I have no libido and it's tearing my marriage apart!!! HELP! eta. *Update*
First let me start by saying that I have been married for several years now and I am very much in love with and attracted to my husband. We have our issues but I don't know anyone out there who has a perfect marriage. We have children. We are in our mid to late 20s.
I don't know why but I have been this way for as long as I have been sexually active. Sex is super exciting for about the first 6(ish) months of a relationship but then I am just no longer interested in the physical part of it anymore. Usually this results in a break up. I REFUSE to let it happen this time. I will not let this rip apart my family.
DH even asked me tonight if I need to get me a guy on the side just to spice things up. It's not like that though. I don't sit around and fantasize about other men. I rarely dream about sex. He has tried to get me to try new things. Bought us a toy... it's still in the box. I'm just not interested in sex. He's desperate at this point and quite frankly so am I. I just don't know what to do.
Anyone else out there who is this way? Anyone have any advice? Has anyone found something that has helped them with this. Please don't reply anon and make up some crap cause that's not what I need right now. I need real advice and all the info out there on the Internet is so confusing. I thought I'd give CM a shot. Like I said... I'm desperate.
**ETA**. I am not on bc but I do have a non hormonal iud. This has been going on since way before the iud though.
**Update** I have decided what I am going to try first. DH and I are going to have sex every day for the next two weeks after the kids go to bed. I am going to put forth more of an effort to kiss him more and to all around have more physical contact (sexual and non sexual) with him throughout the day. At the end of the two weeks I'll reevaluate my desires and see what I can do from there. If my desires still have not improved then I am going to see if there is a way for me to get some hormone testing done without costing me an arm and a leg. (Maybe I'll sell my uterus... or one of the kids... or a kidney... lol)