If your spouse doesn't try to help when you are sick...
Why are you with them?
Don't get me wrong I don't have one of those eager sallys who come home and automatically starts to clean up. He'll do something if I ask him to.
But when I'm sick he might not be nurse nightengale, but he certainly picks up the slack.
I can't imagine waking up sick and tired and telling my husband and he says "tough" and rolls back over and goes back to sleep.