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I am upset with my doctors office...

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Just needed to get this out you don't have to read this because It will probably be long.  My 18 year old daughter was sick back in july throwing up and such.  The doctor ran a bunch of tests and then put her on some vitamin's saying her cells were large.  She kept on being sick and it took me until November to convince her to go back.  The doctor came in and said congratulations your pregnant.  Mind you she was only 89 pounds  and  22 weeks pregnant.  When they took her blood pressure it was really high and I asked them if that was normal.  They said it was probably just anxiety..mind you her pressure has always been lower than the average.   They did an ultrasound right then and everything seemed fine.  Two weeks later I come home from shopping to find her in the bathroom on the floor blood all over the toilette seat.  I called an ambulance and she delivered the baby dead on the way there.  The nurse said she had preeclampsia which I lateer found out was caused by high blood pressure which she had at the last visit.  She said normally when a pregnant woman has high blood pressure on the visit they have them come in within the next 24 hours to recheck it.  I know she was in no way ready for a baby but I can't help feeling they were neglectful in spotting it especially when I brought it to their attention.  She would of had to been on bed rest so I know that also would of been hard for her.  I go to the same doctors office as her and so at my last visit My blood pressure shot up ( and I mean stroke level) because I was still upset about what happened.  My doctor increased my medication but in my heart I know it was only because I was upset with them yet I couldn't tell him this.  I thought maybe telling this story would help because I am so heartbroken for her. So thank you for listening.

Posted by Anonymous on Jan. 12, 2013 at 12:55 AM
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TB78
by Tasha on Jan. 12, 2013 at 5:34 AM
It's normal for her to blame herself and be depressed but you need to be there for her and remind her that this is not her fault but the Doctor's for not doing her job!
Lots of hugs and see if she will go somewhere where they help families who are in mourning or depressed over the death of their child.


Quoting Anonymous:

Thanks ladies for listening I really didn't expect any responses.  She would never pursue this because she is still blaming herself.  I can't even get her to go back to the doctor for a follow up.  Today we were driving down the road and I rolled the window down a bit because I thought I heard an ambulance.  She started sobbing and asked me to roll it up.   

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Anonymous
by Anonymous 6 on Jan. 12, 2013 at 5:37 AM
I agree, op I'm so sorry.

Quoting Anonymous:

I'd contact a lawyer. It sounds like malpractice.

horseap
by on Jan. 12, 2013 at 5:44 AM

 When I read, Im upset with my doctors office... I think Many those bastards never call in my prescription not.  They could have killed my daughter and let her babies life slip right out of her hands =/  Im very sorry for your loss.

raye-chan
by Raye on Jan. 12, 2013 at 5:54 AM

I'd talk to an attorney who deals with malpractices. High blood pressure in a pregnant woman is NOT good and considering that it was brought up to their attention, it was neglect on their part for not watching it closer. 

I'd also be changing doctors and filing a complaint with either the board or whoever runs the office you go to. I wouldn't trust her well being nor yours in their hands anymore. That was just really neglectful and irresponsible on their part!

AmyD43
by on Jan. 12, 2013 at 5:56 AM
I had preeclampsia I was admitted to the hospital for 2 months. You need to get a lawyer and sue them for your daughters pain and suffering. She can use the money she will win for college or to better herself, that way something positive comes out of this
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raye-chan
by Raye on Jan. 12, 2013 at 5:59 AM

It's normal for her to blame herself for what happened. It wasn't her fault at all. You might try putting into therapy to help deal with the loss. Try to talk to her to see if she'd even consider pursuing it. It could help another woman who could potentially be in her shoes. 

*hugs* I wish I could say something else that'd help but sadly, I'm at a loss of words. :(

Quoting Anonymous:

Thanks ladies for listening I really didn't expect any responses.  She would never pursue this because she is still blaming herself.  I can't even get her to go back to the doctor for a follow up.  Today we were driving down the road and I rolled the window down a bit because I thought I heard an ambulance.  She started sobbing and asked me to roll it up.   


angelmj
by Silver Member on Jan. 12, 2013 at 6:03 AM
I think you have a case, nothing is worth the life of a innocent child but at least if you can take him to court you might prevent it from happening again to someone else. I'm so sorry for your loss gl on your journey friend.
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