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Is this abusive?

Anonymous
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When my son 3 year old acts up sometimes I grab his legs and hold using both of my hands and hold him upside down. He's over the bed and like a inch above it. I tell him to calm down and when he says yes I put him gently on the bed. Last I did this and he started laughing at me and calmed down. I don't want to spank him. The corner doesn't work all the time. I'm worried that I'm mentally disturbing him. I've only done this a few times.
Posted by Anonymous on Jan. 18, 2013 at 8:43 PM
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calvinsmommy18
by Gold Member on Jan. 18, 2013 at 8:44 PM
not sure its abusive but it wouldnt be my technique
2ltlmonkeyz
by on Jan. 18, 2013 at 8:44 PM

yeah idk about that, my Los would flip out for sure !

brittany208
by on Jan. 18, 2013 at 8:44 PM

lol no! I hold my DS upside down for fun!

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by Platinum Member on Jan. 18, 2013 at 8:45 PM
I don't think so, but my kids would think it was fun and get in trouble just so I would do it.
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smushy79
by Gold Member on Jan. 18, 2013 at 8:45 PM
It's a little messed up...I wouldn't do it.
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Jan. 18, 2013 at 8:45 PM
That isn't going to work. Your only going to make him more upset.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Jan. 18, 2013 at 8:46 PM
Call me weird but I always try to be careful with my kids psychologically. I over analyze what I do sometimes.
samanthastaatss
by on Jan. 18, 2013 at 8:47 PM

Totally normal. I do it all the time too. I don't like to spank either so I try my hardest to avoid it at ALL costs.

Quoting Anonymous:

Call me weird but I always try to be careful with my kids psychologically. I over analyze what I do sometimes.


Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Jan. 19, 2013 at 1:48 AM
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by on Jan. 19, 2013 at 1:50 AM

If he's laughing when you do it you are reinforcing bad behaviour.  

If he doesn't like it and is scared, freaked out, angered by it, then I think it is.  

In any case I think it is strange and you need a different strategy.

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