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Why do some parents not care? *Edited* *Edit 2*

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One of the kids in the school I work at was sent to school with a temp of 102 today.  She was immediately sent to the nurse and the parents were called to pick her up.  The father was actually angry he had to pick up his sick child from school.  He shouldn't have sent the child to school to begin with, but he was mad because they wouldn't let her stay at school.  It's sad enough that this poor child's parents don't pay enough attention to realize their 15 year old child only showers twice a week, wears the same clothes to school almost every day of the week, don't buy her pads or tampons for that time of the month nor does she understand what a period is or why she gets it, doesn't know her shoe size so keep buying her shoes 2 sizes too big, doesn't shave or know about shaving her legs, and the list goes on.  This was just the straw that broke the camel's back for me.  I am so pissed.  I do my best not to judge other people's parenting abilities, but this poor girl deserves some attention and regard from her parents.  It's just so freaking sad and makes me so mad!


If there are grammar, punctions, or spelling errors, get over it because I really do not care right now.


*Edited*

This is easier than answering over and over again.

As far as CPS goes, they have been called, but because she has clothes, a roof over her head, food, and electric/heat they will do nothing.  In my state a child has to be almost dead before they will do anything.  They just talk to the parents and move on.  None of this is removal worthy in their eyes.

No it is NOT the school's responsibility to teach the children about their period and all of that.  Yes there are classes that teach that, but the parents must sign a permission slip for the child to be present during that lesson, until senior year of high school.  If the parents said no or did not sign the permission slip the child is removed from the classroom during the lessons.  This girl's parents pretty much ignore every thing sent home with this girl, unless they receive requests by note, email, AND phone call.  It would not surprise me if they never signed the permission slips for the lesson on reproduction.  The poor girl is the only one in her gym class no shaving her legs and she has 2 inch length black hair on her legs.  It has been pointed out to her by several students, as well as myself and another adult.  We have, repeatedly, to talk to her about personal hygene, but honestly it doesn't change anything.  Her clothes have stains, and stuff stuck to them.  How does any parent not catch that as their child is walking out the door and say "please change", as well as at least get her wash her own clothes.

As far as the pads and period, her mother never talked to her about any of it.  When the nurse talked to her about it she was confused and a bit surprised to hear that it was normal, as well as what she needed each month.  It is not the school nurse's job to make sure this girl knows this stuff, nor provide what she needs, but the parents expect it.

To the women who made comments about 102 not being bad for a 15 year old or that she should know to stay home.  No 102 may not be bad for a 15 year old, but anything above 99.9 is required that a student stay home to keep from getting other students sick.  She did what her parents told her and came to school.  The father expected the school to keep her with a fever which is against school health policy.


*Edit 2*

As far as her being special ed or "mentally retarded" as one lady stated, she has no official diagnosis.  All we know is that she is overly emotional and socially ackward.  There is nothing about a diagnosis of any kind.  From what we have seen and experienced her parents are very uninvolved in the life of their child.  There are very few responses from them concerning anything about her.  It's very sad honestly.  The anger of the father expecting the school to keep a sick child did not help his case of being an involved, caring father.

Posted by Anonymous on Jan. 14, 2013 at 3:14 PM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 4 on Jan. 14, 2013 at 3:22 PM


Quoting Anonymous:

I would be contacting CPS because in a way they are neglecting her.

For the ones saying the school should have taught her about her period, not all schools have that program.

I think that's BS. We learned about it in 5th. And I think 7th (life science - required), and definitely 9th (biology - required) and 12th (ap biology - not required, but a 15 year old probably wouldn't have taken that already anyway.)

Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Jan. 14, 2013 at 3:22 PM
Quoting MrsRinehart2010:


so, why did you need smooth legs?
Stacey2506
by on Jan. 14, 2013 at 3:22 PM

OP what kind of work do you do at the school?

AtillaTheHun
by facta, non verba on Jan. 14, 2013 at 3:22 PM

Beats me. I donĀ“t understand parents who care so little about their children. 

happinessforyou
by Gold Member on Jan. 14, 2013 at 3:22 PM
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What  a sad thing. I can't imagine growing up in a family that doesn't give a crap about you! :(  Poor kid.

And a previous poster said it was the school's fail because the girl didn't know about her period? I can't disagree strongly enough. It is MY job as a parent to educate my kids on sex, hygiene, std's, etc..etc...

mary841108
by on Jan. 14, 2013 at 3:22 PM

 UM 15 y/o's Do need to shave! I was shaving my legs and underarms at the age of 10. And at 15 i was killing my moms water bill by showering 2 times a day and changing my outfit at least 10 times a day and it isnt the SCHOOLS responsibility to teach kids about periods, that is the PARENTS. you are a fail troll anon.

Quoting Anonymous:

15 year olds don't need to shave. I know lots that age who only shower 1-2 a week. The school failed her as far as the period bit as that is health and or science.

 

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Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Jan. 14, 2013 at 3:22 PM

They have been contacted, sadly CPS, in my state, typically doesn't take a child until they're almost dead due to neglect or abuse.

Quoting agrisham13mom:

Have you thought about contacting CPS or the schools social worker?


Anonymous
by Anonymous 5 on Jan. 14, 2013 at 3:22 PM

Exactly

Quoting xanayda:

15 year olds should shave and bathe more than 2x's a week. It's also not the schools responsibility to teach about her period...

Quoting Anonymous:

15 year olds don't need to shave. I know lots that age who only shower 1-2 a week. The school failed her as far as the period bit as that is health and or science.


Anonymous
by Anonymous 6 on Jan. 14, 2013 at 3:22 PM

From everything that you listed for this one child, is it possible for someone from the school to make an anon call to CPS?

AutymsMommy
by Platinum Member on Jan. 14, 2013 at 3:22 PM

Yes, instructing girls in such "normal life" things is completely the school's responsibility.

*dripping in sarcasm*

Quoting Anonymous:

15 year olds don't need to shave. I know lots that age who only shower 1-2 a week. The school failed her as far as the period bit as that is health and or science.


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