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abstaining before the wedding

Anonymous
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Poll

Question: did you abstain for a time before the wedding?

Options:

yes-we were both virgins

yes--he was a virgin so we waited.

yes-I was a virgin so we waited

yes--1 year (or more)

yes-6 months to a year

yes-3 to 6 months

yes-60-90 days

yes-30-60 days

yes-3-4 weeks

yes-1-2 weeks

yes--less than a week

no--we planned to but "slipped up" ;-)

no

Other


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My df and I are getting married in April and I brought up to him the idea of abstaining for 90 days prior to the wedding.  He was totally, dead-set against it. For me I am kind of mixed because we are both fairly religious and the more I think about and plan our wedding the more I feel guilty for sleeping with him. We don't live together but we spend almost all the time at his house.

So my question is: did you abstain for a time before the wedding? Was it worth it?

Posted by Anonymous on Jan. 14, 2013 at 1:16 PM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Jan. 14, 2013 at 1:24 PM
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What does abstaining before the wedding when you've been sleeping together accomplish?
We never planned to and never did. We lived together before getting married.
superm0m877
by on Jan. 14, 2013 at 1:26 PM

no and we didnt plan a wedding we pretty much eloped!

Anonymous
by Anonymous 3 on Jan. 14, 2013 at 1:26 PM
I didnt see him the night before the wedding, so we abstained 1 day lol... It wasnt really planned that way, but I stayed elsewhere that night
Jessica_Esqueda
by on Jan. 14, 2013 at 1:27 PM

We didn't have sex until our wedding night. It was so SO worth the wait!!!!

Anonymous
by Anonymous 4 on Jan. 14, 2013 at 1:27 PM

I had been married before. He had never had sex before. I didn't touch/kiss/hug him at all before our marriage (but, we had a very short engagement).  It was SOOOO worth the wait. He's absolutely amazing :)

Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Jan. 14, 2013 at 2:43 PM


Quoting Anonymous:

What does abstaining before the wedding when you've been sleeping together accomplish?
We never planned to and never did. We lived together before getting married.

I guess it would just make me feel like at least we showed a little self-control :-) It is kind of silly, I guess, but I still would like to do it...

Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Jan. 14, 2013 at 2:57 PM
I can see if you both took a few days completely away from each other so when your wedding night came you'd have that absence makes the heart grow fonder passion. That would be great! I know when my dh would go on business trips when he came back there was an added spark, we miss each other so much!

Quoting Anonymous:



Quoting Anonymous:

What does abstaining before the wedding when you've been sleeping together accomplish?
We never planned to and never did. We lived together before getting married.

I guess it would just make me feel like at least we showed a little self-control :-) It is kind of silly, I guess, but I still would like to do it...

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