Do your parents and/or inlaws have a key to your house?

[Anonymous]

My inlaws have a key to our house.  We are moving in a few months to our own house.....I don't want them having a key.

They have always had a key ever since I moved in with my husband.  This was his house long before I moved in.  So...not much I could do about it.  I feel uncomfortable that they can just come and go as they please.....sometimes they will bring stuff over to the house and if we aren't home they just let themselves in and think nothing of it.  I just don't like it.

Would it be awful if we don't give them a key to our new house?  I REALLY don't want them to.  My husband doesn't care either way. 

[Anonymous - Original Poster]

Yeah that's a bit of a distance lol  My inlaws are like 15 minutes away so they drop by... a lot.  And I know they'll try and get a key by saying...what of one of us ever lose our key or lock it in the house etc.....that's fine....I'll buy one of those rocks that go in your garden and you can put a key in for safe keeping LOL

They're good people but I'm just uncomfortable with it.  If my mother lived closer, she wouldn't have a key.

Quoting MistyMoo:

No.. Well, mil did when she loved with us, but I can't remember if she gave it back or not.. Not a big deal seeing as how they don't come by very often; they live in SC and we live in ON, so they usually call before dropping in LOL that's a long way to go to ind out that nobody is home.

[LilliesValley]

My mom and step dad have a key. They have only used it once when we weren't up on Christmas and just sat in the living room. They woke us up at 8:30 because we were still asleep! LOL!

If you don't want to then you need to talk to your husband beforehand. My parents know its just for emergency situations and we had that discussion with them when we gave then the key. Since they only have used it once in ten years I think they understand. Just something you need to discuss and gage on your own but its nice for someone to have an extra key if you get locked out or someone can't get a hold of you for days.

[MammaPaparazza]

No, but my babysitter does! Lol

[Anonymous - Original Poster]

Because you don't trust them or just because you want your privacy?

Quoting itsallabtthem84:

I wouldn't give a key to anyone iny family.

[CampClan]

My parents do only because I rent from them. I don't mind because dad is respectful & knocks when he comes over & doesn't just come over whenever. My mom on the other hand... when she was able to drive she would show up unannounced & it irritated me to no end. But she messed up her foot awhile back & hasn't been able to drive for about 6 months now.

[danandsamsmom]

My parents have a key, because they take care of our cats/house/mail when we are out of town.  They would never use the key just to let themselves in while we were home, unless it was some sort of extreme emergency. If they had a habit of letting themselves in, they wouldn't have a key.

 

[CreziaMommyTo2]

yes they do... but my ILs have respect.. i guess that is where the difference is.  they will NOT just come over as they please.. they have to call first or let me know when they will be coming by.  they let themselves in, if we are not home and we know about it.

if we are home they knock.

same goes for their house.  we have a key, but we dont use it, unless they are not home and we told them we were dropping something off.

[twinmommy27]

My in laws have the keypad # to the garage that will let them in but, they've only used it once at our request. I would not like them letting themselves in when they felt like it.
I would not give them a key. They abuse it.

[iluvrdo4ever]

My Dad will have a key to my house no matter where I live. Its just easier I think. And even though my in-laws dont have a key, we have theirs. I understand privacy and all that but my father wont go very far from the couch fridge or bathroom.

[weirdkids]

hell no. and honestly i dont even think i have a key to the house. i think i lost it lol i barely ever leave and when i do there is always someone home.