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I'm going crazy- SO makes it impossible to sleep

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SO and I have been together almost three years, lived together for two. The last six months have been a wreck when it comes to bedtime. I am not necessarily a light sleeper but his sleep habits keep me up. I end up sleeping on the couch a lot after being woken up by being kicked, pushed, elbowed, or snored out of bed. He often takes offense to the fact that I leave the room. He feels hurt but I am hurting from not getting sleep. While I love cuddling before we fall asleep, he runs at about 500 degrees and sweats a lot. I wake up drenched and end up changing clothes in the middle of the night.



Tonight was considerably worse because I have been sick. I have that horrible flu that is going around and my asthma is acting up. Went to the doctor and I am now on steroids and Tylenol with codeine just so I can get a few hours of sleep after being woken up constantly from asthma attacks the last two nights.



I finally felt restful enough to sleep. I relaxed, dozed off, and then I get an elbow in the back. Then he starts snoring. Then he kicked all the blankets off and rolled on top of them. I got up because otherwise I was going to freak out. I am close to tears because I've told him his sleep problems are just that- a problem. He seems to believe I just don't want to sleep with him. He's right but for the wrong reason.



I'm sorry this is so long or on the wrong board but I needed to vent. It has been a long month and not getting sleep is putting me over the edge.

Update: SO got up this morning and was pretty rude. :-\ I had just fallen asleep on the couch and woke up to him banging cupboards and slamming drawers. I told him I was having a hard time breathing and needed space but his reply was "I'm getting sick too, now." I gave suggestions to help him kick it since he is healthy without extra shit to add to it- like I have severe asthma so it gets worse whenever I'm sick. Then I told him we need a bigger bed and he got all snippy and said he knows, I want a California King. Which I have never said. So I said, No just a queen, like the one we slept in at this hotel. And he snapped and told me he was just kidding.

I officially got three hours of sleep due to our sleeping issues with each other. He got eight. I'm sleeping on the couch from now on until I buy a bigger bed.
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bustybee
by Buzz Lightyear on Jan. 11, 2013 at 1:38 AM
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sigh. that is unfortunate for you. it is my favorite thing. my next recommendation would be to video tape the 2 of you sleeping and showing him how active of a sleeper he is.

Quoting ManicAttack:

Our room isn't big enough for a king size but I'm seriously considering getting a queen with tax returns. We are not well to do and planned on getting long put off things done but I think a better sleeping arrangement might be a priority now. Just means I'll have to add reorganizing the bedroom to the list so I can fit a queen in it.


Quoting bustybee:

I have a king size bed.... I love having my half. we have a body pillow divider. so nice :)



Irenesmommy
by Gold Member on Jan. 11, 2013 at 1:38 AM

my dd is like a mobile space heater, it's either the rabid bear or the space heater, I can't catch a break! 

Quoting ManicAttack:

I just don't understand how someone can sweat so much in the dead of winter in northern Michigan. It's freezing ass cold!


Quoting mommyof11050307:

My husbands snoring keeps me out of bed some nights. I've been sleeping on the couch every night since oct. I was on bedrest and was up most of the night and then with my csection I was easier to get up off the couch with the baby. Before this her get mad at me since I'd sleep on the couch. I finally told him I can't sleep if he lays right next to my head and snores in my ear all night long. He's also a hot sleeper it's insane.


Irenesmommy
by Gold Member on Jan. 11, 2013 at 1:39 AM

I too have a king sized bed, we aren't snugglers so that's good, but no amount of space can tune out snoring

Quoting bustybee:

sigh. that is unfortunate for you. it is my favorite thing. my next recommendation would be to video tape the 2 of you sleeping and showing him how active of a sleeper he is.

Quoting ManicAttack:

Our room isn't big enough for a king size but I'm seriously considering getting a queen with tax returns. We are not well to do and planned on getting long put off things done but I think a better sleeping arrangement might be a priority now. Just means I'll have to add reorganizing the bedroom to the list so I can fit a queen in it.


Quoting bustybee:

I have a king size bed.... I love having my half. we have a body pillow divider. so nice :)




LAXmom21
by Ruby Member on Jan. 11, 2013 at 1:43 AM
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My DH and i rarely sleep in the same room. I snore like a chainsaw and sometimes even wake myself up. I don't get mad or hurt its just better for us to get a good nights sleep.
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ManicAttack
by Bronze Member on Jan. 11, 2013 at 1:43 AM
I snore too. Asthma, allergies, a little chubby- bound to happen. Not recently nor near enough to keep him up at night though. Plus I actually try to fix it. Use nasal strips, sleep on my side, etc.

It's also proven that men sleep better with women, where as women sleep better alone. Men crave the closeness all throughout the night. Women tend to roll away and want their own space.

I work two night audit shifts a week and I sleep better during those odd days in the sunlight and daytime noise and alone than I do at night with him.


Quoting Irenesmommy:

My husband and dd have a conspiracy to never let me sleep I swear. I've spent more nights on the couch or dd's bed because of snoring, talking in his sleep, kicking. I've begged him to go have a sleep study done because he literally sounds like he is dying when he snores. His response is "well you snore too" yeah I'll admit it, I have allergies and some nights I snore. I don't however snarl like a rabid bear, stop breathing then gurgle awake only to do it all over again.


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chas1217
by on Jan. 11, 2013 at 1:44 AM
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We're in northern MI too!
My df snores and keeps me up, I don't sleep good to begin with and I get mad after awhile. I don't mean to but I can't help it, it's exhausting.


Quoting ManicAttack:

I just don't understand how someone can sweat so much in the dead of winter in northern Michigan. It's freezing ass cold!




Quoting mommyof11050307:

My husbands snoring keeps me out of bed some nights. I've been sleeping on the couch every night since oct. I was on bedrest and was up most of the night and then with my csection I was easier to get up off the couch with the baby. Before this her get mad at me since I'd sleep on the couch. I finally told him I can't sleep if he lays right next to my head and snores in my ear all night long. He's also a hot sleeper it's insane.


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ManicAttack
by Bronze Member on Jan. 11, 2013 at 1:45 AM
Wow why didn't I think of this sooner? Great idea. :-) I think I may do this tomorrow night!


Quoting bustybee:

sigh. that is unfortunate for you. it is my favorite thing. my next recommendation would be to video tape the 2 of you sleeping and showing him how active of a sleeper he is.


Quoting ManicAttack:

Our room isn't big enough for a king size but I'm seriously considering getting a queen with tax returns. We are not well to do and planned on getting long put off things done but I think a better sleeping arrangement might be a priority now. Just means I'll have to add reorganizing the bedroom to the list so I can fit a queen in it.



Quoting bustybee:


I have a king size bed.... I love having my half. we have a body pillow divider. so nice :)





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bustybee
by Buzz Lightyear on Jan. 11, 2013 at 1:45 AM
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my left arm has gotten pretty good at shoving him awake to tell him to roll over. and if that doesn't work, I'm allowed to pinch his nose to wake him lol.

we are not snugglers either, and we even have our own blankets lol. dh is pretty good though, if I can't sleep with his snoring he would be willing to be the one to suffer on the couch than make me :)

Quoting Irenesmommy:

I too have a king sized bed, we aren't snugglers so that's good, but no amount of space can tune out snoring

Quoting bustybee:

sigh. that is unfortunate for you. it is my favorite thing. my next recommendation would be to video tape the 2 of you sleeping and showing him how active of a sleeper he is.

Quoting ManicAttack:

Our room isn't big enough for a king size but I'm seriously considering getting a queen with tax returns. We are not well to do and planned on getting long put off things done but I think a better sleeping arrangement might be a priority now. Just means I'll have to add reorganizing the bedroom to the list so I can fit a queen in it.


Quoting bustybee:

I have a king size bed.... I love having my half. we have a body pillow divider. so nice :)


 



ManicAttack
by Bronze Member on Jan. 11, 2013 at 1:47 AM
I try really hard not to get mad. But seriously- I understand why couples sleep in separate rooms for entire relationships.


Quoting chas1217:

We're in northern MI too!

My df snores and keeps me up, I don't sleep good to begin with and I get mad after awhile. I don't mean to but I can't help it, it's exhausting.




Quoting ManicAttack:

I just don't understand how someone can sweat so much in the dead of winter in northern Michigan. It's freezing ass cold!






Quoting mommyof11050307:

My husbands snoring keeps me out of bed some nights. I've been sleeping on the couch every night since oct. I was on bedrest and was up most of the night and then with my csection I was easier to get up off the couch with the baby. Before this her get mad at me since I'd sleep on the couch. I finally told him I can't sleep if he lays right next to my head and snores in my ear all night long. He's also a hot sleeper it's insane.



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Irenesmommy
by Gold Member on Jan. 11, 2013 at 1:49 AM
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I've perfected the annoyed roll over, that usually does the trick LOL

Quoting bustybee:

my left arm has gotten pretty good at shoving him awake to tell him to roll over. and if that doesn't work, I'm allowed to pinch his nose to wake him lol.

we are not snugglers either, and we even have our own blankets lol. dh is pretty good though, if I can't sleep with his snoring he would be willing to be the one to suffer on the couch than make me :)

Quoting Irenesmommy:

I too have a king sized bed, we aren't snugglers so that's good, but no amount of space can tune out snoring

Quoting bustybee:

sigh. that is unfortunate for you. it is my favorite thing. my next recommendation would be to video tape the 2 of you sleeping and showing him how active of a sleeper he is.

Quoting ManicAttack:

Our room isn't big enough for a king size but I'm seriously considering getting a queen with tax returns. We are not well to do and planned on getting long put off things done but I think a better sleeping arrangement might be a priority now. Just means I'll have to add reorganizing the bedroom to the list so I can fit a queen in it.


Quoting bustybee:

I have a king size bed.... I love having my half. we have a body pillow divider. so nice :)






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