I called him out on it today. His friend has been going through a hard time, hes divorcing his wife giving her everything if she wont fight him for spilt custody. Hes been coming over every day. Our DD is so attached to him.(he has a DD with his wife a few months older than our DD) I think hes using her to cope with not having his DD. I find that he buys groceries and leaves them there. I had to count out change today to get wipes and tortillas. He saw me and hes like Ill give you 10 bucks for all that change. I said no, you need to keep your money to get a place. Hubby walks up behind him and says HELL YES and grabbed the 10 from his hand! He and hubby are gone all the time together. If hubby will drive him somewhere(so he doesnt have to be alone) he will fill our tank. He gave hubby his camper to get a quad. I told him he might as well ask him to move into our bed and Ill take the couch because it seems like hes your sugar Daddy. He laughed! I never have alone time with hubby his friend is ALWAYS there! Its awkward. I dont WANT his money, hes going through a rough time and I dont want him being generous thinking thats the only way for him to be here. Thats how his ex was he always had to give her money when she didnt work because she rakes in CS. He thinks I dont like him, its not that hes not a nice guy. I just want him to see that I DONT want him to think he has to pay his way for every little thing, even friendship. So hubby isnt really taking it in the ass but emotionally... I feel a little abandoned.