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All over again! I am having to go through sleep training with my 6 yo dd and 3 yo ds all over again because dh is a big softy and as soon as he hears one or both of them fighting their sleep, he says "oh just put them on the couch". The other reason they haven't been able to sleep in their room is because the apartment above us had a water leak and we had to have the ceiling replaced. Getting really frustrated and I'm hoping that I can accomplish it this weekend. I start back to school Monday and dd has school on Monday. Any suggestions? I'm not one to just stick their a$$es in the bed and ignore them while they cry. I didn't do that when they were babies and I'm not going to do it now.
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by on Jan. 11, 2013 at 8:52 PM
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momof2891
by on Jan. 11, 2013 at 9:20 PM
Some days that is how I feel. The problem is if they sleep on the couch, they wake every time dh or I walk through the living room. Then it takes thirty minutes or more to get them back to sleep.


Quoting luckysevenwow:

I honestly don't care where my kids sleep so long as they go to sleep: under the kitchen table, in a cardboard box in the living room, in their closet, on the couches. Just sleep.

Sometimes they are moved and sometimes they aren't. for the most part they do sleep in their rooms. i just don't make a big deal of it.


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momof2891
by on Jan. 11, 2013 at 9:24 PM
I hadn't thought of that! Thanks! I'll try that!


Quoting aidyns_mommy:

I am not saying put them against each other or anything, but make it known to him dd reward system. How well she is doing in school, that she gets blah blah at the end of the week. Maybe he will catch on?




Quoting momof2891:

I'm going to have come up with a reward system for him. Dd knows that if she gets a good night's sleep and has a good day in school, she will get a reward at the end of the week (if she gets green all week). I not sure what I can do with ds since he isn't in "school" yet.






Quoting aidyns_mommy:

At 3 he should understand that what you say goes. If you stay in bed you mean it. End of story. I don't mean yell at him or be mean, like I said tell him too stay and you will be back to check on him. Come back in less and a couples minutes, tell him again & gradually add time. He just wants reassurance. Like pp said wear them out during the day also helps! Also maybe a reward system- if he sees his sister doing what she is suppose too he will be more inclined to do it (and she will want to do it b/c she is'teaching' him. Its a win win? Lol








Quoting momof2891:

I can do that with the 6 year old. She understands that it's bedtime and she has to stay in bed. But my 3 year old... As soon as get up, he is up and out of bed wanting to play. If they didn't have to share a room, it would be a little easier.










Quoting aidyns_mommy:

They are old enough for a consistent bedtime routine. Let them choose something they want before bed. A story, a small snack etc like 1/2 hour before. I found giving DS a choice in the matter helped Kwim? Also I tell him I will be back to check on you in___ minutes and he told me. Some nights it was 1 or2 some nights he said 89 lol. Either way he thinks its fun, and usually ALWAYS asleep by the time I check on him.


*eta when he is being really good during the day or doing something really awesome I remind him constantly how proud I am of him, and "isn't nice too get a good nights sleep" " its nice to not be tired, and getting in trouble isn't it?" He loves hearing it, and makes him want to sleep so much more :)





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