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*update* I accidently blabbed *abortion, christian related*

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I was very upset about everything so I went over to see the pastors wife. She said she did not tell my friend about our conversation, just that she offered her support and prayers if she needed them because she noticed that she had missed a few bible studies and teas. She said she told her that if there was anything going on, her office is always open to her.

She told me that she thought my friend had miscarried, but after our discussion she guessed that it was my friend I had supported.

I am honestly torn. I just wish my friend would talk to me and tell me exactly what was said.


A few months ago my best friend had an abortion. I understood her reasons, but pleaded with her to speak with our pastors wife to see if we could come up with an alternative. She refused because she was afraid of the pastors wife judging her. She went through with the abortion and I not only loaned her money towards it and took her, but lied to her family about everything and let her recover at my home.
I feel like I am an accomplice in a murder. Abortion goes against everything I believe in. I love my friend, but I hate what she did.
Yesterday after service I pulled aside the pastors wife and explained what I did and how I felt. I didn't reveal my friends name or any identifying info, but somehow she guessed and called my friend last night. My friend called me and told she never wants to see me again, and I am no longer her kids godmom. I tried to explain what I said and why I spoke to the pastors wife. But she wouldn't listen.
Posted by Anonymous on Jan. 14, 2013 at 9:07 AM
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by on Jan. 14, 2013 at 9:23 AM

Quoting Anonymous:

You shouldn't have helped her if you didn't believe in it. That wasn't your situation to tell. You deserve to e removed from her life, I would have done the same if I were her.
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by Anonymous 13 on Jan. 14, 2013 at 9:23 AM
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You should complain to the pastor about his wife blabbing, she shouldn't of called your friend.
by Platinum Member on Jan. 14, 2013 at 9:24 AM
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 you are the worst friend ever & I don't blame her one bit. you should have just said no to begin with.

by Gold Member on Jan. 14, 2013 at 9:25 AM

I would have never done what you did. I am against abortion and if I had a friend in a situation like that I would have not given my friend money toward the abortion nor could I  have driven her to that place. But you did. And by talking to the pastors wife and she calling her it must have been really awkward for your friend! You should have thought about that before. Maybe go and talk to the Pastors wife again, tell her what happened so she can ensure your friend that you did not mention her name and how you felt in the whole situation and just wanted to seek help for yourself!

by on Jan. 14, 2013 at 9:25 AM
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You could have went to another church to talk to someone or even a therapist.
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by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Jan. 14, 2013 at 9:26 AM
I don't think the pastors wife judged her. That's not the type of woman she is. But I don't know exactly what the conversation was. I also didn't think she was the kind of person to disclose what I thought was a private discussion.

Quoting VintageWife:

I don't know if I believe this. I don't think you were wrong going to the Pastor's wife since you were just confessing your own guilt to something, but I don't believe she would call someone and say "I know you had an abortion!"

by Silver Member on Jan. 14, 2013 at 9:26 AM
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I don't think you did anything wrong by confiding in your pastor's wife. It was extremely unethical for her to go and call your friend. If she was a professional, you could sue her. I would consider talking to your pastor's wife about breaking your confidence or switching churches because you can't trust her.
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by on Jan. 14, 2013 at 9:27 AM
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Let me get this straight. She is your friend blah blah blah, she recovered at your house blah blah blah, you told your pastors wife and you are surprised she guessed who you were referring to? You had no right. She had no right to call your friend either. You both suck.

by Emerald Member on Jan. 14, 2013 at 9:27 AM
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I don't blame her for not wanting to talk to your paster's wife.. if she's obviously a gossip like that.. nor do I blame her for being upset with you, because you blabbed!

Especially to a person she didn't trust!

by Anonymous 14 on Jan. 14, 2013 at 9:27 AM
Also, why the wife and not the pastor himself. They are bound by confidentiality laws as well. Wives are not and wives are also gossips. Especially pastors wives.
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