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So scared of the future...not sure how we're going to make it!

Posted by on Jan. 18, 2013 at 1:39 PM
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Everything was going great. Then my husband got hurt. I stay home with our kids. We have a 9 year old who is in school, then 3, 2, and 1 year olds, and I'm due with our last child in May. My husband has tendonitis in both elbow areas, but in his left arm it is much worse and has gotten to the point that even picking up little things like a cup of coffee is incredibly painful for him. So he went to the doctor, was referred to a specialist and is now on light duty at work which has cut our income almost in half. Now the specialist says he's going to need cortizone shots and physical therapy to get back to normal for several months.

We're struggling already and now my DH's hours will be cut even further due to therapy. His company isn't known for keeping people with injuries like this--though they won't outright fire him they'll look for any little reason to let him go. He works oilfield.

I babysit on the side, but it's not a constant thing, just as needed. I also tutor on the side, but that might bring in an extra $100 a month. I think I should go back to work, but DH says no. It's been two years since I've had a job. And I'd have to work an evening or overnight shift so he could still work his job, which pays way better than anything I'd find. DH is worried that no one will hire me since I'm almost six months pregnant. I'm terrified we'll lose our insurance before this baby is born and suddenly have to pay everything out of pocket! I'm scared for my kids and my husband who I know is just as stressed and afraid as I am. We'll be getting money back on our taxes and we were planning on paying off some debts, but I think we'll just set it aside as a safety net now.

Any words of hope?

by on Jan. 18, 2013 at 1:39 PM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 on Jan. 18, 2013 at 1:41 PM
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Did you think it was a wise idea to have so many kids on one income unless of course your husband was pulling in six figures a year. Do you receive any type of PA?

Groove
by Silver Member on Jan. 18, 2013 at 1:42 PM
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i know it seems like doom in impending, but there are those who are a LOT worse off. Cut back some things in preparation for the cut hours. Go from cable to netflix. Scale back on the internet (high speed vs normal speed). Switch to prepaid phones (straight talk is unlimited for $45/mo).
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Eagle293
by Silver Member on Jan. 18, 2013 at 1:43 PM
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Can you try stepping up the babysitting maybe start a daycare. I do one and I only took two days from watching kids while in the hospital with my daughter then jumped right back in. So the parents weren't that inconvenienced. You could hire someone to stand in as well depending on you state regulations of course.
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audreesmama
by on Jan. 18, 2013 at 1:44 PM

Have you thought of working from home? I write and do personal assistant type stuff. 

Sorry mama. I hope something changes for you! 

                                       

othermom
by Ruby Member on Jan. 18, 2013 at 1:46 PM

Use coupons, cut back on any extras, sell unneeded things to bring in extra money. Look in to baby sitting more. Use a clothes line when the weather is nice, set you heat lower and ac higher in the summer. Buy clothes and things second hand.

Eagle293
by Silver Member on Jan. 18, 2013 at 1:46 PM
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Yeah because someone getting six figures won't get injured at work and loose income. And he'd probably be worse off because he'd be living more lavishly unless he was smart enough to save.


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Did you think it was a wise idea to have so many kids on one income unless of course your husband was pulling in six figures a year. Do you receive any type of PA?


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angevil53
by on Jan. 18, 2013 at 1:47 PM
Seriously i wouldn't let my dh tell me i can't work. His job isn't cutting it. You need to work to pay those bills. Waitress daycare anything will help more than nothing.
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2ltlmonkeyz
by on Jan. 18, 2013 at 1:47 PM

I am sorry :( Maybe more babysitting ? I am sure it will work out :)

Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Jan. 18, 2013 at 1:48 PM
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{{{hugs}}}

ignore the haters who question your personal decisions (re how many kids you have).  We've been through lots of rough times financially, and always somehow manage to get back on our feet.  I know the feeling of impending doom, so I get how you are feeling right now.  Try not to think too hard about what next week or next month might bring.  You can't change it.  Focus on today.  Goodluck. 

Anonymous
by Anonymous 3 on Jan. 18, 2013 at 1:48 PM
Way to be a douche


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Did you think it was a wise idea to have so many kids on one income unless of course your husband was pulling in six figures a year. Do you receive any type of PA?


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