UPDATE, we talked.*****I think he wants me to be a sahm
******we aren't military, he works for an oil company*****
But he won't actually say it, he just drops hints....or so I think and I'm not sure how I feel about that.
It was ingrained in my head that I was to never depend on a man so even the thought of staying at home scares me.
His job is transferring him down to corpus for about a year and his concern is we would lose my pay if we were to move down there. I mentioned looking for a job down there and he said it would be hard to get a job since I'm not bilingual. I told him a concern I had was moving 4 hours away from my friends and family and he told me I could drive up during the week and stay with family for a day or two whenever I got homesick.
Then later on in the conversation we were talking about our eventual move to Korea and he reminded me that I couldn't have a job there because I'd need a work visa and maybe corpus will be the transition I need to help me be a sahm so when we get to Korea I won't be so miserable.
We have talked extensively about what I will do once we get married and I've always said I want to work, and it's not just because my grandmother has drilled it into me that I shouldn't depend on a man. I like the adult interaction that comes from a job outside of the house. I like the daily grind. I enjoy working and I don't think I'm cut out to be a sahm. He's always agreed with me when we talk about that subject but Im beginning to wonder if he just agrees with me because I've been so vocal about my feelings on it. Even if I was to ask him right now what he wanted he would skirt around the issue and tell me he wants whatever makes me happy.
Am I reading too much into his comments? I know I have a tendency to do that but am I really doing that now or is he dropping hints?
so I just got off the phone with him (he's out of town) and he said no he doesn't want that, he wants whatever I want. Whatever will make me happy.