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He did this right in front of dh EDIT

Posted by Anonymous   + Show Post
About 2 years ago me and dh were headed for divorce.we both went on to see other people but decided to try and work on our marriage so things are great with us now.

The guy I was seeing works as a highway patrol officer and was a pretty good guy.when things ended he wasn't happy and we never spoke again.

DH gets involved in a nasty car pile up on the highway heading home.thinking something is seriously wrong I get off work and head to the er where he is.

Apparently the er is sooo packed that most of patients waiting to be seen are out in the lobby area.dh arm is broken so me,DH,his niece and brother are just sitting around with everyone else.

All of a sudden some whispers in my ear "all that fucking we did paid off".I turned around and it was my old guy.I wasn't rude but shocked by what he said.he gave me a hug and pushed his card down my shirt and kissed me on the cheek.

Walking out he wink at dh and all hell broke loose.dh is pissed because he claims I didn't do anything to prevent what happened while his family sat and watched.ummm we are in a crowded hospital and what was I supposed to do? Smack the guy and get arrested? Assault on an officer,a charge I will not make.

If you were in this situation what would you have done?

EDIT:
Now he sent me friend request on fb.I haven't accepted and dh is like i should so I can have more evidence against him,don't know what to do.I don't want to just let this go after what he did.
Posted by Anonymous on Jan. 14, 2013 at 5:30 PM
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Master_Debater
by on Jan. 14, 2013 at 5:41 PM
I'd file charges too. Way outta line there.
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NiCo86
by on Jan. 14, 2013 at 5:42 PM
i would have said something to him about his inappropriateness, returned his card, and filed a report with his supervisor (assuming he was on duty).
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Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Jan. 14, 2013 at 5:43 PM
Yea exactly.I didn't know what to do.a lady sitting behind me asked if I needed her to grab another officer but I'd rather go to the office and speak with someone.luckily enough she gave me her number in case I need a witness statement.


Quoting Des10ed2b:

in the shock of the moment, you are never sure what to do! your husband is just irritated because it was inappropriate. but it wasnt YOU that was inapproppriate, it was this other guy. he just needs somewhere to voice his frustration and you are the closest he can get. 


Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Jan. 14, 2013 at 5:44 PM
They got out of the er so fast I couldn't catch him.after he hugged me he pushed me back into my seat.him and some other officers were laughing about the shit


Quoting NiCo86:

i would have said something to him about his inappropriateness, returned his card, and filed a report with his supervisor (assuming he was on duty).

sheymann
by Gold Member on Jan. 14, 2013 at 5:46 PM

I would go file a complaint. On duty or not, he gave you his card, therefor he could be considered "working".

Anonymous
by Anonymous 5 on Jan. 14, 2013 at 5:47 PM

File a complaint. Let your DH initiate the complaint if it makes him feel better. Let him see that hitting the guy where it hurts (in his wallet when he gets put on unpaid leave, and the rep when it gets around what he did) is far better than you creating a scene or going to jail for assault. And if you happen to see the asshole, make sure you are ALL OVER your DH. Rub that shit in deep. And be extra affectionate with your DH. He deserves a little extra sugar for not ending the guy right there in public in the middle of the waiting room.

AngelRT
by Gold Member on Jan. 14, 2013 at 5:48 PM

Your husband is pissed b/c you did nothing to let the guy know you were not interested still. I would be pissed at you as well. You should have made it clear RIGHT then! Filing a complaint wont do shit. His friends will probably lie for him. 

mich.el.le
by on Jan. 14, 2013 at 5:48 PM

Whoa. Um, Idk what I would do. I would probably be too shocked to do anything.

NiCo86
by on Jan. 14, 2013 at 6:31 PM

 I would most definitely be filing a formal complaint with his superior....

Quoting Anonymous:

They got out of the er so fast I couldn't catch him.after he hugged me he pushed me back into my seat.him and some other officers were laughing about the shit


Quoting NiCo86:

i would have said something to him about his inappropriateness, returned his card, and filed a report with his supervisor (assuming he was on duty).

 

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truealaskanmom
by on Jan. 14, 2013 at 6:35 PM

Quit making excuses, what I am getting is that you liked it and are just trying to CYA now that your husband is mad.  What he did was unprofessional and causes such an issue in law enforcement.  There needs to be a complaint filed, and you should have said something on the spot. 

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