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Why not marry your baby's daddy?

Posted by on Jan. 16, 2013 at 10:50 PM
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This is an honest question. In my line of work, I'd say about 90% of families are not married. The man and woman are together and have a child together, but do not want to marry. I'm curious as to why people do not want to marry. I'm not bashing, just curious. Is it financial or something else? 

Edit*** I'm talking about people who are still together and are in a committed relationship but do not pursue marriage. Not people who do not want to be with their child's father or those who had a fling, etc.  Is it fear of marriage? Financial barrier? Feel that marriage isn't necessary? Etc. 

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Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 on Jan. 16, 2013 at 10:51 PM
I dont know either so heres a bump
crescentstar2
by Anne on Jan. 16, 2013 at 10:52 PM
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they don't feel they need to, they are already a family and what does a piece of paper matter. just a guess

Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Jan. 16, 2013 at 10:52 PM
Because thats crazy talk...
calvinsmommy18
by Gold Member on Jan. 16, 2013 at 10:53 PM
I think people know how expensive it is to get a divorce if it doesn't work out. Maybe not a good reason but maybe one of the reasons.
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winkyloafer
by on Jan. 16, 2013 at 10:53 PM
It's not only for financial reasons. I'm not marrying him so soon after having a baby. That, and I'm just not ready. I'm not saying that I don't want to because I do but there is no rush.
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 3 on Jan. 16, 2013 at 10:53 PM

i married mine....here's a bump!

Motherof3inNJ
by Gold Member on Jan. 16, 2013 at 10:54 PM

We're both divorced and I don't think either one of us see the importance of marriage anymore.

Charise820
by Bronze Member on Jan. 16, 2013 at 10:54 PM

you don't want to know why I didn't marry my oldest's dad.  how every my husband is a great man and we are married

BEXi
by BEXi on Jan. 16, 2013 at 10:54 PM

Im so glad I didnt marry my children's biofather.


My SO and I eventually want to get married, but it's not a priority to us. Honestly? Nothing much will change when/if we get married.. maybe how we do our taxes, but that's it.

                                                         
                                          
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lamommy23
by Bronze Member on Jan. 16, 2013 at 10:55 PM
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