Hi. I am 30 have been married for 13 years. I have three kids with my husband.
I just dont even know where to start. My husband ignores me... like i can say something and he wont even respond.. then i can ask what the deal is and hell say he doesnt listen when idiot is talking. He constantly puts me down, calls me names and treats me like im a child. He loses his temper and punches things.. He blames everything wrong on me some how, he has only laid his hands on me 2x in the 13 years and they were both longer than 3 years ago. Our mosr recent episode was we were in the car and I told him i was depressed, he said well why dont you just jump out of the car then. and when i raised my voice about him being psycho he started punching the dash of my car and my windshield and broke both and my radio.
then we went weeks, maybe months of him being on and off nice off meaning the kids and i walk on egg shells not sure when hes going to explode.
he made these promises if we moved back to his home town so he could start his business that hed be away from the stress of work. so i moved.. here i am in a town where i know no one and no job.....
my uncle is here visiting... he is the first outsider that has seen this first hand and is trying to convince me to leave... WTH am i supposed to do? he doesnt leave physical marks, and i have no money to just find a place. I called the domestic shelter and they are for physically abused women only.
I just need some advice.. I am like 900 miles from home.. maybe im over reacting?
is this abuse or is this normalish.... i know im not perfect but dammnit i dont deserve to be treated like im scum.