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Are you really DISABLED?

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So what do you consider acceptable disorder or illness in order to qualify for disability? I ask bc for years I denied the fact that I was ill. I kept saying I can get an job and keep it and when I ended up in the hospital for it bc my health issues got bad. I finally realized I couldn't do it anymore. Today I got my first help applying for disability and I sometiems feel like I don't deserve help thanks to my ex h's words. And yet I know working is physically impossible at this time and admitting that really hurt. But you can only live in denial for so long. (Title is to get you to read this)
Posted by Anonymous on Jan. 18, 2013 at 9:17 PM
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Lunarprancer
by Betsy on Jan. 18, 2013 at 9:28 PM

Hold on, I'll get on my computer...

Quoting mariesmama:



Quoting Lunarprancer:

http://askjan.org/media/aspe.htm

Quoting mariesmama:

im not, my hubby has aspergers  he's gotten fired from every job because of it can people with aspergers keep work, probably , just not him  even we dont know why


can you make that clicky?



With light and love

Anonymous
by Anonymous 4 on Jan. 18, 2013 at 9:30 PM

You are not "USING" the system, you will draw SS off of what YOU paid into it over the years. It is hard to admit that you can't work and support yourself, but you have to do what you have to do. Social Security is not PA, so don't let anyone bully you saying your drawing from their taxes or whatever.

A dr of the SS offices will see you and he will write his review, also the dr you see for the main disablity will write their review. Most people do get denied the first time, you just appeal and then you should be approved. GL

AubreeGrace17
by Platinum Member on Jan. 18, 2013 at 9:31 PM
I'm not sure. There are such a large variety of circumstances that I can't limit my answer. I guess a good example of someone who shouldn't receive it would be my SO's uncle. He has a bachelors degree and had a good job before he lose his leg. He worked a desk job his whole life and he could easily work. Its just in his personality to mooch.
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Lunarprancer
by Betsy on Jan. 18, 2013 at 9:32 PM

 http://askjan.org/media/aspe.htm

Quoting mariesmama:

 

 

Quoting Lunarprancer:

http://askjan.org/media/aspe.htm

Quoting mariesmama:

im not, my hubby has aspergers  he's gotten fired from every job because of it can people with aspergers keep work, probably , just not him  even we dont know why


can you make that clicky?

 

 

With light and love

Lunarprancer
by Betsy on Jan. 18, 2013 at 9:38 PM

 http://askjan.org/indiv/index.htm

Quoting mariesmama:

 

 

Quoting Lunarprancer:

http://askjan.org/media/aspe.htm

Quoting mariesmama:

im not, my hubby has aspergers  he's gotten fired from every job because of it can people with aspergers keep work, probably , just not him  even we dont know why


can you make that clicky?

 

 

With light and love

LucyHarper
by on Jan. 18, 2013 at 9:46 PM

Any disability that keeps you from being able to practically hold a job, despite the persons best efforts. For example if someone has a disability that causes them to randomly be in the hospital frequently, so they can't commit to a job schedule, if someone physically can't do a job, like if someone is missing their arms and legs, or if someone is mentally unable to do a job, like if someone has Alzheimer's or a mental disability. My cousin has FAS which causes him to suffer from mental retardation, when he gets older (he's 12 now), he will be able to hold a simple job, such as custodial work as a super market or as a busboy, but he will never be able to get a job that will be able to support himself and his medical bills, he can't handle large amounts of cash, he can't do more than basic addition and subtraction, he can't read above a second grade level, so he will need some sort of assistance. My husband received disability for a short amount of time. He was in a fire and received third degree burns on 10% of his body, so he had skin grafts, and he almost lost his leg, it was over a year and a half before he was able to walk unassisted. There are jobs he could do without being able to walk on his own, as soon as he was able he got back to work, doing a desk job until he was able to do physical labor again, but it was a while before he was practically able to do any kind of work, because he had to wait for his skin grafts to heal. He was an emancipated minor so jobs were limited to start with. When he was able to work again, he did.

mariesmama
by on Jan. 18, 2013 at 9:49 PM


thank you it explains why he keeps losing jobs And says he should qualify for ssi or ssdi

Quoting Lunarprancer:

 http://askjan.org/indiv/index.htm

Quoting mariesmama:



Quoting Lunarprancer:

http://askjan.org/media/aspe.htm

Quoting mariesmama:

im not, my hubby has aspergers  he's gotten fired from every job because of it can people with aspergers keep work, probably , just not him  even we dont know why


can you make that clicky?


 



FL2AK
by on Jan. 18, 2013 at 9:53 PM
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Google Social Security Blue Book. It has the disabilities and eligibility criteria for each in order to get SSI and SSDI.
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Jan. 18, 2013 at 10:14 PM
The posts here are interesting. I would never judge someone for getting disability but have realized I am judging myself for it. I have kidney failure due to lupus sle and I also have cancer. But my main problem is chronic pain sends my stress through the roof and I get infections all the time. Last time I was hospitalized twice in one month.My last job I was working at an health food store and I collapsed and my chest hurt so bad. Turns out lupus complications can almost kill you. I didn't have cancer at my last job but in the past 2 months I was dianosed. This being on top of lupus makes it impossible for me to work. I feel ashamed to say it but it is time to admit I need to rest and not work.
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 5 on Jan. 18, 2013 at 10:17 PM

A couple more beers and I will be for the night lol

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