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No, YOU DO NOT KNOW WHAT I MEAN!

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Ughh,

NO! Soo I hate being the shitty friend venting on CM about my best friend, but lately she is MAKING ME INSANE.

Her:

30

single

no job

she gets 10,000 a month for beloning to a tribe

no kids


Me:

living in poverty

single

2 kids, 1being special needs

2 jobs

school

hardly any assistance


So Im talking to her on facebook and shes talking about how I need to go clubbing with her tongiht (ha, right!) and Im like man I just have no money, we have no food right now and its just tough but maybe sometime next month we can get together (she lives two hours away, but we talk EVERYDAY) So Im talking to her and Im like I really need some REAL food, this lettuce and italian dressing gets old after a few days. and shes like OMG I know exactly what you mean girl...

whatever bitch. you are always talking about going to this restraunt or having some expensive steaks,

YOU DO NOT KNOW WHAT I MEAN AND QUIT SAYING THAT THINKING  IT MAKES ME FEEL BETTER, because IT DOES NOT!


Sorry, Imjust so irritated with her lately. She seems to think I have 10k a month to go blow as well. Shell say things like "ughh I need a massage sooo bad, Im sooo stressed out" 

Her schedule through out the week is getting nails done, hair done, massages, facials, shopping, meeting up with friends for lunch, dinner, drinks, whatever.. going to hawaii.. the list goes on. ITS RIDIC!

Really what would their possibly be to stress out about?

Posted by Anonymous on Jan. 18, 2013 at 12:37 PM
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lucsch
by Platinum Member on Jan. 18, 2013 at 1:05 PM
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Man, we should open a CM casino!


Quoting Anonymous:

Quoting lucsch:

i wanna know what tribe she is in to get $10,000 per month.

Thats actually not even the worst http://www.theblaze.com/stories/2012/08/13/every-member-of-a-minnesota-indian-tribe-makes-at-least-1-million-a-year/



Anonymous
by Anonymous on Jan. 18, 2013 at 1:05 PM
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Quoting Anonymous:

Why are you mad at her because you made poor choices?

You know, i bet you are the same anon i see each time someone posts about being poor or single. 

how do you know her husband didnt die? 

how do you know she wasnt raped? 

how do you know it wasnt HIS poor choices? 

you have a very narrow veiw. 

pull your head out of your ass. 

Anonymous
by Anonymous on Jan. 18, 2013 at 1:06 PM

That wasnt op...

Quoting Anonymous:

LMFAO I sound bitter?!?! Lmao
Have you read your post? Youre calling your own friend a bitch and venting like a 5 year old because you're single and poor and she's single w/ no kids and living well and she used the wrong "sentence" to attemp to console you?

Ridiculous lmao
Quoting Anonymous:

Are you the out of touch friend? You sound bitter.

Quoting Anonymous:

Oh FFS -are you on your period?





Quit being so damn sensitive. That's ridiculous. She was TRYING to be empathetic so you wouldn't feel bad. She meant no harm. How petty



Quoting Anonymous:

2 kids....

There are things someone can say other than I know what you mean, or I  understand or damn that sucks for you.

How about "Im sorry you have to go through this" There are TONS of things she could say, she does know my financial stuff. We are just at the crossroads right now... if you knew the back story on some of it, maybe youd be a bit more understanding. but Im not going to post everything.

When you say  "I understand" and you DONT, it is lying...





Quoting Anonymous:

Um wtf else is she supposed to say? You would've been just as pissed had she replied with "damn, that's sucks for you!"







Why the hell would you vent to someone who is obviously financially stable and just expect her to know what to say? Call someone else to bitch about your poverty too, someone who can possibly relate.



I don't understand why women do shit like that.







And she asked you to go out with her maybe just to get you out the house. You are working 2 jobs, how is she supposed to know what you can and cannot spare? You're a single mom of 3 kids. Maybe she just wanted to get you out to relax and have some fun. You obviously are too damn uptight







gabby416
by on Jan. 18, 2013 at 1:06 PM

 I had a friend like that.  We don't talk anymore.  I miss her like crazy, but I am at a different place in my life now.  I hope you guys are able to work through this. 

kissesxoxo8882
by Gold Member on Jan. 18, 2013 at 1:06 PM

 well just tell her how it makes you feel if she is a true friend she will understand

anotherhalf
by on Jan. 18, 2013 at 1:07 PM


Quoting Anonymous:



Quoting anotherhalf:

It is hard to be friends with someone who has a completely different financial situation than you do.  I can't imagine that the two of you have much in common at this point.


pretty much NOTHING but weve been friends since middle school.. so I guess thats why I let it happen.

There is just SOO much shes screwed me over with and I wanna be done, but I guess its more like a habit. We talk EVERYDAY,  and yeah she pisses me off by saying these things but she really is one of my best friends but she doesnt understand that I am on a budget, a tight one at thta, that I need more than 3 hours to prepare for things, that I have responsibilities.


IF you want to keep the friendship, maybe you can meet her for a cup of coffee and have a really honest talk about how finances and different lifestyles are coming between you.  Let her know that you want to keep the friendship but the most you can do is (I don't really know, but for example) meet for coffee once a week - or whatever you know you can and want to do.  It seems like if you don't set the boundries this friendship will do nothing but aggravate you.

Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Jan. 18, 2013 at 1:07 PM

Actually you're talking to the wrong Anon, that wasnt me that you just quoted.

but FYI: No, shes single to so I dont know what Id have to be bitter about that.  Yes, we struggle but I have a reason to be proud of myself, and know that I WORK for what we have. :) I couldnt IMAGINE being used by little boys for my money. So I guess she has that to stress out over. She is a great friend, and so am I to her, it has nothing to do with money. I guess I just dont understand her financial choices, just as she doesnt understand mine, nor would I ever claim that I did understand it...


Quoting Anonymous:

LMFAO I sound bitter?!?! Lmao
Have you read your post? Youre calling your own friend a bitch and venting like a 5 year old because you're single and poor and she's single w/ no kids and living well and she used the wrong "sentence" to attemp to console you?

Ridiculous lmao
Quoting Anonymous:

Are you the out of touch friend? You sound bitter.

Quoting Anonymous:

Oh FFS -are you on your period?





Quit being so damn sensitive. That's ridiculous. She was TRYING to be empathetic so you wouldn't feel bad. She meant no harm. How petty



Quoting Anonymous:

2 kids....

There are things someone can say other than I know what you mean, or I  understand or damn that sucks for you.

How about "Im sorry you have to go through this" There are TONS of things she could say, she does know my financial stuff. We are just at the crossroads right now... if you knew the back story on some of it, maybe youd be a bit more understanding. but Im not going to post everything.

When you say  "I understand" and you DONT, it is lying...





Quoting Anonymous:

Um wtf else is she supposed to say? You would've been just as pissed had she replied with "damn, that's sucks for you!"







Why the hell would you vent to someone who is obviously financially stable and just expect her to know what to say? Call someone else to bitch about your poverty too, someone who can possibly relate.



I don't understand why women do shit like that.







And she asked you to go out with her maybe just to get you out the house. You are working 2 jobs, how is she supposed to know what you can and cannot spare? You're a single mom of 3 kids. Maybe she just wanted to get you out to relax and have some fun. You obviously are too damn uptight








ksueditz
by on Jan. 18, 2013 at 1:08 PM
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My bff is a working mom, I'm a sahm. Her family takes an expensive vacation every year, we go on a day trip to the zoo or waterpark. She and her dh go on a couple's vacation every year, my dh and I are lucky to go out to eat for our anniversary. She likes to go out shopping, going for drinks etc. I would rather stay home with my family. BUT she would reassure me if I told her we are having financial problems. As my BFF she would FIND the words.
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Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Jan. 18, 2013 at 1:10 PM


right? FFS. Okay, I wil lsay I made "poor choices" but those poor choices taught me how to be compassionate, honest and proud. And Id rather be in the shoes I am in right now than the shoes she is in. Jus' sayin!

Quoting Anonymous:


Quoting Anonymous:

Why are you mad at her because you made poor choices?

You know, i bet you are the same anon i see each time someone posts about being poor or single. 

how do you know her husband didnt die? 

how do you know she wasnt raped? 

how do you know it wasnt HIS poor choices? 

you have a very narrow veiw. 

pull your head out of your ass. 



Derpy
by on Jan. 18, 2013 at 1:10 PM
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I think sometime without her in contact would do you some good.Sounds like you need to rethink if you still want to be friends anymore.

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