I have a dh that is hard working and a good father. But in all our years and years of marriage, he always wants the upper hand. If I don't agree to do something, he will find ways to force things to go his way. For example, the government sends money for kids in my name. I've been lucky enough to save it all, now it is a good chunk of money. But since he hides all his money, I don't want to share with him what the kids have. That would be all the money we would have If our marriage was over. There is always some type of verbal or emotional abuse. He supports his family, his mom, brothers and their families back home. Dh earns really really well.
Today, as every month, I took out my monthly sum of money. Plus 60 more for the tutor. He flipped out and Messaged me why I took out the money. I've been doing this every month for 10 years. I don't get it. He told me to go back and return HIS money. I told him fine. I know it isn't worth his wrath and intimidation to keep the lousy money anyway.
My question is, for ppl with young kids, how did divorce affect the kids? Is it all misery financially? Emotionally? I know he will hide whatever he can to avoid supporting me. My kids are both under 6.