Dd is driving me nuts. She'll be 5 in two weeks. Somewhere along the way, we raised a difficult child.
She doesn't demand toys at the store, and she's great about sharing and taking turns, but she does demand things be done *her* way. I don't understand the sense of entitlement though, because unless it's made clear from the get-go that her choices mean a damn, she never gets a say! This child does not pick where we go, what we eat, etc, so it's not like we've given her the idea that she gets to make any real decisions about our household. Not to say she never gets to decide anything, but it's more like, if we're going to watch a movie, she gets to pick which one (and usually out of a selection).
If we tell her to hurry up because she's late for school or dance class, she yells back to "stop talking to her" and then starts wailing. Loud, siren-like wails. Same thing if we tell her to try to go potty. Or to do anything. It takes everything to stop myself from "giving her a reason to cry."
What do I do? Ignoring it only turns the sirens into blood-curdling screams. Spanking turns the sirens into screams. I lose the yelling matches (she's louder than me). Tossing her out the window would probably alert the neighbors.
We try reasoning with her after she's calmed down and explaining that while she can cry all she pleases, she may not do so at such a high volume. She agrees, but then it happens again.
Punishing her by taking toys away doesn't impact her. At that split second, she's really pissed off, but 5 seconds later, the toy doesn't matter. Toss it, for all she cares....she's got an imagination to entertain herself with.
I am pregnant and very worried about this continuing after baby arrives. And as much as I'd like to blame the realization that there's an impending sibling on this behavior, it's been going on long before the newest bun hopped in the oven. Wits end here. Please help.