Have any of you ever left your SO/DH? DH and I have been married a moth dated over a year before we got married, and well I think we have both realized that this probably is NOT going to work out. However, though nothing changes and he refuses for us to go to marriage counseling, I am getting sick of the situation day by day, try my best to work on it. So, as I told him today, I am tired of giving 90% and only getting 10%. He doesnt want us to break up? Who wants to live with someone they cant even have a conversation with?! I work full time and am finishing up my bachelor´s degree. I make okay money for my son and I to SURVIVE on, so, to say the least I am not ready to leave.. I need to prepare financially and I am giving our relationship some time meanwhile I prepare to leave.. I need to buy a couch, kitchen dishes (most were his when we moved in together and the rest we got from our wedding registry), a microwave, a toaster, a few more comforter sets, and a tv. I also want to have a thousand dollars savings (I do realize it is not much but it will get us out of a tight sutation need be, if not I will have to ask my father to help though I avoid that at all costs) and the money for my first and last month..I should be getting a raise in March, which would make everything a little easier because with my income I would be able to pay all of our bills, food, DS´health insurance, DS´before and after school care, DS´s monthly activities fees, and car care without much money left over.. The dollar raise would give me a little breathing room, but if I dont get that I should be done with school in the next 9 months and be able to upgrade to a new job making at least 4 or 5 more thousand dollars a year, which means I would be tight for about the next year or so.. Worse comes to worse I would have to apply for food stamps and it would be the only assitance I would get until I get a little more money from my employer.. or if DS´ father steps up to the plate and starts sending at least $100 a month I could stay off the food stamps..
Have any of you prepared to leave well in advance? Is there anything that I am missing? Anything else I need to take into consideration? Any suggestions from Moms who have been through this?