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I'm gay, and was also molested as a child.....ask me anything!

Posted by Anonymous   + Show Post
I saw this topic in another group and it has got me to thinking, maybe I am gay because of the confusion from the childhood trauma I went through. EDIT: I was 7.... it ended at 10. Perp was my Uncle. He left for the service, that is when I told others. I'm not a troll. A few are uncomfortable with this kind of post and have tried to start the whole "troll" thing so that no one will take me or others seriously. Just ignore them.
Posted by Anonymous on Jan. 12, 2013 at 9:19 AM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous on Jan. 12, 2013 at 1:28 PM
You are the one who is was molested and now gay. Maybe you need to talk to someone

Quoting Anonymous:

You sound like you have been hurt, want to talk about it? Cause a stir? Wow....what are you so afraid of? That people will learn something by hearing and sharing? Don't be such a dictator...Dayum!





Quoting Anonymous:

You need to stop the BS and lying to cause a stir. Thats what you need to do.



Quoting Anonymous:

Lol! That was a joke...sometimes you gotta keep things light when things start getting heavy. Sorry if it offended you, but you can also hit the bricks if you don't like what's going on here.










Quoting Anonymous:

She is def a troll! Look at her replies. On one of them someone said i molested im not gay she says "not yet lol" she is a troll





Quoting Anonymous:

Im starting to think youre a troll..

Probably because homosexuals get bullied and tortured nearly everyday?

Quoting Anonymous:

Wow! Really? Many of the homosexuals I know have been diagnosed with PTSD.


















Quoting Anonymous:

Thats not sexual preference then.. thats PTSD.

Quoting JakesMom712:

Not neccessarily true. I know a few women who were molested, or mistreated by men so they felt more comfortable with women. They all worked through their issues and went back to the other side.







Quoting mrswillie:


Quoting kngarber:

Well I was going to ask if you think that "made you gay" but I'm assuming you're unsure? How old were you when it happened?

Actually the medical field as well as the mental health field are in agreeance, people are born with their sexuality. Molestation can't make you gay.












Anonymous
by Anonymous on Jan. 12, 2013 at 2:32 PM
You are a troll.


Quoting Anonymous:

. I was scared when I started thinking about this possibility too. But I'm glad I've come here with my concerns. It's a really uncomfortable subject fo sho.




Quoting Anonymous:

Troll post.



Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Jan. 12, 2013 at 8:58 PM
Finally! I'm so glad someone understands where I'm coming from. You know the weirdest thing happened a few years ago. I was talking to a Rabbi from Israel. He was asking me some real deep stuff, using psychology and certain types of questions. After he had enough info, he said..." I'm 99% sure you were molested before the age of 2. I believe there is a correlation, I really do. But even if there is, I like the way I am, I won't change. But my partner is afraid I will.
Quoting nelliesmommy:

Same here. I was molested at 11-13 by a church deacon. I like women and men. I liked women beforeĀ I was molested though, even as a young kid but I tested boundaries at that age, I think I was molested as a baby or a young adolescent just by doing some research. In a way I feel like I was born bisexual but than I feel maybe some thing happened to make me this way. Idk.Anyway, I understand where you are coming from.


Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Jan. 12, 2013 at 9:01 PM
No, that doesn't come to mind. I had not thought about it until reading a post about it. I had always thought being gay was maybe a chromosome issue, but I'm starting to lean towards it may have something to do with sexual dysfunction due to molestation as an infant and or preteen.
Quoting Anonymous:

Like if when you make choices in life regarding love, lust, and intimacy are the memories of the abuse being used to factor decisions. For instance if they are involved in every relationship decision, then yes it probably did lead to a degree of confusion. If its something that doesn't ever come to mind during romantic situations then it isn't likely, but still possible.

I don't believe in a gay gene, but I also don't believe it's a choice. I think its generally a part of the personality that developed based on a combination or ones natural self and experiences beyond or control. I do not however believe that molestation and rape are key causes, but depending on the individual it could be.

Quoting Anonymous:

I don't understand.





Quoting Anonymous:

The way to know is ask yourself if this plays a role in you decision making, or if it ever did. I'm sure it does some, but not others. Like any other part of our personalities our childhood plays a role, but is not definitively the cause.



428pm
by on Jan. 12, 2013 at 9:02 PM

***hugs*** Im sorry that happened to you :(

Anonymous
by Anonymous on Jan. 12, 2013 at 9:09 PM
Scientifically speaking, it would be unlikely for it to typically be a chromosome issue. Although it may be a contributing factor. I don't think trauma is the cause either, most likely it's little things that added up throughout your life that did it. If you feel strongly that the abuse is the cause of your sexuality then I believe it is. You know yourself and your personal experience more then anyone here.

Quoting Anonymous:

No, that doesn't come to mind. I had not thought about it until reading a post about it. I had always thought being gay was maybe a chromosome issue, but I'm starting to lean towards it may have something to do with sexual dysfunction due to molestation as an infant and or preteen.




Quoting Anonymous:

Like if when you make choices in life regarding love, lust, and intimacy are the memories of the abuse being used to factor decisions. For instance if they are involved in every relationship decision, then yes it probably did lead to a degree of confusion. If its something that doesn't ever come to mind during romantic situations then it isn't likely, but still possible.



I don't believe in a gay gene, but I also don't believe it's a choice. I think its generally a part of the personality that developed based on a combination or ones natural self and experiences beyond or control. I do not however believe that molestation and rape are key causes, but depending on the individual it could be.



Quoting Anonymous:

I don't understand.










Quoting Anonymous:

The way to know is ask yourself if this plays a role in you decision making, or if it ever did. I'm sure it does some, but not others. Like any other part of our personalities our childhood plays a role, but is not definitively the cause.





Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Jan. 12, 2013 at 9:24 PM
Yeah, IDK, it is what it is. It's sad, but the past is the past and can't change it. Thanks for discussing it with me and not labeling me a troll.
Quoting Anonymous:

Scientifically speaking, it would be unlikely for it to typically be a chromosome issue. Although it may be a contributing factor. I don't think trauma is the cause either, most likely it's little things that added up throughout your life that did it. If you feel strongly that the abuse is the cause of your sexuality then I believe it is. You know yourself and your personal experience more then anyone here.

Quoting Anonymous:

No, that doesn't come to mind. I had not thought about it until reading a post about it. I had always thought being gay was maybe a chromosome issue, but I'm starting to lean towards it may have something to do with sexual dysfunction due to molestation as an infant and or preteen.




Quoting Anonymous:

Like if when you make choices in life regarding love, lust, and intimacy are the memories of the abuse being used to factor decisions. For instance if they are involved in every relationship decision, then yes it probably did lead to a degree of confusion. If its something that doesn't ever come to mind during romantic situations then it isn't likely, but still possible.



I don't believe in a gay gene, but I also don't believe it's a choice. I think its generally a part of the personality that developed based on a combination or ones natural self and experiences beyond or control. I do not however believe that molestation and rape are key causes, but depending on the individual it could be.



Quoting Anonymous:

I don't understand.










Quoting Anonymous:

The way to know is ask yourself if this plays a role in you decision making, or if it ever did. I'm sure it does some, but not others. Like any other part of our personalities our childhood plays a role, but is not definitively the cause.






Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Jan. 12, 2013 at 9:25 PM
Thanks. It is what it is. Ive come to accept it.
Quoting 428pm:

***hugs*** Im sorry that happened to you :(


Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Jan. 12, 2013 at 9:32 PM
You were the one talking about how your sister is CEO of gay underground Los Angeles. What do you think people do at gay underground parties? Play Monopoly?
Quoting bbyB10:

Ok but no one is even talking about sex you are the one tht brought up gay porn , and the sex , idk what kind of parties you have been to but sex was the least point I was trying to make you totally twisted my words around dude , god bless

Anonymous
by Anonymous on Jan. 12, 2013 at 9:34 PM

I don't think being molested made you gay.  I was molested at age 8 and I am straight.  I believe that people are who they are because they were born that way.  I am sorry your uncle did that to you.

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