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My husband won't stop...

Posted by Anonymous   + Show Post
Changing my iCloud settings on my phone so he can see my text messages and safari history. I'm sick of it, I had an emotional affair two years ago and he is still constantly in my business. He can already look at my phone whenever he wants and look at my phone bill online to see who I talk to. He knows I haven't talked to the other guy. I just can't take anymore of this... He's out of control with jealousy
Posted by Anonymous on Jan. 17, 2013 at 8:03 AM
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furbabymum
by Platinum Member on Jan. 18, 2013 at 11:48 AM

 2 years is a really long time to not be over this. Counseling, for you both.

mommy_me
by ~The Three B's~ on Jan. 18, 2013 at 11:48 AM

 Well...I dont blame him I guess

LvngMmyCampbell
by Bronze Member on Jan. 18, 2013 at 11:57 AM
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How interesting...last week a woman posted something along the lines of "I went through his phone, I know I'm horrible but he cheated and I can't trust him" Guess what everyones reply was to HER..... "You should never have gone through his phone, that's not okay because you agreed to stay with him, how is he ever supposed to gain your trust back if you keep snooping?" Seriously, the women here tore her apart. But now, it's the man doing the snooping after she cheated and "She made her bed, she has to deal." Seriously, the hipocrits on this site kill me.

gonecrazi
by Silver Member on Jan. 18, 2013 at 12:09 PM

 Some people just take longer that others makes the switch easier. I may take a while,

Anonymous
by Anonymous 78 on Jan. 18, 2013 at 12:30 PM

Go to marriage counsiling. It's been 2 years. He chose to stay. Obviously you guys aren't getting anywhere. Marriage counsiling or call it quits.

Loving19mommy92
by on Jan. 18, 2013 at 1:07 PM

Less than a year later me and my husband are fine again, they are not working on the problem that caused her to cheat. A lot of people are very judgemental about situations like this but it is both parties, my husband and I stopped being there for each other and one of us cheated on the other. Not saying we had an excuse but, if we had took the time to work on things and the one who was cheated on hadn't been so selfish for so long it would have never happened. This happened in July of last year looking at us now you wouldn't be able to tell we ever had troubles. She had an emotional affair and they sound like they need counseling. 

Quoting Beautiful31mom:

You cheated what do you expect, You cannot get that kind of trust back in 2 yrs. You made your bed now you have to lie in it.No pun intended.


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Lyssa0587
by Gold Member on Jan. 18, 2013 at 1:09 PM
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If you had problems before the affair, then you seek marriage couseling to help fix it, or you decide on divorce. You act like you had no choice in the matter? It was YOUR choice to step out of the marriage. You are the only one who is making yourself miserable. Either you deal with it, or you move on. Don't blame your husband's trust issues on a mistake that YOU made. 

Quoting Anonymous:

Do you really think there weren't problems before the affair? Why do most people have an affair? I can only fix my half. And I shouldn't have to be miserable for the rest of my life because of one mistake. We have both made mistakes in this marriage


Quoting Beautiful31mom:


Quoting Anonymous:

I expect that if he wanted to fix our marriage he wouldn't make us both miserable every day. I'm sure it's not fun for him either to feel the need to be constantly going through my things or questioning me. And it is constant. 3-4 times a day





Quoting Beautiful31mom:

You cheated what do you expect, You cannot get that kind of trust back in 2 yrs. You made your bed now you have to lie in it.No pun intended.



Honestly, are you seriously blaming him for your failed marriage? You were the one that stepped out NOT Him. If you did not cheat in the first place he wouldn't have to go through your things or question you. It is YOUR fault not his.




GoddessNDaRuff
by on Jan. 18, 2013 at 1:19 PM

Consequence of having an affair. He doesn't trust you. you'll just have to suck it up until he feels secure in the marriage again.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 79 on Jan. 18, 2013 at 1:43 PM

I still look through my dh's phone. I hadn't for a while, I thought we were doing so good. Then I find out about yet another secret email account and this lady who he's been "with" since October. This is his last chance to straigten up or he can get the hell out.

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