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He is better than me because he WORKS!

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I have been dealing with this for way too long. 10 years to be exact.I have been a sahm since 2004. (my wishes as well as his)

He basically tells me that he is better than me because he works and I sit at home and play.

He goes and does whatever, whenever because its his money, that he earned. I do not need a break from the kids becausse I am home all day. What do I need a break from? The TV?

If I go anywhere, I better not spend much money, if any. And I have to take the kids.


I need a job. I have a college degree for crying out loud. Even if I do get a job, I will still have to come home and do all the things he claims he shouldnt have to do because he works!


(And when I was working oh so long ago, it didnt compare, because he worked hard. I was a daycare teacher, so I got to sit in the air conditioning and play with the kids)


I feel an inch tall today.  :(

Posted by Anonymous on Jan. 18, 2013 at 1:41 PM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Jan. 18, 2013 at 2:09 PM

I know. He really does. :(

Quoting bozobean:

This exactly! He should have a taste of his own medicine and know what it's like to be you for at least a week. Maybe longer, until he appreciates you. He's a complete asshole. He oppresses you, keeps you down and dependent on him, and then degrades you for being in the very situation he keeps you down in.

Quoting Anonymous:

All the chores and housework you do all day...stop doing them! Seriously, I would stop for a few days and see how he likes it! Go get the kids some damn chicken nuggets and let him fend for himself. I think I'm meaner than most people, so you maybe should not take my advice LOL...but he is an ass for saying that stuff to you!


Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Jan. 18, 2013 at 2:11 PM

I've mentioned this to him. He said fine, but you have to do my job for a day then. If he has to do mine to see what its like for me, he thinks I should go and do what he does, so I can see what its like for him.

Quoting Traci_Momof2:

I would say have him take 2 days vacation and he can stay home with the kids for two days straight and do all the things you do.  See how much "playing" he actually ends up doing.  He might then have a better appreciation for just how much work you really do.

He's totally taking advantage of you and everything you do for the family.  Don't let him get away with it.

**This is coming from a working mom.  Trust me, working to earn money is the easiest part of it all.


NiCo86
by on Jan. 18, 2013 at 2:11 PM
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 I don't understand women who are with men who are like that! My DH and I both work full-time, and we each do our part when it comes to the home. I cook 5 nights a week, he cooks 2 nights, I clean bedrooms, do laundry, bathrooms and general picking up after I get home from work, he does kitchen and dining room before he goes to work, and we do "cleaning" (dusting, vacuuming, scrubbing kitchen/bathroom) on our days off (we share one day off). We have a great balance where each of us puts in our effort.

I couldn't imagine it any other way.

Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Jan. 18, 2013 at 2:12 PM

This is how it should be. EQUAL!

Quoting NiCo86:

 I don't understand women who are with men who are like that! My DH and I both work full-time, and we each do our part when it comes to the home. I cook 5 nights a week, he cooks 2 nights, I clean bedrooms, do laundry, bathrooms and general picking up after I get home from work, he does kitchen and dining room before he goes to work, and we do "cleaning" (dusting, vacuuming, scrubbing kitchen/bathroom) on our days off (we share one day off). We have a great balance where each of us puts in our effort.

I couldn't imagine it any other way.


MrsCountryMama
by Platinum Member on Jan. 18, 2013 at 2:13 PM
Sounds like you need a break and he needs to learn to appreciate you!!!
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Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Jan. 18, 2013 at 2:14 PM

Exactly!

Quoting MrsCountryMama:

Sounds like you need a break and he needs to learn to appreciate you!!!


KME3
by Platinum Member on Jan. 18, 2013 at 2:15 PM
My EX had a similar attitude... Which is why he's an ex. I work part time and my bf works full time plus overtime and still helps me around the house, takes care of the kids and more...point being, if I had stayed with my ex I would never be this happy. I deserved a better life and I got it! Best wishes.
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Sassy762
by CAFE SASSY HBIC on Jan. 18, 2013 at 2:15 PM

There is so much wrong with this...where do I start?????

Get a job, save your money and then leave his Emotional Abusive ASS

MamaTwinkleA
by Silver Member on Jan. 18, 2013 at 2:16 PM
You should do it...then come home and bitch about every spec of dirt you see. Ive done that to dh...or he wondered once why shopping to so long. So I took him grocery shopping with our 21 month old around his nap time. Took us 2 hrs to get 6 items, but I get to go grocery shopping alone now :)


Quoting Anonymous:

I've mentioned this to him. He said fine, but you have to do my job for a day then. If he has to do mine to see what its like for me, he thinks I should go and do what he does, so I can see what its like for him.

Quoting Traci_Momof2:

I would say have him take 2 days vacation and he can stay home with the kids for two days straight and do all the things you do.  See how much "playing" he actually ends up doing.  He might then have a better appreciation for just how much work you really do.


He's totally taking advantage of you and everything you do for the family.  Don't let him get away with it.


**This is coming from a working mom.  Trust me, working to earn money is the easiest part of it all.



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gonecrazi
by Silver Member on Jan. 18, 2013 at 2:17 PM

 Don't let him make you feel that way. Your job as SAHM is very important,you are the one that keeps things going. What would happen if you went on strike.

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