latest gf. Other than that I have never met and been friends with any guy that wouldn't jump in my pants the first chance he gott. So no. I don't have guy friends. I am friends with my husbands friends. We have all known each other for over ten years. But I don't hang out with them or have their numbers.

But my husband does not get mad. He gives everyone the benefit of the doubt. Just like me.
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wildlilacs
by on Jan. 10, 2013 at 4:58 PM
Yup,red flag. Insecurity big time.
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Elayna90
by Gold Member on Jan. 10, 2013 at 4:58 PM
In the beginning, it was an issue. We were both too jealous. Now it's ok as long as their are boundaries. I don't go out by myself with my guy friends.

To give an example: I went to lunch today at my husbands work. One of my guy friends showed up as I was finishing and dh got him from his table and brought him to mine. When I asked him why he did that knowing I would be leaving soon he told me that it was so I could have some company.

As long as I am open about the friendship, dh doesn't mind. If I tried to hide it, it would become an issue. My dh also knows all of my guy friends. Many are his friends as well.
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Anonymous
by Anonymous on Jan. 10, 2013 at 4:58 PM

He trusts me as I do him.

I don't hang out with men alone, socialize solo or anything like that simply because I prefer being home with my family, but if my husband wanted to go out with a group of friends, and it was mixed with women, I would be okay, the same way he would be okay with me going out with a group of friends of both sexes.

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