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He did this right in front of dh EDIT

Posted by Anonymous   + Show Post
About 2 years ago me and dh were headed for divorce.we both went on to see other people but decided to try and work on our marriage so things are great with us now.

The guy I was seeing works as a highway patrol officer and was a pretty good guy.when things ended he wasn't happy and we never spoke again.

DH gets involved in a nasty car pile up on the highway heading home.thinking something is seriously wrong I get off work and head to the er where he is.

Apparently the er is sooo packed that most of patients waiting to be seen are out in the lobby area.dh arm is broken so me,DH,his niece and brother are just sitting around with everyone else.

All of a sudden some whispers in my ear "all that fucking we did paid off".I turned around and it was my old guy.I wasn't rude but shocked by what he said.he gave me a hug and pushed his card down my shirt and kissed me on the cheek.

Walking out he wink at dh and all hell broke loose.dh is pissed because he claims I didn't do anything to prevent what happened while his family sat and watched.ummm we are in a crowded hospital and what was I supposed to do? Smack the guy and get arrested? Assault on an officer,a charge I will not make.

If you were in this situation what would you have done?

EDIT:
Now he sent me friend request on fb.I haven't accepted and dh is like i should so I can have more evidence against him,don't know what to do.I don't want to just let this go after what he did.
Posted by Anonymous on Jan. 14, 2013 at 5:30 PM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Jan. 14, 2013 at 7:00 PM
No we haven't had any contact since 2009.he embarrassed me in front of alot people including my DH and his family.


Quoting Anonymous:

she? you mean you? what really happened? your former lover made an asshole move in front of your husband. it's not like you did it. he obviously doesn't have complete trust in you or you both would have been able to be like...oh man, that guy is an asshole, isn't he? we're lucky we moved past that! instead, you're making a big deal out of nothing. you haven't seen him since you ended it, you more than likely won't see him again anytime soon.


Quoting Anonymous:

Why should she "let it go?"



Quoting Anonymous:


big deal, let it go. both of you.





Anonymous
by Anonymous on Jan. 14, 2013 at 7:02 PM

have you never been embarrassed about anything in your life? you're only going to garner more negative attention to yourself by bringing attention to what happened. let it go. move on.

Quoting Anonymous:

No we haven't had any contact since 2009.he embarrassed me in front of alot people including my DH and his family.


Quoting Anonymous:

she? you mean you? what really happened? your former lover made an asshole move in front of your husband. it's not like you did it. he obviously doesn't have complete trust in you or you both would have been able to be like...oh man, that guy is an asshole, isn't he? we're lucky we moved past that! instead, you're making a big deal out of nothing. you haven't seen him since you ended it, you more than likely won't see him again anytime soon.


Quoting Anonymous:

Why should she "let it go?"



Quoting Anonymous:


big deal, let it go. both of you.



 



Anonymous
by Anonymous on Jan. 14, 2013 at 7:02 PM
What did He mean by all that fucking paid off? Paid off for what?
Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Jan. 14, 2013 at 7:03 PM
I'm still trying to figure out myself.


Quoting Anonymous:

What did He mean by all that fucking paid off? Paid off for what?

Anonymous
by Anonymous on Jan. 14, 2013 at 7:04 PM

i think a call to his supervisor is in order. if he did this in uniform I think he needs to be reported.

Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Jan. 14, 2013 at 7:06 PM
He was and tomorrow I will be doing just that.idc how things turn out for him


Quoting Anonymous:

i think a call to his supervisor is in order. if he did this in uniform I think he needs to be reported.


Anonymous
by Anonymous on Jan. 14, 2013 at 7:08 PM
He sounds like a dick.Was He like that when y'all dated?


Quoting Anonymous:

I'm still trying to figure out myself.




Quoting Anonymous:

What did He mean by all that fucking paid off? Paid off for what?


Pink.Frosting
by Platinum Member on Jan. 14, 2013 at 7:11 PM

Then you should *both* file  complaint.  It might make your dh feel better.  While there wasn't much you could have done in that waiting room, you could have spoken up and told him to knock it off and that he was acting very inappropriate.  But if you file a complaint, it might help soothe your dh's feelings about it.

Quoting Anonymous:

Dh is talking about doing that himself.being my husband he could do it.I don't know what that guy was thinking


Quoting Anonymous:

 

if he was on duty when he did this you need to file a complaint with his dept officers like that give the good ones a bad rep and I am not ok with that as a wife of a wonderful officer



Oostera
by on Jan. 14, 2013 at 7:27 PM
I can understand the shock of the moment. I've had shit like that too. It's normal. What you need to do now... Well, you know what you need to do. Your husband should be more understanding. Honestly, anyone can freeze up in any given scenario, it isn't fair of him to accuse you of not doing anything.
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Thelmama
by Ruby Member on Jan. 14, 2013 at 7:30 PM

I would file a complaint. You have witnesses that he whispered to you. They can't testify to what he said but it will back you up. He was out of line.  Report him.

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