attention cutters/self mutilators!!!! get in here!!!
SD (15) has been doing things lately and I'm wondering if she is just searching for attention. First it was bulimia. This was a few weeks ago and I did post about it. Bm took no action and magically SD is cured. SMH. But now SD calls when her and bm get into an argument or when her and my other SD fight and she tells dh and I she cut herself. She is in CA and we are in PA so we have limited ability to address thus other than speaking to bm and SF. I know it is serious, and I am not trying to downplay it, but it just seems odd to me. Its like she tells me to get attention, because I immediately show concern and talk to her about her actions. Dh thinks its odd too and says I should not feed into it anymore. We KNOW she needs help, but to what extent we are unsure. Bm has done nothing about the cutting except threaten to call the police. But threats don't mean shit to SD.
Cutters, was your self mutilation something you spoke about freely? What were you looking for/trying to achieve. It only happens when there is a disagreement with the other parents or my other SD. She NEVER did this stuff when she lived with dh and I. I'm beginning to wonder if dh and I need to file for protective custody just for her mental/emotional well being. SD has been through a lot. She makes it known too, but as time goes on, the troubles she had as a 4/5 year old child are still very present, as SD makes it known and everyone is expected to baby her. I'm not trying to sound cruel, I love her to pieces.....but its so frustrating. She was in therapy as a small child and the Dr. Said that the only reason SD would have any recollection of those life events would be if someone were talking about it. Nobody talks about it really, but SD always brings it up. It seems more like she wants people to feel bad for her.....which is the same attention she seems to be seeking from the bulimia and self mutilation. I'm just confused and don't know what else to do....
As a mom I am deeply concerned, but I am trying to look at this realistically and logically. I want to help her, but I don't know what steps I should start to take or which direction to turn. :(