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I'm gay, and was also molested as a child.....ask me anything!

Posted by Anonymous   + Show Post
I saw this topic in another group and it has got me to thinking, maybe I am gay because of the confusion from the childhood trauma I went through. EDIT: I was 7.... it ended at 10. Perp was my Uncle. He left for the service, that is when I told others. I'm not a troll. A few are uncomfortable with this kind of post and have tried to start the whole "troll" thing so that no one will take me or others seriously. Just ignore them.
Posted by Anonymous on Jan. 12, 2013 at 9:19 AM
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JakesMom712
by Ruby Member on Jan. 12, 2013 at 9:45 AM
I can believe that. Most of my friends are survivors as well But I don't think that its has anything to do with being homosexual. But like attracts like. Kwim

Quoting Anonymous:

Wow! Really? Many of the homosexuals I know have been diagnosed with PTSD.






Quoting Anonymous:

Thats not sexual preference then.. thats PTSD.

Quoting JakesMom712:

Not neccessarily true. I know a few women who were molested, or mistreated by men so they felt more comfortable with women. They all worked through their issues and went back to the other side.



Quoting mrswillie:


Quoting kngarber:

Well I was going to ask if you think that "made you gay" but I'm assuming you're unsure? How old were you when it happened?

Actually the medical field as well as the mental health field are in agreeance, people are born with their sexuality. Molestation can't make you gay.




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Anonymous
by Anonymous 6 on Jan. 12, 2013 at 9:46 AM
Really? We're going to start telling people that are attracted to people of the same sex for psychological reasons that they're not gay? Who cares? I think it's really weird for someone who works for gay rights to go around telling people whether they can or can't be gay. Seems like a step backwards to me...


Quoting mrswillie:

Exactly. It is an "avoidance behavior". It is a copeing mechanism, but it does not make them truely gay.

Quoting Anonymous:

While this is usually true, I think that molestation can cause a type of avoidance behavior, usually with people of the same sex as the molester. Someone might turn to the opposite sex for this reason. It's a psychological response.





Quoting mrswillie:


Quoting kngarber:

Well I was going to ask if you think that "made you gay" but I'm assuming you're unsure? How old were you when it happened?

Actually the medical field as well as the mental health field are in agreeance, people are born with their sexuality. Molestation can't make you gay.





Anonymous
by Anonymous 7 on Jan. 12, 2013 at 9:47 AM
Why do people brag about this shit. You were molested, that's horrible, what the fuck would I possibly want to ask you about that?
lunabella79
by Platinum Member on Jan. 12, 2013 at 9:47 AM
The thing about running in families is interesting to me because I have had several students in my 10+ years of teaching who were openly gay and had siblings or cousins in the same school who were also openly gay.

Quoting mrswillie:

Actually, it is true. To further it, science is finding it runs in families however they are still trying to find out exactly how. I am a member of PFLAG, use to be president of our local chapter. My ds is gay as well as his aunt on his fater's side. In turn we have a grandmother, mother, daughter relationship who are all gay. Most of our members can name other family members that are gay and lesbian.


To be truely gay is one thing. To feel comfort in the same sex because of a tramatic experience is another. You can not choose your sexuality and who you are attracted to. Just as some are attracted to men or women, some are attracted to black, white, etc. You can't wake up one day and say today I like women.

Quoting JakesMom712:

Not neccessarily true. I know a few women who were molested, or mistreated by men so they felt more comfortable with women. They all worked through their issues and went back to the other side.



Quoting mrswillie:


Quoting kngarber:

Well I was going to ask if you think that "made you gay" but I'm assuming you're unsure? How old were you when it happened?

Actually the medical field as well as the mental health field are in agreeance, people are born with their sexuality. Molestation can't make you gay.


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lunabella79
by Platinum Member on Jan. 12, 2013 at 9:48 AM
How is she "bragging"?

Quoting Anonymous:

Why do people brag about this shit. You were molested, that's horrible, what the fuck would I possibly want to ask you about that?
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CRAZZYB23
by on Jan. 12, 2013 at 9:48 AM
do u like pancakes?
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Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Jan. 12, 2013 at 9:48 AM
I was 7 when it began, it went on until I was 10.....It was an Uncle, a young Uncle that I had thought was cute, weird huh? I did not tell until I was 10. By then, he had already left for the service.
Quoting RunningMommaof2:

It could be because of your experience. I had a very negative first sexual experience that has had a great impact on my sexual life even now. I believe that people can be born gay or have an experience like yours and prefer the same sex. Who was it that molested you? how old were you? Did you tell anyone?

wumbo
by on Jan. 12, 2013 at 9:48 AM
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Pubic forum. Classic.

Quoting Anonymous:

Um im not. I can say what I want though, since you know, you posted this and it's a pubic forum. Good luck with finding the answers you are looking for..?


mrswillie
by Gold Member on Jan. 12, 2013 at 9:49 AM

It is interesting to read all the stats on it. It is even more interesting to see it up close. 

Quoting lunabella79:

The thing about running in families is interesting to me because I have had several students in my 10+ years of teaching who were openly gay and had siblings or cousins in the same school who were also openly gay.

Quoting mrswillie:

Actually, it is true. To further it, science is finding it runs in families however they are still trying to find out exactly how. I am a member of PFLAG, use to be president of our local chapter. My ds is gay as well as his aunt on his fater's side. In turn we have a grandmother, mother, daughter relationship who are all gay. Most of our members can name other family members that are gay and lesbian.


To be truely gay is one thing. To feel comfort in the same sex because of a tramatic experience is another. You can not choose your sexuality and who you are attracted to. Just as some are attracted to men or women, some are attracted to black, white, etc. You can't wake up one day and say today I like women.

Quoting JakesMom712:

Not neccessarily true. I know a few women who were molested, or mistreated by men so they felt more comfortable with women. They all worked through their issues and went back to the other side.



Quoting mrswillie:


Quoting kngarber:

Well I was going to ask if you think that "made you gay" but I'm assuming you're unsure? How old were you when it happened?

Actually the medical field as well as the mental health field are in agreeance, people are born with their sexuality. Molestation can't make you gay.



Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Jan. 12, 2013 at 9:49 AM
They are ok. I don't care for pure maple syrup though.
Quoting CRAZZYB23:

do u like pancakes?

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