Join the Meeting Place for Moms!
Talk to other moms, share advice, and have fun!

(minimum 6 characters)

Mom Confessions Mom Confessions

If you and/or your child has ADD/ADHA I need your help.

Posted by   + Show Post

 To start off no I have not been diagnosed with ADD/ADHD but I did take a questionnaire and was told there is a strong possibility that I do suffer from ADHD. I really believe I have this condition. Growing up I had a really hard time in school. I had trouble concentrating in school and almost NEVER stayed on task. I would just space out and look around the room. If I read something I couldn't even tell you what I just read.

I didn't do much homework but when I did I would not turn it in. I knew something was wrong with me but I didn't know what. My teachers would just count me as a lazy student that was smart if I applied myself. How can I apply myself if I can't focus? I still have these issues today and it did affect my job.

Another thing that is causing me more problems now is my memory. I thought I was losing my memory because I was (still am) trying to suppress bad memories that happened to me when I was younger. I found out that people with ADD/ADHD also have memory problems as well as the other problems I have.

My daughter is going through this too. She is 5 but already I see a lot of the problems I have she has too. She even has the speech problems (she is in speech therapy) I had growing up. All I could think was "Oh God not her too". Because I see myself in her I want to get everything I can done for her to help her out. In the mean time I will also be getting help for myself and we will go through this together.

OK now my question, What do I do after we are diagnosed?How can I help her and help myself?What medication should I stay away from? What can I expect from her and myself if we are put on medication? I of course I will ask the doctor the same questions but I want to hear it from someone that goes through this.

I'm almost to tears because I didn't get help at all growing up, except for speech. Just like I knew something was wrong with me I knew something was wrong with her too. I got her tested by the BOE and she wasn't delayed enough for services other than speech. It makes me so mad because NOW they want to test her again because they see she needs help after I've been telling them this all along.

I'm kind of scared because I don't know what to expect. All I want is for her to be successful.

I'm sorry this post is all over the place but I had to get this off my chest and get some help from you all.

Thanks for the advice in advance!!

 

 Marriedin love Mother of two boy n girl and one on the wayexpecting girl

by on Jan. 16, 2013 at 8:05 PM
Replies (91-96):
tastelikeyum
by Gold Member on Jan. 16, 2013 at 10:42 PM

 Thank you very much!!

Quoting AngeLnChainZ:

The caffeine acts as the stimulant just like the meds would.. What hypes up a non-adhd child/adult will usually have the opposite affect on someone with ADHD. For example, my son can drink all the soda he wants and it will knock him on his butt but if I give him something like benedryl that would typically make a child drowsy it wires hiim up and he's bouncing off the walls crazy. (But again, all kids are different.) Good luck with the doctors appointment.

Quoting tastelikeyum:

Im going to try that out. I thought it would just make it worse though.
Quoting AngeLnChainZ:

One thing you may try with your child (and it's not for everyone, this I understand so you may not want to) but some days where my son is just balls to the wall go, go, go he can drink 1 can Mt. Dew or Dr. Pepper or even a small cup of coffee and it helps him focus so much better.

Quoting tastelikeyum:

 I wish I could drink caffeine everyday lol!!

Quoting baquick:

Drink caffeine. If you are able to concentrate better then there ya go. Caffeine has pretty much the opposite effect in people with ADHD than those without it.

 



 

tastelikeyum
by Gold Member on Jan. 16, 2013 at 11:17 PM

I am meeting with 4 different people at the school for services. I really hope they put her in the program at the school without her being diagnosed with ADHD.

Quoting lovinmykiddo07:

I'm not sure about you, because I have no experience with adults that have ADHD/ADD.

I've known something was off with Elijah for awhile, he has been going to therapy since he was 3. So 2 years of therapy and it got no where. He wouldn't sleep at night, nor did he take naps during the day. He was very hyper active, like insanely hyper. We'd take him to the park to run it out and he just would never tire. When he was in Pre-K he never did his work because he didn't want to come to the table. He HATES sitting. He always wants to be moving, to be doing SOMETHING. We thought, eh, he is still pretty young. We started taking sugar, gluten, dyes, ect out of his diet & eating healthier. It helped a little. I can def. tell if he has something with red dye, because he goes absolutely crazy. But once he started REAL Kindergarten we realized we had to get something done.  He was being suspended because he wouldn't sit down in his desk. He wanted to walk around the room all day. They could never get him to sit for longer than 2 minutes. He would tell me "We read a story about cats. I like cats. But I couldn't sit down because it hurt my brain too much to sit down. I have to move or it hurts my brain". :/  Once they threatened to expel him we decided it was time to try medication. 

With the five year old, I suggest talking to her pediatrician about your concerns. She can refer you to a psychiatrist, therapist, mental health specialist, SOMEONE who can help her out.

She'll need to be evaluated. When my 5 year old son was evaluated his therapist gave me some forms. She had SO & I fill one out separately, then gave me forms to give to his teacher and daycare provider. She also filled out one of the forms. Once everyone turned thier forms back into her, she went over them. She wanted to see if we were all seeing the same thing with him. She did her little score thing & determined that he had ADHD and Generalized Anxiety. 

His therapist also works for the school, so there may be someone at the school who can help out too. We chose to go that route because MOST of his problems were focusing at school. That way she was literally right there if he needed her. Communications between his teacher & therapist were easier, ect. Anyway, she set us up with a psychiatrist that also comes to the school. She was the one that prescribed him Concerta. 

He has been on Concerta since October. We started at 18mg. After 2 weeks he outgrew that. She pushed it to 27mg. He had been good on that until last week, we are starting to see a lot of his old behaviors, so I think we are going to have to up his dose again. :/ 

 

 Marriedin love Mother of two boy n girl and one on the wayexpecting girl

tastelikeyum
by Gold Member on Jan. 16, 2013 at 11:29 PM

 Thank you very much!!

Quoting Anonymous:

Continue to go to school, even with a loan.  You need to finish!  You sound exactly like be before I started medication.  Thankfully my daughter was tested (same issues as me) and they came back negative.  She is soooo not symptomatic now.  

Dont stop going to school, you will always have loans and good luck!  We ADD people are very bright...so welcome to the dark side

Quoting tastelikeyum:

 That is something I never wanted to do which is label my child but when you see the common areas what else could it be? I'm not telling people that indeed she does have it until she is diagnosed. Thank you so much too!! I want to go back to school to finish my BA in Child Psychology. Have to pay off this student loan first *sigh*.

Quoting Anonymous:

I think you need to get yourself straight before you treat your child.  I struggled through H.S. as well, not knowing I had severe a.d.d. until age 20 after a year in college.  Thank goodness for that prompt to get tested. I am now 40 with an 18 year old, no ADD.  You need to get a diagnosis and treatment.  I take Wellbutrin Adderall.  I graduated with a masters in special ed 2 years ago.  You can do it! 

Just please do not label your child.  Get yourself straight first.

 

 

 

 Marriedin love Mother of two boy n girl and one on the wayexpecting girl

WithHope
by on Jan. 17, 2013 at 6:34 AM
She's 5, almost 6. Sweet, and smart little girl but easily frustrated and prone to major tantrums when overwhelmed. We were super lucky. Rather than assuming she was spoiled her lazy her preschool teacher identified an issue almost 2 years ago and we've worked with a team of doctors (her ped, a nutritionist and behavioral therapist) to treat without drugs.


Quoting tastelikeyum:

 How old is she? How long have you been doing the diet and routine?


Quoting WithHope:

We control my daughters through diet & routine. So far she's well adjusted and successful!

 


Posted on the NEW CafeMom Mobile
Cooperfamily
by Ashley on Jan. 17, 2013 at 7:16 AM
There is nothing to be scared about so just calm down smh...I have had adhd since I was 15 and I'm 24 now...u and ur daughter have to see a dr to determine the issue, either its add or adhd. And speech has nothing to do with either smh...I was put on adderall xr...its very strong but had to stop takin it cuz I'm on cymbalta and they clash....just calm down and find a behavior dr...
Posted on the NEW CafeMom Mobile
Pooobaihr
by Platinum Member on Jan. 17, 2013 at 9:43 AM

I don't know about in your state but in Texas, the schools are supposed to help out with a lot of things.

Quoting tastelikeyum:

 Right now she goes to headstart but the BOE is trying to step in to get her more help now. For the most part is it mainly the schools that help out or support groups? I really have no clue.

Quoting Pooobaihr:

As for your daughter, try looking for a place that specialize in working with children with this disorder. 

No Idea what to do for you.

 



Add your quick reply below:
You must be a member to reply to this post.
Join the Meeting Place for Moms!
Talk to other moms, share advice, and have fun!

(minimum 6 characters)