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OMG! Leave me the f*** alone!!!!

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 My stbxh won't leave me the fuck alone!

He asked me in December (mid) to give him the original birth certificate and our marriage license. Well, he asked the same time he was leaving for Ohio for 3 weeks and never gave me an address, so...guess what? It got forgotten about.

I couldn't find our marriage license until like 2 weeks ago and he asked me to send them again. I told him no, he wasn't getting the originals because I have to have them to register DS for school this year and I need the license for name change and to go get a new one from the courthouse or get a certified copy from the courthouse.

He told me no. He told me that I was going to give him the originals and that it was a FELONY to withold legal documents from a soldier. Are you fucking kidding me? LOL he keeps threatening me, telling me he's getting a lawyer, etc.

He told me that he wasn't going to go to the courthouse (which btw, is 2 minutes from his house and the county that we were married in and DS was born in, I live 4hrs away) and paying for something he can get for free (i.e. get the original).

He then demanded yesterday that I overnight them. Well, he told me we was picking DS tomorrow at 9pm at our meeting location, so I was going to hand them to him and he was going to hand them back to me in front of my attorney on Tuesday.

So, he wants ME to spend money I don't have to overnight documents that he's too lazy to get? Fuck him.

It's all about his wants and him trying to control me and trying to deman me to do things. Fuck him, again!

Now...here's the kicker. I always, always, always keep my important documents in this little black box I keep under my bed. Well, guess what is gone? DS' birth certificate so he's going to have to go to the courthouse tomorrow anyway. LOL

He keeps blowing up my phone. I keep having to turn my phone off and back on bc it keeps freezing up because of the amount of times he's texting me and calling me.

He says, we need to talk about this and get it straight. I told him no....there's no need to talk...this is what it is.

by on Jan. 16, 2013 at 8:51 PM
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BeAmour
by Tonya on Jan. 16, 2013 at 9:51 PM
Simply because he will not give them back. He has ran off with our child during Thanksgiving, after he was supposed to give him back and then kept him for a week. He has refused to give me an address to where he takes our DS, etc.

I am not the immature one. I have bent over backwards for this asshat in the relm of what is good for our son and to get along.

He was very abusive and neglectful to me. He is ALWAYS trying to control me like he did while we were together.

When this all first started, he demanded that *I* get certified copies of the documents and hand deliver them to him. I then told him that he can go to the courthouse for that. He refused and demanded the originals....then demanded I overnight them to him.
All the while, he could have already been to the courthouse to get copies.

It's a big game to him. I told him the easiest way to get it done but he thinks he still has control over me.

It's not a matter of who can piss who off first. It's a matter of, I will not sit and continously take his shit. I have tried and tried and tried to be civil with him and to work with him....it does not work.


Quoting Anonymous:

I really don't see why parents can't just get along and work together.



What is so bad about giving him the papers and then him giving them back to you.



Is it reaaaally the end of the world?!



Immature people. Whatever you can do to piss the other one off you take the first chance.
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BeAmour
by Tonya on Jan. 16, 2013 at 10:27 PM
lol probably with as many times as he's cheated on me.

Quoting honeyrder:

Damn. What a douchebag. 

Are we married to the same man? lol

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BeAmour
by Tonya on Jan. 16, 2013 at 10:30 PM
Oh I know!! I'm debating on saying, "fuck you and get it yourself".

I try and be accomodating but enough is enough.


Quoting Mrs.Bryant1201:

Everything he needs he can get himself. Marriage liscence is public record and vital stastics is where he can get his own certified copy.
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AubreeGrace17
by Platinum Member on Jan. 16, 2013 at 10:31 PM
It sounds like you're holding your ground. Keep it up and don't give in.
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BeAmour
by Tonya on Jan. 16, 2013 at 10:31 PM
lmao he always will be!

I don't trust him as far as I can spit on him.


Quoting Litlmama87:

I see he's still an ass lol



I would make him get his own copies simply because he can't be trusted to return them.
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Motherof3inNJ
by Gold Member on Jan. 16, 2013 at 10:34 PM

I would just turn off my phone.

Mrs.Bryant1201
by Platinum Member on Jan. 16, 2013 at 10:35 PM

Tell him "Im not going to hold your hand while you cannot use common sense to get YOUR OWN COPIES of documents YOU need. Im sure your mom can help you do that, but it will not be me holding your hand. You are a big boy and its time to take responsibility and get the documents YOU have easy public access to."

Quoting BeAmour:

Oh I know!! I'm debating on saying, "fuck you and get it yourself".

I try and be accomodating but enough is enough.


Quoting Mrs.Bryant1201:

Everything he needs he can get himself. Marriage liscence is public record and vital stastics is where he can get his own certified copy.


honeyrder
by Platinum Member on Jan. 16, 2013 at 10:36 PM

Well, if you can't trust him to be faithful, you can't trust him with those documents. You're going to have to get another birth certificate too though, huh? 

Quoting BeAmour:

lol probably with as many times as he's cheated on me.

Quoting honeyrder:

Damn. What a douchebag. 

Are we married to the same man? lol


.Funfetti.
by on Jan. 16, 2013 at 10:37 PM
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.....psycho

aCafemomma
by Bronze Member on Jan. 16, 2013 at 10:39 PM

Tell him to get his lazy ass to the court house and get them himself END OF discussion. Tell him if he brings it up again the conversation is over. If he yells or tries to get in your face about it hang up. He calls hang up. texts don't even read them. SAVE EVERY TEXT tought  you may be able to use it in court for something. If he brings it up again later when talking hang up.

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