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My Kids SM is a B****!! and my EXDH is a coward!!!

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Ok so my kids go to their dads house every other weekend and on the weekends the kids are there I work (I work m-f as well)...Well one of my kids are sick with the tummy bug so i called to let EXDH know he said OK I will be there an about an hour to get them....20 minutes later I get a call from him saying he will no longer being picking up the kids this weekend because his wife doesn't want a sick child at their house all weekend...I explained to him that was not an option because I have to work and can't just call out especially since I had to call out 2 days this week as it was to care for our other child who had it earlier in the week...He said he was sorry however he was not in the mood to  fight with his wife about this....

So now I am pissed!!! I understand that our child is sick, however since he doesn't work weekends I feel he should have to suck it up and care for our sick child so I can go to work...I even offered to pick up the kids after work and drop them back off tomorrow on my way to work so they don't have to take care of the sick child all night as well..

So why do I have to take time from work to stay home with the sick child when he can easily care for the child since he will be home all day? I could understand if he had to work and the SM did not want to care for the child,however that is not the case here...

****EDIT***This is his weekends with the kids.....yes they have 1 together, however that is not reason enough for me to miss work because when their child is sick I am still made to send my kids to his house around their sick child....I just called and asked him if he could come to my house for the day and spend it with the kids while i worked he said no because that wouldn't be right to his wife...

Posted by Anonymous on Jan. 12, 2013 at 9:38 AM
Replies (61-70):
MammaPaparazza
by on Jan. 12, 2013 at 10:08 AM
Make him come to your house and take care of his kids then!
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 16 on Jan. 12, 2013 at 10:08 AM
Oh well

Quoting Lydlou02:

That's bulshit and you know it. Being able to afford time off isn't just about money. It's about having a job to go back to.



Quoting Anonymous:

Cause paying child support is fun and easy! She has his income and her own... She could afford to miss work more than he can





Quoting mas2124:

I'm surprised at the responses. That's his child too! Just because they are divorced, doesn't meen he just gets to do the easy, fun stuff. Raising a child includes illnesses, and other downers, as well.

emeraldangel2.0
by on Jan. 12, 2013 at 10:08 AM
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Quoting BEXi:

Honestly? Im on SM's side. I wouldnt want a contagious child with a stomach bug at my home either.

As a mother, we have to expect illness emergencies when it comes to our children. What do you do when they get sick Monday-Friday?

this. suck it up


Anonymous
by Anonymous 17 on Jan. 12, 2013 at 10:09 AM
My x pulled the same shit... our poor DD was sick bad, he brought her home bc it was the rodeo weekend. I'm sorry hun, hope you figure something out.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 14 on Jan. 12, 2013 at 10:09 AM
Quoting Anonymous:


none of this is his problem. I would say no and be done.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 4 on Jan. 12, 2013 at 10:09 AM
Um child support is about 30% or below of the custodial parents income and over half the income expenses for the parent with full custody. That's just the statistics. Still money matters shouldn't be at play - his kids, his scheduled time = his responsibility to care for those children (sick or not).


Quoting Anonymous:

Cause paying child support is fun and easy! She has his income and her own... She could afford to miss work more than he can



Quoting mas2124:

I'm surprised at the responses. That's his child too! Just because they are divorced, doesn't meen he just gets to do the easy, fun stuff. Raising a child includes illnesses, and other downers, as well.


brebugmom91
by on Jan. 12, 2013 at 10:09 AM
That's messed up!! That is HIS child too. If she is so worried about it he can take his kids and stay somewhere else for the weekend.
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nysa76
by on Jan. 12, 2013 at 10:10 AM
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If I was with a man who didn't take his children (during health or illness) I would leave him.  No way would I deal with a man who won't take care of his sick kids.  Shame on that SM if it's really her putting up a fuss.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Jan. 12, 2013 at 10:10 AM

They have his income, his wife's income and combined they make 2X as much as me even with my income and my CS...I already took 2 days off this week to care for a sick child why should I take off even more and struggle even more this month?

Quoting Lydlou02:

That's bulshit and you know it. Being able to afford time off isn't just about money. It's about having a job to go back to.

Quoting Anonymous:

Cause paying child support is fun and easy! She has his income and her own... She could afford to miss work more than he can



Quoting mas2124:

I'm surprised at the responses. That's his child too! Just because they are divorced, doesn't meen he just gets to do the easy, fun stuff. Raising a child includes illnesses, and other downers, as well.


Anonymous
by Anonymous 18 on Jan. 12, 2013 at 10:10 AM
Drop the kids off on his doorstep
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