So it seems that a lot of people have different ideas about attachment disorders, what causes them and whose fault it is.
I will explain first that I am the (step) mom to a beautiful little lady who suffers from one. Short background. Her mom and ex sf abused and neglected her. They hid for a few years. It took me and SO a while to find them then we got sole custody. She no longer has any contact with BM.
Attachment disorders are NOT a bio-logical disorder. This does not happen from genes or from the mother's behavior during pregnancy. This disorder occurs during the infant/toddler stages of life.
This happens when the child is abused, neglected, often changes in care givers or when the child's basic needs are not being met on a regular basis.
This is an enviromental disorder. It is caused by the primary caregivers.
There are many different stories as to how a child or when a child went through this. Each case is different. It could of been cause by biological parents, step parents, foster parents or extended stays in hospitals where the parents are not allowed contact with their young child.
If this disorder is not caught at a young age the effects can be life long. If the disorder is treated it can lessen the effects and give the child a better quality of life. But the fact of the matter is this disorder is not to be grouped in with biological disorders as it is nothing if not completely different.
I have a Child Psychology degree and am currently dealing with the daily struggle of parenting a child suffering from attachment.
** I must also add that there is no 100% treatment. It will not always make things better. The treatment plans are long and by long I mean years. It takes a lot of commitment and understanding on the current caregivers side.
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