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Why do some parents not care? *Edited* *Edit 2*

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One of the kids in the school I work at was sent to school with a temp of 102 today.  She was immediately sent to the nurse and the parents were called to pick her up.  The father was actually angry he had to pick up his sick child from school.  He shouldn't have sent the child to school to begin with, but he was mad because they wouldn't let her stay at school.  It's sad enough that this poor child's parents don't pay enough attention to realize their 15 year old child only showers twice a week, wears the same clothes to school almost every day of the week, don't buy her pads or tampons for that time of the month nor does she understand what a period is or why she gets it, doesn't know her shoe size so keep buying her shoes 2 sizes too big, doesn't shave or know about shaving her legs, and the list goes on.  This was just the straw that broke the camel's back for me.  I am so pissed.  I do my best not to judge other people's parenting abilities, but this poor girl deserves some attention and regard from her parents.  It's just so freaking sad and makes me so mad!


If there are grammar, punctions, or spelling errors, get over it because I really do not care right now.


*Edited*

This is easier than answering over and over again.

As far as CPS goes, they have been called, but because she has clothes, a roof over her head, food, and electric/heat they will do nothing.  In my state a child has to be almost dead before they will do anything.  They just talk to the parents and move on.  None of this is removal worthy in their eyes.

No it is NOT the school's responsibility to teach the children about their period and all of that.  Yes there are classes that teach that, but the parents must sign a permission slip for the child to be present during that lesson, until senior year of high school.  If the parents said no or did not sign the permission slip the child is removed from the classroom during the lessons.  This girl's parents pretty much ignore every thing sent home with this girl, unless they receive requests by note, email, AND phone call.  It would not surprise me if they never signed the permission slips for the lesson on reproduction.  The poor girl is the only one in her gym class no shaving her legs and she has 2 inch length black hair on her legs.  It has been pointed out to her by several students, as well as myself and another adult.  We have, repeatedly, to talk to her about personal hygene, but honestly it doesn't change anything.  Her clothes have stains, and stuff stuck to them.  How does any parent not catch that as their child is walking out the door and say "please change", as well as at least get her wash her own clothes.

As far as the pads and period, her mother never talked to her about any of it.  When the nurse talked to her about it she was confused and a bit surprised to hear that it was normal, as well as what she needed each month.  It is not the school nurse's job to make sure this girl knows this stuff, nor provide what she needs, but the parents expect it.

To the women who made comments about 102 not being bad for a 15 year old or that she should know to stay home.  No 102 may not be bad for a 15 year old, but anything above 99.9 is required that a student stay home to keep from getting other students sick.  She did what her parents told her and came to school.  The father expected the school to keep her with a fever which is against school health policy.


*Edit 2*

As far as her being special ed or "mentally retarded" as one lady stated, she has no official diagnosis.  All we know is that she is overly emotional and socially ackward.  There is nothing about a diagnosis of any kind.  From what we have seen and experienced her parents are very uninvolved in the life of their child.  There are very few responses from them concerning anything about her.  It's very sad honestly.  The anger of the father expecting the school to keep a sick child did not help his case of being an involved, caring father.

Posted by Anonymous on Jan. 14, 2013 at 3:14 PM
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notjstasocermom
by Emerald Member on Jan. 14, 2013 at 3:24 PM

Is she mentally disabled?

Anonymous
by Anonymous 3 on Jan. 14, 2013 at 3:25 PM
She would not if the school requires permission slips.


And it is a form of neglect

Quoting Anonymous:

Quoting Anonymous:

I would be contacting CPS because in a way they are neglecting her.



For the ones saying the school should have taught her about her period, not all schools have that program.

not neglect at all. Yes she would have learned about her period.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 9 on Jan. 14, 2013 at 3:25 PM
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Well then you suck as a mother.

Quoting Anonymous:

Quoting spunky946:

Omg that's terrible.

I don't see a big issue with most of it personally and yes I have teens.
MrsRinehart2010
by on Jan. 14, 2013 at 3:26 PM

 

Quoting Anonymous:

Quoting MrsRinehart2010:


so, why did you need smooth legs?

 because hair is gross lol (i hate hair. , an believe me kids are cruel. I remember girsbeing made fun of for not having shaved legs an shaved unerarms . ( an it wasnt that long ago  , so i can only magine how it is now an days)

Lovingmyks
by Bronze Member on Jan. 14, 2013 at 3:26 PM
That's so sad.. Have you said anything to someone at the school?
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mary841108
by on Jan. 14, 2013 at 3:26 PM

 not saying its right in anyway, BUT my mom had a complete hysterectomy when i was 6 yrs old, so she never had pads/tampons. by time i got my period my older sister moved out so again, none well obviously my mom wasnt worthless trash so she went and bought them, but if the girls parents are really how she is making them out to be, then i can see the mom not sharing/buying

Quoting Anonymous:

It can't be as bad as you're making it out to be. How do you know this girl so well?

At 15, she's fully capable of showering daily - on her own. Same with her clothes. She can wash the ones she has and wear them. If the mom lives at home, does she not have pads/tampons for herself? I doubt she hoards them away from this girl. You learn sex ed in school and learn all about periods, so she should at least know that much. About shaving her legs, meh, I wouldn't be too concerned. A lot of those things seem like they may have been exaggerated. If not, why have you done nothing about it yet?

 

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Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Jan. 14, 2013 at 3:27 PM
Quoting mary841108:


they don't need to shave at 15, 25 or even 40. I havev2 past 10 and neither shave anything. They are both competive gymnasts too, so get over your BS.
lnrmom
by Ruby Member on Jan. 14, 2013 at 3:27 PM

Period discussions began for me in grade school, for my girls too. And every health class has discussed it. *shrug* you don't have that?

15 yo girls don't NEED to shave. It's not a necessity. It's a vanity thing. I personally started when I was in grade school, but that's me.

My girls are 15 & 16. They are responsible for letting me know when they need pads as I don't have that problem anymore so it's never on my radar. They are also responsible for all aspects of personal hygiene and for doing their own laundry. Is this girl a SPED kid?

keriley1
by Silver Member on Jan. 14, 2013 at 3:27 PM

Could you point out where exactly I said she couldn't??? A parent tho should still be making her do it if she doesn't do it herself. Thats kinda part of being a parent.

Quoting Anonymous:

Quoting keriley1:

We went over why periods happen in like, 5th or 6th grade, so I think its weird that she wouldn't know that?? Not that its the schools responsiblity to teach her that, but still. I was shaving WAY before 15, and she should be showering AT LEAST every other day. Poor kid. She shouldn't have gone to school if she was sick. Thats how the sickness gets spread, people don't STAY HOME.


she is a big girl and can shower herself.


NiCo86
by on Jan. 14, 2013 at 3:27 PM
thats beyond terrible :(

Quoting Anonymous:

One of the kids in the school I work at was sent to school with a temp of 102 today.  She was immediately sent to the nurse and the parents were called to pick her up.  The father was actually angry he had to pick up his sick child from school.  He shouldn't have sent the child to school to begin with, but he was mad because they wouldn't let her stay at school.  It's sad enough that this poor child's parents don't pay enough attention to realize their 15 year old child only showers twice a week, wears the same clothes to school almost every day of the week, don't buy her pads or tampons for that time of the month nor does she understand what a period is or why she gets it, doesn't know her shoe size so keep buying her shoes 2 sizes too big, doesn't shave or know about shaving her legs, and the list goes on.  This was just the straw that broke the camel's back for me.  I am so pissed.  I do my best not to judge other people's parenting abilities, but this poor girl deserves some attention and regard from her parents.  It's just so freaking sad and makes me so mad!


If there are grammar, punctions, or spelling errors, get over it because I really do not care right now.

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