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Raising our adult son-Could you do it?

Posted by on Jan. 11, 2013 at 9:14 AM
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If your child had extensive special needs could you raise him/her in your home even when they were adults? Why or Why not?  Under what condition could you or could you not?

We love our kiddo and are very blessed 

Our young man is a happy young man and puts smiles on lots of faces

We will raise him all of our lives

He has extensive physical and developmental delays

He needs 24/7 care and is in a wheelchair and 150 lbs

We have to do all types of care and it will always be like this

He has numerous apts

He has certain regimes that we have to do every day with him

We will always be up no later than 6 am.

We will always have to be there for him for all of his physical care-bathing, toileting, dressing, feeding

We always will fight for what he needs-we will always be an advocate for him

We will always have people in and out of our house for his care

We will more than likely always be fighting to keep the care we have and to get more care that we need and to get more funding

We will never have a day that we don't worry about him and that he is getting the best life we can provide for him

We will always cuddle and hug him


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Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 on Jan. 11, 2013 at 9:16 AM
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No, I couldn't. You are an angel. I really don't think I could do it.
jbcmom
by Bronze Member on Jan. 11, 2013 at 9:17 AM
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My son is the same way. He will always live with us and we will always take care of him. He is 21 yrs old and he will never work or have a family of his own (such as a wife and children). I am blessed to have him and even though some days are a struggle he is so worth the effort.

kjsaes
by on Jan. 11, 2013 at 9:17 AM
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I work in this field but the ones I take care of walk and can become violent :( . Honestly I don't think I could make it my home life. But if I had to for my child I think I would suck it up.
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lifeisajoy
by Platinum Member on Jan. 11, 2013 at 9:17 AM

Totally agree!! Hugs and nice meeting you!

Quoting jbcmom:

My son is the same way. He will always live with us and we will always take care of him. He is 21 yrs old and he will never work or have a family of his own (such as a wife and children). I am blessed to have him and even though some days are a struggle he is so worth the effort.


audreesmama
by on Jan. 11, 2013 at 9:18 AM
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Will he outlive you? If so, who will care for him then? This is always my fear, if I had a child that required this kind of care--who would care for him after I pass, and will they be fair to him?
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imvanilla
by Gold Member on Jan. 11, 2013 at 9:18 AM
Yes I could. Especially for my child.

I have done intensive in home care with my cousin, she is a quad.
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CoolRelax
by Platinum Member on Jan. 11, 2013 at 9:18 AM
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Wow mama - that's a grueling schedule, but I guess the really tough challenges just appear and there is nothing to do but take them on.  I don't think I could do it, but I've never been challenged like that.  I wish you the best of luck. 

jbirdsladie27
by on Jan. 11, 2013 at 9:18 AM
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I would.
There is no other option to me.
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Jan. 11, 2013 at 9:18 AM
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Isn't that what a parent is supposed to do? Take care of our kids??
jbcmom
by Bronze Member on Jan. 11, 2013 at 9:19 AM


Quoting lifeisajoy:

Totally agree!! Hugs and nice meeting you!

Quoting jbcmom:

My son is the same way. He will always live with us and we will always take care of him. He is 21 yrs old and he will never work or have a family of his own (such as a wife and children). I am blessed to have him and even though some days are a struggle he is so worth the effort.

 

Nice meeting you... :)

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