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Does the discussion of whether couples wish to have kids come up prior to getting married?

Anonymous
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OR DID IT GO DOWN WITH THE TITANIC?

I was just wondering why women get married and later on are arguing with their husbands because he either doesn't want to have kids right away or not at all. 

I talked to two women recently about this. Both were unhappy with their husbands.

Posted by Anonymous on Jan. 19, 2013 at 9:16 AM
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lifeisajoy
by Platinum Member on Jan. 19, 2013 at 9:17 AM

We discussed this BEFORE marriage

KimberlyDoll
by on Jan. 19, 2013 at 9:18 AM
We discussed it before getting married.
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SunshineBird
by on Jan. 19, 2013 at 9:19 AM

We talked before marriage and surprisingly neither of us wanted children. Now we have two and couldn't be happier to have been wrong. 

rcmama10
by Bronze Member on Jan. 19, 2013 at 9:19 AM
We both made it clear that we wanted children from the start, i don't think i could ever be with someone who doesn't want children.
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CampClan
by Platinum Member on Jan. 19, 2013 at 9:20 AM

I knew a couple who dated for the longest time & she wanted kids but he didn't & they ended up getting married. She thought with time he would change his mind. Well that wasn't the case & they divorced. NOW several years later he has a new wife & 3 kids with her. And the woman he divorced? She remarried & found out she is not able to have kids.

Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Jan. 19, 2013 at 9:20 AM
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We did, too. I just don't understand why a woman would want to put herself in a position that will compromise her happiness.

Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Jan. 19, 2013 at 9:21 AM

 

LOL what a wonderful story. I'm happy that it all worked out.

Quoting SunshineBird:

We talked before marriage and surprisingly neither of us wanted children. Now we have two and couldn't be happier to have been wrong. 


 

Roxygurl
by Emerald Member on Jan. 19, 2013 at 9:22 AM
It's an ongoing discussion with us, we are getting married in a few months and we both want more kids we just haven't decided on how many we want.
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audreesmama
by on Jan. 19, 2013 at 9:22 AM
Some discuss it and change their minds later on.
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Jan. 19, 2013 at 9:22 AM
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I think it's important to discuss this soon into dating. Why waste your time with someone who doesn't see eye to eye with you on something this big?

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