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If you and/or your child has ADD/ADHA I need your help.

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 To start off no I have not been diagnosed with ADD/ADHD but I did take a questionnaire and was told there is a strong possibility that I do suffer from ADHD. I really believe I have this condition. Growing up I had a really hard time in school. I had trouble concentrating in school and almost NEVER stayed on task. I would just space out and look around the room. If I read something I couldn't even tell you what I just read.

I didn't do much homework but when I did I would not turn it in. I knew something was wrong with me but I didn't know what. My teachers would just count me as a lazy student that was smart if I applied myself. How can I apply myself if I can't focus? I still have these issues today and it did affect my job.

Another thing that is causing me more problems now is my memory. I thought I was losing my memory because I was (still am) trying to suppress bad memories that happened to me when I was younger. I found out that people with ADD/ADHD also have memory problems as well as the other problems I have.

My daughter is going through this too. She is 5 but already I see a lot of the problems I have she has too. She even has the speech problems (she is in speech therapy) I had growing up. All I could think was "Oh God not her too". Because I see myself in her I want to get everything I can done for her to help her out. In the mean time I will also be getting help for myself and we will go through this together.

OK now my question, What do I do after we are diagnosed?How can I help her and help myself?What medication should I stay away from? What can I expect from her and myself if we are put on medication? I of course I will ask the doctor the same questions but I want to hear it from someone that goes through this.

I'm almost to tears because I didn't get help at all growing up, except for speech. Just like I knew something was wrong with me I knew something was wrong with her too. I got her tested by the BOE and she wasn't delayed enough for services other than speech. It makes me so mad because NOW they want to test her again because they see she needs help after I've been telling them this all along.

I'm kind of scared because I don't know what to expect. All I want is for her to be successful.

I'm sorry this post is all over the place but I had to get this off my chest and get some help from you all.

Thanks for the advice in advance!!

 

 Marriedin love Mother of two boy n girl and one on the wayexpecting girl

by on Jan. 16, 2013 at 8:05 PM
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tastelikeyum
by Gold Member on Jan. 16, 2013 at 8:49 PM

 Did you go through withdrawal or anything?

Quoting Anonymous:

I took concerta for many years for my ADD before I got pregnant....I got off the medication and have managed to stay off of it for 2 years.  A healthy diet, excercise, sleep and taking care of myself has kept it manageable, but that's me and everyone is different.  I'm sure I could be more focused if I took meds, but I manage.

 

 Marriedin love Mother of two boy n girl and one on the wayexpecting girl

Rileyscute
by on Jan. 16, 2013 at 8:50 PM

For your child..contact special services/education (at her school)..and request a meeting asap..this can be done before a dx. (I am a parent surrogate for foster children, and have a SN child and custody of my niece who also has SN) Most people do not know this..so be proactive..don't take no for an answer

My son has autism and adhd..he did the best he has ever done after he was put on strattera..even making the honor roll (and yes..he is non verbal)

Medications are a personal choice..and one that you need to make on your own..but some do help immensely


LDennany
by on Jan. 16, 2013 at 8:50 PM
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I've always been told that I was stupid when I was in school. Since I've been in college I have gotten an A or B in all my classes. Including Physics *grumble* and Statistics *gag*. We just have a different way of learning that doesn't work for many. People with ADHD rock.

I have no doubt that your son will grow up to be a fine young man. As long as he has your support and love he will do great.


Quoting momwith2monkeys:

  Just because a person has ADHD does not mean that they are not intelligent or have bad behavior or lazy. i  hate it when people say that people who have adhd are not intelligent because from what i have learned with having 2 kids who have adhd is the children with adhd are extremely smart. My son  was getting B even when he was spending 3 out of 5 days at home because of his behavior is school.  and when he is in school everyday he makes straight A's except for in writing and that is only because he has trouble with the motor function in his hands and has always had trouble writing and just learn how to tie his shoes a year ago and he is almost 10.


Quoting LDennany:

I have ADHD and what you described was to the T how I was in high school. People can tell you what medications to stay away from but that won't help you. All people are wired different what works for some people may not work for others. I didn't get a good medication regimen until I was a senior on high school. My grades went from straight F's to straight A's that year.

I, however, have a killer memory and I pay super close attention to detail. I haven't been medicated for my ADHD since I turned 18. It's rumored that some people can grow out of ADHD. I don't believe this to be true. I think I just learned how to grow into it and made it work for me. People may find it strange. I study better when the T.V. I'd on and the kids are running around or in busy areas at my school.

The MOST important thing you can do is educate yourself. Research medications and other "suggested" treatments. Help your child to learn how to manage it and make it work for them. Don't let it be an excuse for behavior or lack of work. Just because a person has ADHD does not mean that they are not intelligent or have bad behavior or lazy. Talk to your child teachers and figure out a plan when it comes to homework and it getting completed and turned in.

I still have my 'issues" but in the grand scheme of things, I function just fine. Be your child's greatest advocate!

 

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tastelikeyum
by Gold Member on Jan. 16, 2013 at 8:55 PM

 Very motivational!! Thank you so much!! I ended up dropping out of school after a teacher told me she doesn't know why I even come to school. At first I would just skip her class and go to my other classes but after that I just had enough. I did go to a military school after that and went to college.

Quoting LDennany:

I have ADHD and what you described was to the T how I was in high school. People can tell you what medications to stay away from but that won't help you. All people are wired different what works for some people may not work for others. I didn't get a good medication regimen until I was a senior on high school. My grades went from straight F's to straight A's that year.

I, however, have a killer memory and I pay super close attention to detail. I haven't been medicated for my ADHD since I turned 18. It's rumored that some people can grow out of ADHD. I don't believe this to be true. I think I just learned how to grow into it and made it work for me. People may find it strange. I study better when the T.V. I'd on and the kids are running around or in busy areas at my school.

The MOST important thing you can do is educate yourself. Research medications and other "suggested" treatments. Help your child to learn how to manage it and make it work for them. Don't let it be an excuse for behavior or lack of work. Just because a person has ADHD does not mean that they are not intelligent or have bad behavior or lazy. Talk to your child teachers and figure out a plan when it comes to homework and it getting completed and turned in.

I still have my 'issues" but in the grand scheme of things, I function just fine. Be your child's greatest advocate!

 

 Marriedin love Mother of two boy n girl and one on the wayexpecting girl

tastelikeyum
by Gold Member on Jan. 16, 2013 at 8:57 PM

 We have an appt. next week so I hope all goes well. Was the behavior therapist at his school?

Quoting momwith2monkeys:

 this, with my son i went to his pediatrician and he referred us to a  therapist who ended up being his behavior therapist for a few years. He is the one who diagnosed my son with adhd and ODD. they will give you a questionnaire, actually 2 of them, one is for you to fill out and the other is for her teacher to fill out and they will go from there.  the Pediatrician is where to start.

 

Quoting AngeLnChainZ:

Start with her pediatrician, get a referral for a therapist who specializes in pediatrics and go from there..

Quoting tastelikeyum:

 Right now she goes to headstart but the BOE is trying to step in to get her more help now. For the most part is it mainly the schools that help out or support groups? I really have no clue.

Quoting Pooobaihr:

As for your daughter, try looking for a place that specialize in working with children with this disorder. 

No Idea what to do for you.

 


 

 

 Marriedin love Mother of two boy n girl and one on the wayexpecting girl

tastelikeyum
by Gold Member on Jan. 16, 2013 at 8:58 PM

 I wish I could drink caffeine everyday lol!!

Quoting baquick:

Drink caffeine. If you are able to concentrate better then there ya go. Caffeine has pretty much the opposite effect in people with ADHD than those without it.

 

 Marriedin love Mother of two boy n girl and one on the wayexpecting girl

tastelikeyum
by Gold Member on Jan. 16, 2013 at 9:01 PM

 Its funny that you say that because my daughter is an EXTREAMLY picky eater. I guess that would be a good start for her.

Quoting AngeLnChainZ:

Some pediatricians will try to treat in office, but most of the time they aren't really qualified to do much more than dispense medication and ADHD children need therapy time, and far more than just to be thrown on meds and sent on their way. My son was involved in play therapy for 2 years before we medicated and I also followed a fairly strict diet with him. Limit the processed foods, sugars, and avoid any and all dyes (Red Dyes are the worst) . You would be surprised at how many every day items have these things in them. Read all food, drink, and medication labels carefully!

Quoting tastelikeyum:

 Thank you!! I didn't know that you could treat this without medication. Do doctors not make a referral for this?

Quoting AngeLnChainZ:

All of that needs to be addressed with someone who specializes in ADHD, most of the time pediatricians are not the best options as they most of time just want to throw them on meds and say to hell with it. Every child is different, what works for one child may not work for another (My son has been on multiple meds, with varying dosings along the way  to find one that was just right.) ALso keep in mind, she may not even need medication even if she is diagnosed ADHD- There are diet changes, therapies, and plenty of other things that can be done before you resort to medication (And ultimately it should be the last resort)

 


 

momwith2monkeys
by on Jan. 16, 2013 at 9:02 PM
children being sluggish usually happens when they are overmedicated. Now the start them out on a low dosage and work them up to the dosage that is right for them. My kids run and play and act normal while on their medication just not has hyper as in climbing the walls, jumping off of stuff. My kids get crazy off of meds. One time i took my daughter off of meds for the weekend just to see how she would react. we live in an RV park at the time because we had jus moved to this area and had yet to find us a house. she was off of them Saturday and Sunday. Monday morning we had a knock on our door, we were told we had to 5pm to move out of the park they had video of my daughter climbing in the ice machine and in the laundry room jumping from washer to washer. She was 12. She would have never done that if she was on her meds. You could ask the doctor for a non stimilant, if you feel more comfrontable, they usually don't are suppose to be better than stimilants. but from my experience they usually work better with add not adhd because are more focus on concentration and not as much with being hyper.
Quoting tastelikeyum:

 Thank you so much!! I believe she has ADHD. She is hyper and its hard to get her to focus. When she is seated and having one on one interaction she is easily distracted. Did your kids seem sluggish after taking the meds? I know my brother was on Ritalin and it made him so different that his teacher begged my mom to take him off. His teacher would rather deal with him hyper than not active at all.

Quoting momwith2monkeys:

both of my children have adhd. I believe i had it growing up but never diagnosed with it. After my oldest got diagnosed is when i figured out i had it too. I have learn to control it over the years and can force my to stay on task and focus. The type of meds will depend on your child. The doctor will start her out on a low dosage and work her up to what will help her. She is 5 so i figure she is probably in k. After you get the diagnosed go to the school and start the process of getting her an IEP, that will help her in school. It can take a while to get the IEP. MY daughter ( my oldest) i have never had to get an IEP but my son has and IEP and it took me from K til he was in 2rd grade to finally get it going. They will probably switch her meds too until the find the right one for her. I personally don't like Ritalin, concerta, focilan. My son had terrible side effect with those and cause him to develop tic. I perfer Vyvanse or Adderall. Both of my kids are on Vyvanse and my son also take adderall at 1 pm at school. ALso you can looking into non stimilants. My daughter take Vyvanse and intuniv in the morning. Intuniv is a non stimilant and it help keep her focus in school. You may not see any affect at first but as the meds start getting into her system you will see the affect of them. Just don't let them give her to high of a dosage. Pm anytimes if you have any question. MY daughter is 13 and was diagnosed at age 5 and my son is 9 almost 10 and was diagnosed at age 5. do you think she has adhd or just add?

 

LilyofPhilly
by Platinum Member on Jan. 16, 2013 at 9:02 PM
First off, calm down. There are positive aspects to ADHD.
I suggest you go to the library and read every book they have on ADHD. Thom Hartman has some good ones. Answers to Distraction is an easy read too.
I take Wellbutrin. It has helped a lot.
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LDennany
by on Jan. 16, 2013 at 9:02 PM
Yea. Caffeine makes me tired. *sigh*.

Quoting tastelikeyum:

 I wish I could drink caffeine everyday lol!!


Quoting baquick:

Drink caffeine. If you are able to concentrate better then there ya go. Caffeine has pretty much the opposite effect in people with ADHD than those without it.

 

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