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If you and/or your child has ADD/ADHA I need your help.

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 To start off no I have not been diagnosed with ADD/ADHD but I did take a questionnaire and was told there is a strong possibility that I do suffer from ADHD. I really believe I have this condition. Growing up I had a really hard time in school. I had trouble concentrating in school and almost NEVER stayed on task. I would just space out and look around the room. If I read something I couldn't even tell you what I just read.

I didn't do much homework but when I did I would not turn it in. I knew something was wrong with me but I didn't know what. My teachers would just count me as a lazy student that was smart if I applied myself. How can I apply myself if I can't focus? I still have these issues today and it did affect my job.

Another thing that is causing me more problems now is my memory. I thought I was losing my memory because I was (still am) trying to suppress bad memories that happened to me when I was younger. I found out that people with ADD/ADHD also have memory problems as well as the other problems I have.

My daughter is going through this too. She is 5 but already I see a lot of the problems I have she has too. She even has the speech problems (she is in speech therapy) I had growing up. All I could think was "Oh God not her too". Because I see myself in her I want to get everything I can done for her to help her out. In the mean time I will also be getting help for myself and we will go through this together.

OK now my question, What do I do after we are diagnosed?How can I help her and help myself?What medication should I stay away from? What can I expect from her and myself if we are put on medication? I of course I will ask the doctor the same questions but I want to hear it from someone that goes through this.

I'm almost to tears because I didn't get help at all growing up, except for speech. Just like I knew something was wrong with me I knew something was wrong with her too. I got her tested by the BOE and she wasn't delayed enough for services other than speech. It makes me so mad because NOW they want to test her again because they see she needs help after I've been telling them this all along.

I'm kind of scared because I don't know what to expect. All I want is for her to be successful.

I'm sorry this post is all over the place but I had to get this off my chest and get some help from you all.

Thanks for the advice in advance!!

 

 Marriedin love Mother of two boy n girl and one on the wayexpecting girl

by on Jan. 16, 2013 at 8:05 PM
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LilyofPhilly
by Platinum Member on Jan. 16, 2013 at 9:04 PM
That's ridiculous, and untrue.

Quoting Anonymous:

they wont give you meds unless you are working or in school.

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AngeLnChainZ
by Silver Member on Jan. 16, 2013 at 9:05 PM

One thing you may try with your child (and it's not for everyone, this I understand so you may not want to) but some days where my son is just balls to the wall go, go, go he can drink 1 can Mt. Dew or Dr. Pepper or even a small cup of coffee and it helps him focus so much better.

Quoting tastelikeyum:

 I wish I could drink caffeine everyday lol!!

Quoting baquick:

Drink caffeine. If you are able to concentrate better then there ya go. Caffeine has pretty much the opposite effect in people with ADHD than those without it.

 


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Anonymous
by Anonymous on Jan. 16, 2013 at 9:07 PM

actually, its quite common. most drs feel that unless you need meds for work, or school, that it doesnt affect your life as an adult so much that you need meds for it. ocd/ anxiety is a different story, but for an adult, who stays at home, your outta luck. my dd has adhd, i have add.

Quoting LilyofPhilly:

That's ridiculous, and untrue.

Quoting Anonymous:

they wont give you meds unless you are working or in school.


LilyofPhilly
by Platinum Member on Jan. 16, 2013 at 9:08 PM
Do not drink caffiene if you are pregnant!

Quoting tastelikeyum:

 I wish I could drink caffeine everyday lol!!


Quoting baquick:

Drink caffeine. If you are able to concentrate better then there ya go. Caffeine has pretty much the opposite effect in people with ADHD than those without it.

 

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Anonymous
by Anonymous on Jan. 16, 2013 at 9:08 PM

 no. but the therapist he had was great. we moved so we had to find another one and i don't like the one he was assigned to here but if we happen to move back, i am hoping i can talk my husband into moving back i am going to go right back to where he was going. He was so supportive and understood the disorder. he witness my son have meltdown and help me work through them.

Quoting tastelikeyum:

 We have an appt. next week so I hope all goes well. Was the behavior therapist at his school?

Quoting momwith2monkeys:

 this, with my son i went to his pediatrician and he referred us to a  therapist who ended up being his behavior therapist for a few years. He is the one who diagnosed my son with adhd and ODD. they will give you a questionnaire, actually 2 of them, one is for you to fill out and the other is for her teacher to fill out and they will go from there.  the Pediatrician is where to start.

 

Quoting AngeLnChainZ:

Start with her pediatrician, get a referral for a therapist who specializes in pediatrics and go from there..

Quoting tastelikeyum:

 Right now she goes to headstart but the BOE is trying to step in to get her more help now. For the most part is it mainly the schools that help out or support groups? I really have no clue.

Quoting Pooobaihr:

As for your daughter, try looking for a place that specialize in working with children with this disorder. 

No Idea what to do for you.

 


 

 

 

AngeLnChainZ
by Silver Member on Jan. 16, 2013 at 9:08 PM

Wow Anon, I don't know where you get your  information from but you really need to check your sources, that isn't true at all!

Quoting LilyofPhilly:

That's ridiculous, and untrue.

Quoting Anonymous:

they wont give you meds unless you are working or in school.


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AngeLnChainZ
by Silver Member on Jan. 16, 2013 at 9:09 PM

No, MOST doctors do not feel that way... ADHD is no different than anxiety, or anything else.

Quoting Anonymous:

actually, its quite common. most drs feel that unless you need meds for work, or school, that it doesnt affect your life as an adult so much that you need meds for it. ocd/ anxiety is a different story, but for an adult, who stays at home, your outta luck. my dd has adhd, i have add.

Quoting LilyofPhilly:

That's ridiculous, and untrue.

Quoting Anonymous:

they wont give you meds unless you are working or in school.



                                                      Fire13Life

   

                                  

    

ambermario4ever
by on Jan. 16, 2013 at 9:09 PM

Do not put your child on any medication until you try everything else first. My mom put me on meds and they made me a complete zombie. There are diet changes you can do and also yoga for kids helps as well. Get some books on diet and ADHD and read about your options and choices. 

LilyofPhilly
by Platinum Member on Jan. 16, 2013 at 9:10 PM
No doctor ever denied me meds when I was a SAHM. You don't think caring for children and a house requires just as much focus as a job?

Quoting Anonymous:

actually, its quite common. most drs feel that unless you need meds for work, or school, that it doesnt affect your life as an adult so much that you need meds for it. ocd/ anxiety is a different story, but for an adult, who stays at home, your outta luck. my dd has adhd, i have add.


Quoting LilyofPhilly:

That's ridiculous, and untrue.



Quoting Anonymous:

they wont give you meds unless you are working or in school.


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tastelikeyum
by Gold Member on Jan. 16, 2013 at 9:10 PM

 I think I need to do more logic problems and give my brain an exercise. One day I started the car and forgot. I was looking all in the seats for the key lol. I could be holding something but yet looking for it at the same time.

Quoting Axlynnx:

Oops hit the anon button before!

 

Your welcome. I think as long as you stay active, keep learning, reading whatever you like to do to keep your mind going you'll be fine :) I always like to do those memory type games to keep my mind active. Sounds lame but it helps. I'm only 25 but some days I feel like I have the mind of a 90 year old. So since I stopped my medication I tend to take advantage of every learning opportunity I come across. I've noticed I've been reading books so much more since I stopped my medication. Wen I was younger I was never on medication and when it came to school I'd only get good grades in a class if it was one that interested me. If it was something I was not interested in then I mentally checked out and paid next to no attention. So maybe ifyr child is having a similar situation just help them find things that interest them to keep them focused in school. Good luck :)

Quoting tastelikeyum:

 Thank you so much. I do keep a big calendar on my fridge and write everything down. Even if I do something the day before that was not on my calendar I have to write it down, although that event has passed. I really don't want me or my daughter to take meds but I thought that was the only way to treat it, or at least control it.

Quoting Anonymous:

I have it. I was taking medications for it for the past few years but stopped taking it a few months ago. It helped me focus a lt but if I forgot to take it I'd go through withdraw. I hated felling dependent on it so I weaned myself off of it and just function without meds. Plus i learned it affects your health later on inlife if your taking adderall. Sure I forget things and am easily distracted but if I concentrate on focusing I manage just fine. I also tend to keep myself busy and write notes on things I need to remember which helps. It's something you just learn to adjust to. It's not a " disability " unless you allow yourself to live like it is. Take control of it don't let it take control of you.

 


 

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