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Are you really DISABLED?

Posted by Anonymous   + Show Post
So what do you consider acceptable disorder or illness in order to qualify for disability? I ask bc for years I denied the fact that I was ill. I kept saying I can get an job and keep it and when I ended up in the hospital for it bc my health issues got bad. I finally realized I couldn't do it anymore. Today I got my first help applying for disability and I sometiems feel like I don't deserve help thanks to my ex h's words. And yet I know working is physically impossible at this time and admitting that really hurt. But you can only live in denial for so long. (Title is to get you to read this)
Posted by Anonymous on Jan. 18, 2013 at 9:17 PM
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by Anonymous 12 on Jan. 18, 2013 at 11:01 PM

Yeah I have clients at work that are better off then my DH and they get SSI. It just makes absolutly no sense as to how they determine if you are "approved" or not. Very frustrating..

Quoting Anonymous:

Wow I have heard worries like this but man it hits my heart everytime. :/ That is a load of bull. I don't understand why my sister got it for years and she isn't sick and your dh cant. I'm sorry

Quoting Anonymous:

SSI and SSDI are a joke... My dh has been trying to get "approved" for over 2 years now, now we are on the year and a half wait list for a hearing. They consider him not disabled because he could technically be a wal-mart greeter, they only consider your previous income if you are over 55, otherwise you have to take a crap pay job. Sorry but we can't live on a $8.80/hour job when he was making $30/hour. Total crap. He can't do anything normal that he used to do. No mowing the lawn, dishes, laundry, he lost his job because he was hurt on the job and never recovered. Thank god we paid for extended long term disability through his work, he has been approved for that disability until he's 65. That's a very long time considering he's only 36.

I'm gald that you are getting the help you need and I pray that you are approved with much less of a hassle then it has been for my DH

by Platinum Member on Jan. 18, 2013 at 11:02 PM
Thank you! Hopefully once I'm approved, i can get a seizure dog to help, since I'm a single mom. People always think I'm faking it because I'm 18 and have a toddler, but it's just about making it work. When i can't walk, we crawl around all day like a game, lol.

Quoting Anonymous:

Good luck. !!! Hope you get it.

Quoting kit_manson:

I can't walk sometimes, i hurt everywhere, and i get frequent seizures, among other symptoms. I'm in the prices of applying for disability.

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by Platinum Member on Jan. 18, 2013 at 11:03 PM

Eventually I will have to apply for disability. I have Fibromyaglia, Rheumatoid Arthritis and diabetes.

I also have hypothyroidism, an Iron defiency disorder, allergies and asthma but they're not considered to be disabilities.

by Anonymous 14 on Jan. 18, 2013 at 11:05 PM

 Down syndrome with severe heart problems and Autism. That is what my dd gets it for.

by Silver Member on Jan. 18, 2013 at 11:06 PM


lol.... My daughter gets SSI for she has Pseudohypoparathyroidism, hypothyroidism and growth hormone def. she's developmentally delayed and speech impaired... 

I can't apply even though I should bc of her getting it... I was in a very severe car accident which I have the pics to prove... and I now have horrible carpal tunnel in both hands, 4 dislocated virtabraes in my neck/uppper back area, and my knees now have issues... but I do work from hom on the computer.... 

by on Jan. 18, 2013 at 11:17 PM
I use to get SSI because I have Tourettes Syndrome, not real bad, just mild, however not one single employer would give me the chance to prove myself worthy of having a job and living a normal life, society dashed my dreams and held me back, i filed for SSI and was approved for it a year and a half later. And for those that are going to say I didnt try hard enough, i tried every day, 5 days a week for 10 damn yrs. Not even McDonalds would hire me and they hire every one! I started college in 1999, earned my associates in Criminal Justice in 2001. And thanks to a teacher who had considerable pull with the local DOC, he was able to convince the county that I was worthy enough to have the right to work, i got hired as an intake specialist and worked for 10 1/2 yrs when I finally had to take medical retirement due to moderate Rheumatoid Arthritis. I worked a year and a half after my dx and finally realized my body just cant do it anymore, my RA is so bad I can barely walk most days without getting exhausted. I now draw SSDI and a small union pension. I hate being on it which is why i am in college again to finish out my Cj degree and a minor in social services.
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by Anonymous 15 on Jan. 18, 2013 at 11:49 PM

If you hire a lawyer they make sure it is filed properly. In most cases with a lawyer it gets approved the first time . ( of course if there is a real disability )  My DH was approved the first time .

You don't have to pay the lawyer out of pocket. They simply take their amount from your check(s)  

Quoting Anonymous:

Most get denied first time. My friend who has it told me this. Hope she gets it this time!

Quoting Anonymous:

My mom got fired from her job because of a disability. She was denied for ssi, but she's reapplying.

by on Jan. 19, 2013 at 12:47 AM

he got fired last weekend he's been sick and so has our 3 yr old

Quoting Anonymous:

I am sorry your husband went through that. :( I have a few friends with Aspergers. Some successful at ions others not so much. It is hard. Can he find work now?

Quoting mariesmama:

im not, my hubby has aspergers  he's gotten fired from every job because of it can people with aspergers keep work, probably , just not him  even we dont know why

by Anonymous 13 on Jan. 19, 2013 at 12:49 AM
I don't want people thinking I'm using the system, I did get off it and yeah I'm really struggling to work but I just don't know.

Quoting Anonymous:

Why don't you want it?

Quoting Anonymous:

I'm in no way trying to get bashed, I used to get SSDI I used to have seizures all the time around 15 they quit. But I have kidney disease, heart defect, and many other "minor" problems. I have held jobs before for more then 3 months. 3 months seems to be the longest I can handle a job. Mostly because of how demanding they can be, I've done mostly retail. Anyways I even tried school parttime and that didn't end well either. I fought with my mom for years that I didn't need to go back on it, but now I'm just stuck. If I get a job i'm to exhausted to care for my child, if I go to school I'm too busy with everything else going on that my classes fail. So I just don't know what to do, to please my mother I applied for social security and everyone has asked me why I don't get it but I just don't want it.

by Silver Member on Jan. 19, 2013 at 12:57 AM
I have a lung condition and a nuerogical condition and traumatic brain injury.

For me if I work my home life falls apart because it is too much for my body.

I desperately want to work
And could work a small
Amount and still get disability, but finding a job That I can do has been hard.

Makes it tuff cus if you look at me I look
Fine, but I am not. I have gotten accused if faking it before.

But, I would do anything to be able to not be disabled and to be able to work.
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